my brother in law is in prison in arkansas well today his mom had a heart attack and is very sick in icu his brothers have told me to lie when he calls telling him his mom is fine and at home I think this is wrong but they are scared he will get mad and he has gotten his prole and should be out in the next week or so I pray help is need thanks you so much

Thats a hard one..since it could upset him more when he does find out.
Could you mabey call the chaplin at the prison to see if he could offer advise? If it were me...I'd want to know!

Diane

The truth is the way no matter

No you cant lie to him. What if something happens and she doesnt make it he will blame you for a long time. best to be truthful and tell him or have the chaplain talk to him.

Talk to the doctor and see whether it looks like she is going to pull through okay. Everyone is admitted to the ICU when they have a heart attack...SOP... sometimes it just has to do with the ease in monitoring them and also with the protocol for the drugs they sometimes use to minimize damage to the heart muscle. Just because someone is in ICU with a heart attack does not necessarily mean that that person is at death's door. There are varying degrees of damage to the heart and sometimes it is not so bad. Of course, sometimes it is, too.

If it were me, with a loved one who was so close to being parolled, and knowing he would go crazy in there because he would not be able to do anything but think about it, with limited communication abilities for updates, I know it would make him absolutely crazy, but people are different. That's just the way my loved one would react. So if it were me, I would be sure that it didn't look good before I would want him told.

That's just my opinion.

I edited this post to add that I would NOT lie, I would just divert the conversation if I had made the decision to withold the information for the moment. If he comes right out and asks, you should probably tell him the truth.

I think each and everyone of you we did talk to the prison and there doing everything they can to get him home soon she is doing a little better but has many health issues thank you again he does not know yet we decide not to tell him but I told the brother include hubby I will not lie about it

Do not lie to him It is more important that he trust you regardless. If he was lied to now and something went wrong how hard it would be for him and how angry he would be when paroled. And with the BIG anger and nobody to trust how long do you think his parole would last with him staying out of trouble?!! Good luck with a really tough task.

In CA if something like that happens, they put the inmates on suicide watch. If he's almost coming home, they may delay him if THEY know about his mom.

My prayers are with you