this is my first time posting in this forum... not sure if this belongs here but i need help.... ill try to keep this as short as possible.... my boyfriend n i were only together for 2 weeks before they took him... in this time he got me pregnant....im living at his parents house, and majority of the things i find out about him are through them... n ive collected things theyve said and hes said but never felt i had enough to leave... the other day he randomly made a threat to take our daughter away from me if i ever left him.... the next day i receive a letter from him tellin me how i have my work cut out for me, cuz hes been planning on the perfect way to kill his other babys mamas n ther boyfriends and he thinks he has it just right... n its my job to "shorten the leash" n keep him under control... ok i draw the line there. ive been in an abusive realtionship inthe past with a guy who said things like this but swore hed never hurt me ... next thing i know im tied up n gagged n his hands are around my throat n hes tellin me he wants to watch the life drain from my body..... im not doing that this time.... im terrified of what he could do to me if hes mad enough, and that ill be added to this list if i left him... my mind is made up i have to go before hes home.... im not sure how to go about it though... im living in his parents house and as much as i want to sit them down n tell them why im going and show them the letters my family has suggested leavin without tellin them, n leavin a letter for them with copies of there sons letter and explain it all in a letter... cuz aparently they can come up with an order to try n keep me in the state cuz im pregnant with his child, or try n claim me unfit or sumthing... mind u i dont know these people well enough to know how they will react . all i knwo is im scared to even be in the sme state as him.. he has told me if i ever left hed come after me, n whoever i was with... n if in in this state he will find me. i hate to take a child away from her father but i just dont feel its safe. i am in process of gettin plans together to go, but i dont know how im going to leave i dont know how to tell him ...n i my friends cant get to this state to take the trip with me (driving ...cant fly) till august. so i have to play nice with everyone here n him n im just a mess.... i was thinkin mailin him a letter the day i leave... n im still not sure how im going to get out of this house his sister is out of school for the summer and is home all day with me while his parents r at work so im not sure how to get my stuff out with out her seeing... any advice on what to do?

You should contact a domestic violence shelter so you can get help to make it safely out. I believe you are being manipulated with threats of court orders and him coming after you. His parents really do not have any say so about you leaving if that is what you want to do...if they try to stop you call the police because that is called 'holding someone against their will."
I also believe it is in your best interest to get you and your baby out of there before he gets out or you give birth. You can take legal measures to make sure both of you (the baby and yourself) are safe so he doesn't bother or hurt you once your gone...I am living proof of that. ;)
Just be very careful because it is a proven fact that women are in the most danger when trying to leave the situation and/or pregnant. Stay safe and congratulations on your baby coming. sokie

You're completely right about needing to leave.

BUT . . .

you haven't quite learned the lesson you needed to. Get your butt to a domestic abuse counselor and get a thorough run-down on the whys and wherefores of how you get here. You need to understand what to be aware of inside that needs to be put on guard against that "love at first sight" super-quick involvement, and the little controlling things that you don't really mind when they're just tiny and not too many. And you can learn to take it slow when everything inside is telling you "This is IT!!!!!"

They can also advise you what legal steps need to take to be sure you can do as you need to to be safe.

update forever? how did everything go?