Hiya all

I phoned the Chaplain at Oklahoma State Penitentiary but he said it is the prison policy that he does not marry inmates and their fiance and I must find a minister to marry us. He needs the name of a minister in advance before he'll give us our first interview to be allowed to marry. He's told me it will take at least two years before we'll be allowed to marry. He's friendly enough with me, but he's emphasising all the time how difficult it will be for us. But I tell him, "Don't worry, I'm in this right to the end and I'll do whatever it will take." Has anybody out there any experience of marrying at OSP??? Was it as difficult as he implies?

thanks

Punk xxx

My kids have a uncle who does prison minstery I'll check with him for you. I'll get bck to ya tomarrow,hang in there Honey

2 YEARS?? Has he lost his mind? :) I don't think it takes 2 yrs Tony and I just checked into getting married at William S Key's Corr. in Ft Supply Ok and it wasn't going to take long at all...
Each prison is diff. though...I don't think the same.

We are waiting on him to get moved to Lexington in Jan then planned on getting married. Hope we don't have trouble.

Good Luck

Where is he exactly in Oklahoma ?

Thank you for replying and I sure hope your uncle can help. My fiance is at Oklahoma State Penitentiary, McAlester. Seems like this prison likes to make some inmates and their loved ones do things the hard way. The Chaplain has me by the short and curlies because I'm so far away. He knows how much it costs me to travel from the UK and yet he says we will have to meet with him at least six times, that's six flights out just to have permission to marry. I'm 46 and my fiance is 51, two mature consenting adults. My fiance is not on death row, he's out in general population. Why all the protocol, why two years???

Punk

Oh man no idea why 2 years I am going to print this off and send it to my man see if he can tell me anything!
Good Luck and hang in there

Thank you Texereen, I'm not going away, we Welsh are as strong as you gals when it comes to our man!

Punk

Sorry! We Welsh are good with our men, but hopeless with remembering names!

thank you Texrenee!

Punk

Punk,

Here is the Phone Number to the Hospitality House Phone: (918) 429-0142 If you have to come over here to do the visits you can stay there for a very small fee $5.00 a night which is much better than a motell price and they will surely help you find a minister. Tell Nora that Sarah said hi and That I miss her they are wonderful people there and like I said Christian based.

Punk- Have you checked your PM's? I sent you one a few days ago and never heard back??
-Cathy

Woops! I'm new and I don't know what a PM is? I'll find out and read your message.

Thank you.

Punk

Punk when you first come on the main forum you will see a section right under the list af active users at the very top of the forums that says private messages it usually flashes when you have new ones click on it and you can check them. There is other ways to do it to but that is the easiest to explain.

Oklahoma law is now that you have to have 12 hours of pre-marital couseling before you can get a marriage license.
We are going through it now, 2 hours every Friday, for 6 weeks, if I miss one , we have to start all over.
Kim

Wow, waitinginok, is that new rule from within the last year?

I was married last year in Tulsa, OK. We had a choice. If we did the counseling, we could get our marriage license for $5. If we didn't, it was the standard $25 fee.

If it's mandatory now, thank goodness I'm already married because that really ticks me off that the state feels they have the right to make me ask for their permission. I don't even need to ask my Daddy for permission anymore, now the state wants to take his place. Leave it to OK....boohiss.

Freckles

Hiya again

Thank you MommaHen, i managed to get my PM. In my country PM stands for Prime Minister. I'm learning slowly.

Thank you Kim. Now I understand why we have to meet with the Chaplain six times. This is not so easy for me. I'm going to try to get out every four months, so at that rate it will take 2 years just to complete the counseling. Unless we could meet with the Chaplain on a Friday and then on the following Wednesday, but he's told me I'll be unlikely to do that as his diary will probably not allow it. Never mind, all good things come to those who wait.

punk

I should know after the holidays how to marry in Oklahoma.
:) I HOPE :)
We are waiting on Tony to get moved to Lexington before we start the wedding plans. He should be moved soon IF they are going to move him.

That's good TxRenee. I hope everything goes smoothly for you and your future husband.

punk