My son was incarcerated over a year ago, at age 14. I am looking for support from other moms of incarcerated kids. we live in Louisiana. He is sentenced with no release until age 19.
susanp@jam.rr.com
Where can mothers of incarcerated children go to on the net ?
Susan

Susan, welcome to PTO. I am the wife of an man in prison. If I find any sites in my travels around the net for mothers of incarcerated children, I will pass them along to you. God Bless

Dear Susan,

I am the mother of a son in prison. He is in for 30 months total (361 days served).... This is a great place to ask questions, receive support, meet others in your same situation......

Best Wishes

Jodi

DEAREST SUSAN:

I TOO HAVE A SON IN PRISON... HE WAS 25 WHEN HE WENT IN. HE IS 37 NOW... THIS HAS BEEN A REAL JOURNEY FOR ME AND I CERTAINLY KNOW IT HAS FOR YOU... 14 YEARS OLD. I CANNOT IMAGINE... I CERTAINLY HOPE HE IS IN A YOUTH CENTER. AT LEAST THERE, THE DO OFFER A LITTLE HELP.... IT IS HARD FOR AN ADULT TO ACCEPT THE CONDITIONS IN PRISON MUST LESS A CHILD. AT 14, THAT IS WHAT YOU ARE IS A CHILD....

YES, OUR SONS MAKE MISTAKES. THIS DOES NOT MAKE THEM BAD PEOPLE... IT ONLY LETS US KNOW THAT THEY NEED HELP IN SOME AREAS. WE HAVE TO HELP THEM BY UNDERSTANDING, LOVING AND CARING... WE WILL GET ANGRY AT THEM FOR WHAT THEY HAVE DONE... WE WILL FEEL GUILT TO SOME EXTENT FEELING THAT WE MAY COULD HAVE PREVENTED THIS SITUATION.

BUT, WE IN REALITY, COULD DO NOTHING.... WE HAVE TO PICK UP THE PIECES NOW AND START FROM HERE.

MAY GOD BLESS AND KEEP YOU CHILD.... I HAVE WALKED A MILE IN YOUR MOCASSINS SO I REALLY DO KNOW YOUR PAIN... ASK ME ANY QUESTIONS YOU WANT TO....

MY LOVE AND PRAYERS
DONNA

SUSAN

HAVE NOT HEARD FROM YOU IN AWHILE.... LET US KNOW HOW THINGS ARE AND HOW YOU ARE DOING.

DONNA

susan, i also have a child in prison, there is support and understanding here! i have tried other sites, but so far this one has been the most supportive, most informative most everything.
welcome to pto.

Susan, How's it going? Good I hope. My son just got transfered to another bad prison in FL :( I can't wait till this is over! This is the only site I've found like it. But I'm trying to get a flyer so I can pass it out a viso and to the people who need it to direct them here. Maybe you should try it in your area. Did you see the sites for each state? You could start a posting there and see if anyone has the same needs or concerns as you. Hey it's worth a try. I haven't found anyone yet here but I'm not giving up! Peace. cl

Susan.
I have two sons in prison....they are both older than yours but I'm pretty sure we all feel the same emotions more or less as Mother's.....I worried a lot right at first but it dosen't help the feelings of helplessness and at times guilt as to how I as his mother didn't forsee all this and somehow prevent it and oh my God what did I do to cause it in the first place....I worried about them being beat up and injured or worst of them being raped....I almost went nuts....then God eased my mind somehow and although I catch myself getting ready to stress or worry ...I stop myself and lean on God and this is what we all have to do "Trust in God....he can and will take care of those we love...he is aware of your Son and his needs have faith he will handle it....ok? God watches over our children......This site I too feel is the very best one on the net....so many good and caring people here....so just stay here someone will say just the right thing and you'll be glad you stayed....we will be glad you stayed also welcome to PTO...

Thanks for your sweet message Lucy, I like the group here, and all the support it gives.
Love ,
Susan

Susan, I have two sons in Prison. You'll love PTO, lots of support here.

Valerie-I also have a son in prison. He turned 17 years old this year. He was sentenced to 99 years for aggravated robbery. We later found out the only eyewitness (the victim), wasn't sure my son was the one who injured her. I am praying that this information will warrant a new trial. The new appellate attorney stated that without the victim signing an affivadit, this information is only "hear-say." So, I am taking one day at a time. It is a struggle sometimes, but I am handling it. I also pray alot.

This site is "awesome!" I don't know what I would do without it. Everyone here is so supportive and offer good advice. I come to this site daily. I don't post topics or replies all of the time, but just to read other replies. So you have a strong family here at PTO. We will pray for you and your son so take care of yourself. PEACE!!

Welcome Susan, and hello all. My 20 year old son has been in custody for about 16 months. He has a total of 70 months to serve. I am distraught because he is in Northern Oregon and we are in CA, a 2 day drive away. I wish I were closer so that I could visit him every week. I miss him like crazy. He only phones once or twice a month cuz he does not want to run up our phone bill. (WHY are the phone calls from prison so expensive? Something should be done. Over a dollar a minute is a bit obscene) It has been a very isolating experience for me, and I'm glasd to have found this site. Good luck to you, and hang in there! Jenny L.

