Howzit you guys, sorry that I've been out of touch for a while. I was busy moving houses, but I am still in my same city of Kaneohe, Hawaii. I'm kind of down, but I should look at it as a blessing. My honey was sentenced on Monday and he was given a 46 month sentence. The blessing is that before the plea bargain, he was looking at life. The reason why I'm feeling down is because FDC, Honolulu will not allow me to visit with him because of my past felonies. I've been faithfully putting in my visitor's form every month, and the Warden and review committee will not allow it. I've been off parole for 2 years, and am doing exceptionally well in the community. It's not like he and I don't have a past together, cause we've been together for almost 12 years and are planning to get married. I continue to take his mom to visit him every tuesday and saturday since he's been there, and I wait in the parking lot for her. I am now his mom's primary caregiver and she lives with me and our daughter. Her health is failing and she may die before he comes home. At his sentencing the Judge said that she was going to recommend he do his time here in Hawaii being that his mom is not able to travel outside the state of Hawaii, but I've been told not to hold my breath because the BOP will do whatever they want with him. If they do end up sending him out of state, I heard that they could move him in a matter of 3 weeks, and I won't even been allowed a special visit with him. I can't talk with him on the phone because he lost his phone time for 5 months. So our only communication is through letters, that I write him daily. I was allowed to visit him when he was in State but The Feds play hard. I get so irritated when I hear that the BOP is all for reunification between inmates and family, and I know first hand, that's a bunch of crock. Has anyone here at PTO gone through similiar circumstances and if so, how did you handle it? I can't help but feel that maybe I've set my own self up because, while waiting for his sentencing day, I held onto to the dream that maybe he'll come home, real soon. Now that he's been sentenced, it's a whole different feeling of unhappiness. Although I continue with my normal day to day routine of taking care of his mom, and my daughter, working full time, so that I can keep myself busy, I still can't bare the thought of not being able to see him for 3 more years. He's done almost 10 months and the judge has given him credit for time served. I don't know how I'm going to get through this without any physical contact or communication with him, but I know that I have to find a way some how. Anyway gang thanks for letting me vent a little.
Aloha, Kaleilehua:(

That really sucks.. I feel you paid the price for whatever mistakes you made in that past, and what they're doing just isn't right. I'll say some prayers, that someone will have a heart and allow you to see your guy.

Good Luck

sorry things are so bad for you {{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}

Okay, Girly Girl...after the holidays are over, let's do a get together. I know that our schedules are pretty crazy but it should settle down after the holidays, yah? I can come and meet you if you like. Just PM me and we can exchange phone numbers and talk story or any kine else stuffs.

I'm really sorry that you're getting rooked on your visitation situation. But I'm here to talk story and/or vent if you like. Take care and hang in there!!!

Thanks alot, and Ms Aloha, I'll pm you after the holidays, I really would like to get together. Yesterday was very sad for me, but today on Christmas it was much better. I had to work and I work with mental health clients. They give me so much gratitude, and even keep my pastures green. I enjoyed spending my christmas with them, because they showed me how to remain grateful for what I do have. 2 down and 1 more holiday to go. and hopefully things will get better. Oh PTO family, please say a prayer for my fiance's mom who I take care of. Yesterday morning I had to call 911 for her because she was having difficulty breathing. She is now in the hospital in the Critical Care Unit for Christmas. I hope she makes it back home to us, but that might not be the case. She is a dialysis patient who has had quadruple by pass surgery, and her heart is very weak. She might not make it home to us. I don't know how my fiance is going to handle this, if we lose her while he's in prison. I believe the only reason that she is hanging on is because she thinks that her son is going to come home soon to take care of her. So please could you all say a prayer for her, Her name is Eleanor. Thanks, Aloha Kaleilehua

I'll pray for Eleanor. And you too.

Keep hanging in there, Sistah and I'll be sending some heavy duty prayers for you and your family, especially your mother-in-law. We are here for you.

((hus)) I hope she's ok and you get to see your guy soon....

Deb