Okay my fiance is in jail right now the only one who can help me and this guy I dated 10 years ago and had a child with which i had to give up for adoption because i was only fifteen and couldn't raise a child. He was released from prison in Kentucky on the 23rd of this month. Nobody will tell me where he went or with whom he is staying so that i can have the restraining order served, the reason being this whole time he was in prison he would call and if we answer the phone he would make threats that he will find me and kill me and then go get our child, and he did this with using three way so we wouldn't know that it was from the prison or we would have never answered it can anyone please, please, please tell me how i find out this information or what i can do, i live in indiana and they won't help me unless he attacks me first.
I am very scared right now

Well, first I'd call the parole office in the town or county he was released in to see if he's on parole. If he is, tell them of the threats and the PO there should get him on a short rope. He won't be allowed to leave the state if he's on parole. It's too bad you didn't turn him in to the prison while he was still inside. But since you probably didn't, just hope he's on parole because then his PO will communicate to him in no uncertain terms that he's not to leave the state or try to act on his threats to you.

:) Hi, I would like to welcome you to PTO. This is a great place to come to . People hear will listen and try to help if any way possible.

I agree with what Toi said. Call the Parole office he paroled out to. They will help you find out who is officer is. Then call his parole officer and tell him your concern.

But, first and foremost your safety is important. I don't know know if the State Parole office is closed or open tomorrow being New yeas eve. So, go someplace safe and stay until you know your out of danger. Don't go anyplace alone.

Your safety is the most important thing.

Kathy

Unfortunately he served out his time and when i called the prison the lady couldn't tell me anything other than he asked for a bus ticket to a location that could not be diclosed to me, i then called the police station to see if they could help me and there response was if he makes contact then call us, i am afraid that it going to be a contact that won't go very well if it does happen

You could always go to a woman's shelter... They do have legal advocates that work to ensure your safety.... ((hugs)) and stay safe...

Deb

i already tried the womens shelter they can't take me in until he makes contact but they did give me a cell phone that is programmed to dial 911 only just in case. I swear this town i live in sucks sometimes.

Thank you so much from all of you that have helped me, I greatly appreciate it no words can describe how thankful i am, a lady at the courts where i tried to get a restraining order and stalking order today is helping me a great deal. and this is all possible from the advice that was given to me. thank you again, I cried for awhile because i never thought i would find anything of where he might be and when he was released so thanks a bunch again, my hope has been restored, i am hoping that things work out and go right.

The help is there. You just have to know where to find it and then reach out for it. That little cell phone they gave you is great. Just be sure to use it.

Now, all these steps you're taking are the wisest and safest thing to do, but there's a good chance he won't even try to come and bother you. He probably doesn't know your man is in jail right now, and that's in your favor. If he does contact you, don't tell him where your man is-----pretend that he's due home or is at home or something like that and then contact the shelter and go there.

mrscrazyt137-I PM'd you. He was released after serving out, on 12/25/03 at 9AM from EKC, the eastern part of Kentucky.
A serve out usually means, (but not always), they are not on paper.
I have sent you the phone number to call in Frankfort that will listen to you and document your fears.
Because of confidentiality, they probably wont release any info to you, however, in the event he is under any kind of supervision, perhaps by contacting them and also relaying your fears to them, they will get the message to them.
Restraining Orders are good to let the judicial system know that you have done something, however, they do NOT keep you safe.
Perhaps if you have a friend or relative you can stay with if there are any he doesnt know.
If that isnt an option for you definitely a Safe House or a Womens Shelter.
Not sure what city you are in, however, if it is a big one, there usually is a Domestic Violence Hotline you also could call.
They could provide you with other referrals that might help you.
If possible I would also change your phone number to a non pub, so he cant contact you again.
Frankfort will be open tomorrow. I urge you to call that number and get your complaint documented.
Remember Hope is a good thing, it springs life eternal.

Forgot to tell you, I also will check with my husband on our visit tomorrow, if there is anyone he is in contact with still at KSP. Perhaps if there are, this will give you more info as to his whereabouts. Of course he will do it discreetly.
Remember Hope is a good thing, it springs life eternal.

I pray your safe and with peace of mind. Let me know how your doing. I have a friend that might be able to help if you
feel your still in fear. God Bless

They still have not found anything other than a p.o. box number he left as a address with the prison, we spoke to the chief deputy sheriff there and he said he would find a physical address for him but he has done absolutely nothing so i don't know what to do now.

mrscrazyt137
Have you checked the net for an address? Are there any relatives or friends of his that you could contact to find out? What about any organizations,clubs he might belong to or go to?
My husband knows of no-one at KSP he is in contact with.
Have you heard anything directly from him,since he was released?
Since all of this time has passed, if you havent, perhaps you are safe for now anyway.
I would think he would have already made his move, if he was going to by now.
Remember Hope is a good thing, it springs life eternal.

mrscrazyt137~ I wish you the best of luck. I am going through the same as you in a way. I have a restraining order/protective order against my sons biological father. In fact, right now, he has 2 warrants out for his arrest for violating the no contact order. He calls and makes threats to me. I'm terrified of him. I've expressed to the judge, my atty, the police, etc...just how fearful I am of him. It's like I have to wait for him to hurt me in order for anything to be done. Why aren't they looking for him w/ the warrants? I don't know. One night he busted out our picture window w/ a huge rock. It shattered all over the place. My son was home w/ my mom when this happened. I've talked to my atty regarding this. He can be charged w/ terrorism, child endangerment b/c my son was in the house, trespassing, etc...the list goes on. Are the cops doing anything? Nope. He hasn't hurt me yet.
I'm not going to tell you that your ex isn't coming after you. He may be giving it time, so you'll let your guard down. DON'T DO IT!! Keep your guard up at all times.ALWAYS be aware of your surroundings. More than likely he will contact you when you are least expecting it. He's flexing his muscles by doing this. If he calls don't talk to him, let him tell you it's him and hang up. Call the police right away. File a report and if he's not there, a warrant will be issued for his arrest. I'm living this. I've been living it for the last 2 1/2 yrs and I don't think it's ever going to stop. One day, all of his BS will catch up w/ him~ I hope. My ex doesn't know my man is in prison, and I'd never tell him. He couldn't say anything if I did, b/c he's an ex-con himself. He can kiss my as*!
Keep your cell phone on you at all times. If he shows up, don't open the door, keep your windows locked, lock your car doors while you'r driving, etc...
I wish you the best and I know it's not comforting. If you ever need to talk, you can PM me. I know what it's like to live in fear everyday. I'll help you in any way that I can.

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