JENNY L

WELCOME TO PTO... THIS IS THE FIRST POST I HAVE SEEN FOR YOU.... hOPE OUR LITTLE FAMILY CAN HELP YOU IN SOME WAY...

MAY GOD BLESS
DONNA

I dont' have any children in prison... but i once was a child in prison. I was 19 when I got locked up, served 3 years, and the rest is history. I don't really have alot to add here, I just wanted to say that I think it's wonderful that you all, (we all at PTO), have eachother to lean on. I KNOW how difficult my prison time was on my own mother, and I would have given anything for her to be able to come here for support.

Jodygirl

:rolleyes: I AM SO SORRY TO HEAR OF YOUR SON BEING IN PRISON AT SUCH A YOUNG AGE.MY SON WAS SEVENTEEN WHEN THIER WAS A SHOOTING ACCIDENT AND HIS BEST FRIEND WAS SHOT.THE FRIEND SAID IT WAS NOT AN ACCIDENT AND MY BOY WHO IS NOW 19 JUST GOT MOVED TO GENRAL POP.I HAVE BEEN TRYING TO FIND SOMETHING LIKE THIS SINCE LAST JULY.WE HAVE NEVER BEEN INVOLED IN ANYTHING LIKE THIS AND IT IS VERY SCARY AND STRESSFUL.THE WHOLE STORY THAT FINNALLY CAME OUT IS SO TRAGIC IT WILL TKAE YEARS FOR MY BOY TO COME TO COMPLETE TERMS WITH IT ALL.BUT HE IS A NOT ONE TO GIVE UP,HE TURNED TO THE LORD ALITTLE MORE AND LEARNED WHAT HE HAS TO DO TO GET OUT SOON AND KEEP OUT OF TROUBLE AND IS DOING O.K. I AM THE ONE THAT IS LOSING IT.REMBER WE HAVE TO BE STRONG FOR OUR KIDS,WE DID BRING THEM HERE.EVEN IF WE ARE CRYING INSID WHEN WE SEE THEM.IF YOUR SON CAN GET LETTERS FROM ANYONE I WOULD BE HAPPY TO WRITE TO HIM.I KNOW THAT MY SON LOOKS FORWARD TO MAIL IT MAKES HIM FEEL ALITTLE MORE LOVED AND KNOWS WE ARE THINKING OF HIMA ND NOW WE HAVE ABOUT 5 POEPLE WRITTING TO HIM BESIDES US. KEEP STRONG LIL MAMA.P.S. I GOT THIS NAME FROM MY BOY HE WAS SIX FEET WHEN HE WAS ONLY 15 AND I AM ONLY 5 2.

please please please- stand by your son in whatever way he needs you- i have done prisoner support for over 4 years and the main reason for prisoners to join gangs etc. is that they do not have support from their families and turn to the family of a gang in order to replace this need for acceptance. many people in prison have already destroyed and been abandoned by their families- perhaps what got them there. prison can break people into doing things and seeing things they would never tell their families- if yer children don't have friends that write them please contact prisoner support groups that provide this service abc is one of them but there are many more- we all need more than our parents to help us get thru it all- the jack asses in prison they call their friends can sometimes make things worse
always,
relentless

WAY TO GO RELENTLESS....

I AGREE 100%.... AND YOU DO SEE SO MUCH OF THAT... THERE ARE SO MANY INMATES OUT THERE WHO HAVE ABSOLUTELY NO ONE.... MY SON HAS BEEN IN FOR 12 YEARS AND I GO EACH WEEK TO VISIT UNLESS THEY MOVE HIM SO FAR AWAY I CAN ONLY GO ONCE EACH 2 WEEKS OR SO...

HE MAY BE AN INMATE, BUT HE IS STILL MY SON AND I LOVE HIM VERY DEARLY.... THANKS FOR THIS REPLY

MY LOVE
DONNA

i know that is reply is late, but i just got back to pto. i have a son in a fereral prison he is in for 18 months, andhas 7 years to go god knows how you feel i know i do, this is the best place to be, the people are the best , andare always there for you , stand tall for your son, be there for him no matter what, if you need to talk you can email me any time janicel

it is really hard when you get letters from your children from prison and they ask "Mother, have you found me any PenPals yet?" It breaks my heart that I have listed there names and addresses in several diffrent sites for inmate PenPals and no one writes to them. I get two to three letters a week from each of them, they have no one else other than me and and their grandmother, we both write as often as we can keep stamps, but they still feel all alone out there. The "friends" that they once had are no longer there for them
sence they have been in prison, some friends!!!

hi, i get confused with these groups. i think i posted a message once before. i would really rather have emails, it is easier, i just dont have the patience i used to. something snapped with all tradjedies that i have encountered. anyway, i have a son in prison, he went in at 16, reoffended at 19, he is now 27, he doesnt believe (i think) that he will ever get out. we talk on the phone alot, i visit as often as i can. he is 6 hrs. away. anyone, needs or wants a penpal, send me a private message ok. take care everyone, i do read all the posts and would like to join in but ...bckat