View Full Version : 3 Months Home - And Loving Every Minute of It!


danielle
12-21-2003, 10:27 AM
I know I haven't been around much lately and believe me when I say I miss you guys! PTO is where my heart is and I love this place. I can't believe how she just keeps growing and growing!

For those that don't know me, my husband Wayne came home on September 22nd. He'd been incarcerated for almost 22 months in the state of Alabama and that was the most miserable time of my life. I found PTO about 3 months after he'd left and my PTO "family" was with me virtually every step of the way.

PTO and I went through the parole revocation, one transfer after another, Hepatitis C diagnosis (for both Wayne and me), a parole hearing, and finally Wayne's very early release.

Tomorrow will be 3 months since he's been home and it's been an amazing journey. I think I've had every single emotion possible - from joy to anger from happiness to misery. But most of all, I've experienced a surge in the love I feel for this remarkable man of mine.

Wayne has a job and his boss lets him miss when he's exhausted (from the Hep C and treatment). His boss is a wonderful and caring individual and is a blessing in our life.

He's staying drug free, which is also a miracle in itself. This has been the hardest battle of all but the reward is so very, very sweet.

Maybe because he's been in prison before or maybe just because of his personality, the transition home was a lot smoother than I expected. He still tends to isolate himself when there's a crowd around. At Thanksgiving, for example, he disappeared to a back bedroom and watched TV - rather than socializing with my family.

I know we all hear the horror stories from when our loved ones come home. Sometimes we wonder if we're wasting our time or if they'll ever changed. The time I spent waiting on Wayne was well spent and he's changed and so have I - for the better. We wonder, "Does it ever work out?" Well, I'm here to tell you that it does work out. We do stay together and we do pick up the pieces.

Never lose hope and never lose faith. The road home isn't easy but nothing worth having ever really is.

**HUGS** and Merry Christmas! :)

J'sGrl
12-21-2003, 10:35 AM
Congrats to you and your husband! It's great to read success stories and I'm so very happy for both, you and Wayne.
Happy Holidays to you and those you hold dear!

-Susanne-

Hilde Bogaerts
12-21-2003, 11:52 AM
i love reading things like this!!!! there is hope, I am glad....and I hope you have a GREAT XMAS and heavenly new year...all of you...hey what a great boss has your husband!!! GGGeeeezzzzz he deserves a Xmas card and hug...Wow! thanks for writing this down for us....I loved reading it so much!!

deb
12-21-2003, 12:10 PM
I'm glad things are going well for you guys.... Happy Holidays! ENJOY!!

Deb

FriscoLady
12-21-2003, 02:52 PM
Danielle,

I am so happy that things are going well for you two.

Merry Christmas and a Blessed New Year!

Patti

BrandNewGirl
12-21-2003, 08:14 PM
Merry Christmas Danielle and Wayne! I can't wait until I can post a thread topic like this for Brandon and I!! Thanks for giving us all out here waiting hope for the future.


BG

Valerie
12-21-2003, 08:36 PM
Merry Christmas Danielle and Wayne. Glad things are going so well for you.

ToughTimes
12-21-2003, 11:57 PM
FINALLY -- a success story, and oh how this site needs that!! Congrats to you both, and Merriest of Christmases!!! :D

KRIS_NC
12-22-2003, 10:25 AM
ITS WONDERFUL TO HEAR THAT YOU AND WAYNE ARE DOING SO WELL. YOU BOTH DESERVE ALL THE HAPPINESS. HAPPY HOLIDAYS TO YOU AND YOURS

BlueLily
12-22-2003, 12:01 PM
Merry Christmas and I am so happy to hear you guys are doing so well.

Blessings,
BlueLily

candy
12-22-2003, 04:05 PM
I am so happy that things are going well for you! Christmas Day will be my man 1 month anniversary of coming home. My son is also home from college for Christmas. I have all my men home with me now!! This is going to be the best Christmas ever! I have to agree with you about the isolation part. My man will not be around my family either for the holidays. He actually never did like to be around crowds before he went to prison either. Enjoy your Christmas!!

CET
12-22-2003, 08:26 PM
That is great to hear Danielle! I'm not surprised he retreats to watch football on TV rather than socialize with family. I'm sure he's going thru a lot of "culture shock" and also might be avoiding questions from some folks.

orange_ladybug
12-24-2003, 12:59 AM
Congratulations. I'm happy for you both. Merry Christmas.

Manzanita
01-16-2004, 06:55 PM
How Great!!!!!!!!!

j2sq
01-17-2004, 07:56 PM
yes! this is a happiness/hope thread and i looooooooooooooooove it! :D thanks for the great encouraging words!

KellyNMelton
01-17-2004, 07:58 PM
congrats to you!!!!

Flowerchild
01-17-2004, 10:10 PM
I'm so glad that this post came back up because I missed it the first time. This sure is good to hear, Monica, it sounds like you are growing together & bonding even closer.

I'm praying that you both are quickly restored to perfect health. Please keep us updated!

Positive thoughts to you both…

Adrienne

Sadie80
01-31-2004, 09:09 PM
Thank you so much for sharing your story. This definatley gives me up for our future together.

babieboo
02-02-2004, 04:04 PM
Thank you for sharing...truly inspiring for the rest of us...Congratulations on his coming home and i wish you two the best.

babygirlgrownup
02-17-2004, 04:32 PM
Congrats on your hubby's homecoming!!
what a wonderful story....let's me know that there can be a pot of gold at the end of this jailhouse rainbow!! :)

BOsPiece
03-01-2004, 11:30 AM
The pot of gold depends on the man, his issues, and what that man wants to do with his life, and with his wife. Some of us get a pot of gold, some get a pot of shit -- I got a pot of shit but ain't hatin cause I'm a lovah -- I'm lovin your story, and I'm lovin that you got yourself a pot of gold!! Go on wit ya bad self!! (smile)