HI, just looking for any info/advice that might be helpfull.Me and my girl are both going to prison soon.1st time offenders at level 32 for sentencing.The plea was for 70-87 months each .Up to the judge but eligible for supervised release after 3-5.She is pregnant with my child due march 12.Dont know if i can even be there wherever that may be when the child is born.My mother has agreed to take the child but dont even know how to go about getting all that done.I am hoping to go to duluth ,if anybody knows anything about that prison would be nice.There are no federal prisons for woman in mn so i dont know where she would go .We are planning on gettin married b4 we go in ,dont know if that is good idea or not.Im supposing not but will we have to go these years without even getting to talk to each other or can we write to each other.If anyone has any advice or suggestions would greatly appreciate it

I REALLY HAVE NO ADVICE BUT I WANT TO OFFER YOU MY PRAYERS AND GOOD THOUGHTS.GOOD LUCK TO THE BOTH OF YOU

I cant say for sure, but it seems that from the people I talk to they can only get permission to write if there related in some way. If your not married then chances are you wont be able to write. You have a better chance of getting that permission if you both can prove to the prison your related. I knew of someone in your situation and I had to get a copy of his marriage license and send it in to him.

The only way here in IA that you can be in contact w/ another inmate in another facility, is if it's approved by the wardens and counselors of the facility. Sometimes not even if you're married. You can have your mom pass on messages, but be careful w/ that, b/c if the prison has a problem with it, they can revoke her rights of coming to visit and writing. You could always call on the house phone and your girl call on the cell phone and your mom can put them together so you can talk. These are only suggestions. I've had friends do them and they've worked. I'd just be very careful. I wish you the best of luck and you and your fiance/wife will be in my prayers.

Welcome to PTO! You're going to want to post this in the federal forum as their rles are different than the states and the folks dealing with the federal system will know your answers.... Just scroll down the first page of PTO til you get to federal.... Good luck with whatever ends up happening and stay strong...

Deb

I am not sure how your state works, but I just went through the same thing in Kentucky. I was able to write to him, but he couldn't write to me. Of course we weren't married. I think here that would have made a difference if we were. I hope that things work out for you both. All I can say is that true love endures all obstacles and that if you guys really love each other you will get through it. I know that it must be hard with her fixing to have a baby, but at least your mom is willing to take the baby. If the states are the same all she will have to do is go to the court house and get a temporary custody order where you and your girlfriend sign gardianship over to her until such time you are released. It keeps you from having to sign custody over to her completely, but gives her the authority to be the child's gardian while the two of you are away. If they won't let you guys write this is what I did, but you have to be careful. You can send your mail to someone on the outside and have them put it in a different envelope and send it in to you. Just make sure not to say anything about being locked up and don't put your name in the letter. If you have to the two of you can decide on a nickname for each other to use in place of your names in the letters. I know if you are anything like my man and I were then you will do whatever it takes to stay in contact. Well I am not going to write a book, but if you have anymore questions I will try to help the best I can. Good luck to you and your girlfriend. I will keep you in my prayers.

I am not sure but I hope all works out well for you and your new family!

I really dont have advice to give you, other then the fact i wish you guys luck, and hope your safe wherever you go. That was sooo nice of your mom to accept the child into her life like that, while you guys are away. What a blessing to have a mother like that.

I don't have much advice but I think you two can write to each other I was told co defendants write to each other but I think they have to get permission. I wish you and your love one the best stay strong keep your head up and think positive regardless.

JJ
Sugestions; just that.
1.) take care of baby, this means no bs in your life. Put nose to grindstone, read a whole lot of books and be a dad.
2.) space, give her the time to think. Write and be pleasant, gentle and nice. Nothing else; no promise; nothing.
3.) Wait, do nothing for her. Wait until the time comes for you to show what it takes to beat the system. You are ready to beat the system arn't you?
4.) re-read number one.
Love will find a way, a way in or a way out. joey

Are you going to federal prison? If so then inmate to inmate mail is prohibited unless you are related or married. You will have to get permission from each institution. You cannot write a co-defendant unless you current legal issues on-going in the court. State facilities I have no idea. I hope this helps a little bit.

You Can Three Way Letters To Each Other Just Write A Letter To Your Mom And Have Her Mail It With Her Return Address On It That's What I Did With My Man And I Do It Now With Other Inmates In There With My Man He Sends Me All The Guys Letters In His Pod And They Put The Name And Address On Top And I Get It Mail It To The Female And The Female Inmate Mails It Back To Me And I Put It In My Mans Letter And He Gives Them Out To The Other Guys After The Co Leaves It Takes Alot Of Work But If Its Love Then Its Worth Every Second Of It

My husband is in a federal prison. He obtained the policy statement that stated that permission could be obtained by both prisons for communication of relatives and codefendents. You just have to request permission. It would be easier if you were married.

OH MY GOD. THIS IS A SAD SITUATION. I PRAY THAT YOU TWO FIND A WAY TO COMMUNICATE WITH EACH OTHER WHILE INCARCERATED.