I COULD USE SOME HELP MY BOYFRIEND MIKE (29) IS CURRENTLY INCARCERATED AND HE HAS A BAD DRUG PROBLEM AND HE THINKS THAT WHEN HE GETS OUT IN 4 MONTHS THAT HE WILL NOT BE ABLE TO CHANGE AND THAT HE WILL GO BACK TO HIS OLD WAY I AM OUT OF THINGS TO SAY TO HIM COULD SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME YOU CAN EITHER PM ME OR MESSAGE ME HERE .*email deleted by moderator*
I AM IN DESPERATE NEED OF HELP THANK YOU
P.S I HAVE NEVER USED EXCEPT FOR MARIJUANA SO I DON'T KNOW WHAT HE IS GOING THROUGH

hey girl-
it is francis....you didn't tell me that part,yet=}

if he is not ready, no one can make him...which is hard, and sad...

so you have to ask yourself, do you want a relationship with a drug addict? usually drug addicts are not in their right mind when loaded, they usually are not emotionally available because of the drugs...plus all the trouble that comes with drugs...

drugs lead to misery, usually!!!
i havn't met anyone yet that could say drugs worked for them!
have you tried al-anon...
i feel for you, it is very rough being involved with a drug addict..
francis

Amanda-

I am sorry to hear that he is struggling so hard with his addictions. I am a recovering addict and so is my husband. Girl it is a hard thing to go through and he will need as much love and support that you can give him. BUT you need to set boundries cuz if he isn't gonna quit then he isn't gonna quit. You can't make him only love him and encourage him. My prayers are with you sweetie.

Love
Becki

Amanda- As hard as this is, there is nothing that you can do to make your boyfriend quit using. As others have said, he has to want to do it himself. Until he gets to that point, he is going to continue to do what he wants to do.
Like Francis said-have you tried Alanon?
You can love him like crazy, but that is about all u can do unfortunately. Just remember to take care of yourself! This is a hard road you are travelling, but we are all here to help you in any way that we can.

he will change if he wants to change. even though prisons & such are dropping alot of programs..he is still able to get some sort of help. try sending him an AA & or NA big book..one thing you MIGHT consider (once he gets out)...if you see he is falling back into old bahavior & or hanging out w/the same old people he use to (prior to incarceration)...try an intervention. if you look in your phone book they should have an 800 # for AA, or NA...there is always someone at the other end of the phone. and i know for a fact that they sign up people to be on like stand by JUST IN CASE someone is in trouble...(although your in canada..not sure if its like how it is out here in cali). but, i recommend you dont force him to do something he doesnt want to..because it will not only be a waste of time & money..he will most likely need to hit "rock bottom"...and once that happens, hopefully he will see that HE needs to get the help HE needs... good luck..but just let him know that you are there to support him...

also, look into al-anon meetings. they will help you.

melissa