hello all,
i need help i am being threatened to get beat by this guy that i am with. we got into it last week and he left. he's calling now telling me that he should have knocked me in the head then and that its a promise when he sees me it won be nice. we just got in an arguement over the phone and i keep hanging up on him but i think its making things worse. I'm really scared something will happen do you know if i can get some mace somewhere? he doesnt care if i call the police on him because he's already been to jail (not for d.v) but other things i'm scared

You need to get an order of protection ASAP. In the meantime, just stay inside and if you see him, call the police right away. Tell them why you're afraid. You could even call them now and tell them that he's threatening you. It's against the law to threaten people like that. Maybe they'll give him a warning or something. Don't hesitate to call the police if he comes around. He's probably already had them called on him before for this kind of stuff.

YEs I agree... dont think that he is telling you the truth... one, just because he has been to jail before does NOT mean he wants to go back. That is just a hollow voice because he wants you to feel helpless... I mean why call if it doesnt scare him right? Thats what he wants you to think. Get a restraining order as well... just because there is nothing in his past does NOT mean that he wont ever touch you. I now have a healing wrist that was broken because I thought he would never touch me... and he didnt even threaten me like yours is doing. But hey, he didnt have it in his background so I was safe right? Nope... and while there is nothing in his past, who is to say I wasnt the first, just the first one he got caught doing it too? Call the cops whenever he threatens you and call the phone company as well. There should be a number they give you to call to report him when he calls you. ITs simple, he calls, you hang up can call that number and then report him. LAst time I checked it was a federal offense EVERYWHERE for phone harrasement... and that of course will NOT be jail time... that will be prison. He wants you scared... men like him live on that. They are nothing but grown up.. no no, bigger not grown up, versions of that playground bully. You must be serious though, or rather not serious or you wouldnt have asked for help... I mean strong. No one can help you if you dont let them. You let the people who can help you do their job and if he comes around, MAKE them do their job. Don't just hope it all goes away becasue that is what he is expecting you to do. He wants you scared and quiet, but I ask this... what if he doesnt just try to hit you? What if he tries to kill you? Go to action hun before its too late. Let him know you are serious. He doesnt think you will do it... are you going to prove him right? Or will your survival instincts kick in and prove him wrong? PLEASE do not become one more woman we read about in the paper. MAke your stand and love yourself! It will be hard yes, there will be no lying about that.. but NOT impossible. Please, let the people who love you help you as well. Friends and family are there for a reason and if you do this and THEN tell them they will whoop you. lol... my mom did that to me as well as a few friends. LEt them help you through this as well. There is no need to do it alone.

~Lost~

CALL THE COPS NOW AND TELL THEM HE IS THREATENING YOU...DON'T WAIT. ONLY A CRAZY PERSON WOULD THREATEN YOU AND THEN GET AN ORDER OF PROTECTION ASAP. PLEASE, DON'T WAIT FOR HIM TO SHOW UP ON YOUR DOOR STEP. IF HE IS MAKING YOU FEEL UNSAFE DO SOMETHING NOW. MY EX ATTACKED ME AND DID ALL TERRIBLE THINGS AND SAID HE WASN'T AFRAID IF I CALLED THE COPS. THEY ARRESTED HIM AND HE WAS AFRAID AND I WAS SAFE!!!

Yes please get an order of protection. Can you stay with someone?

Please, learn from my mistakes...my husband threatened me one time and I didn't take him seriously. He came back three hours later and severly beat me and he also struck my two year old in the process. I don't want any one to go through what I went through. And I feel that if you would call the cops and deal with the situation before it worsens you wont have to deal with it.

You will have a sense of power in doing that. Don't under-estimate yourself. Don't contemplate, oh, maybe he won't do anything that bad, or, maybe it will go away.
It won't!
You will have it documented, and when you really do have to call, they will take him away right away, instead of giving him a warning.
Then if that happens you will be mad at yourself for not doing anything in the first place.

Hi lovinhimstill-
are you ok, what happened, i read your post, but then did not see any others...

i hope you are ok!!

my bf, threatened me, and everytime, i called the police, and also left the area....until he eventually got himself arrested again...

my bf gets loaded and then acts crazay...he has never hit..however, he pushes, manhandles, keeps me physically in my bedroom....every time i call the police, he thinks someone else did it because i am very scared of him...i always was scared to press charges....the final time he threatened me for an hour...horrible graphic frightning threats...this time i pressed charges...he received 2 yrs...for terroist threats...all though he had a lot of priors...which may have helped him get 2 ys....

it is a scarey situation, and there is no predicting the abuser, but they seem to prey on our fear....it is about power and control...

don't risk your life...

please write...i hope you are ok...