My friend experienced this situation. One sister murdered his other sister. He is completely conflicted - angry at her for doing it, but he still loves her tremendously. She is the only family he has left, and now she is behind bars. Has anyone else here experienced a loved one killing another loved one? How have you handled the conflict of emotions? Have you been able to forgive? Has it gotten easier over time?

Thank you. Emmy

I knew two brothers in Highschool.. One of them, Jeremy was on the phone with my Brother's ex-girlfriend when the other one shot him in the head.. It was really sad because they were the best of friends.. They had been arguing and the other was joking and pulled the gun in a mock threat to get off the phone.. It went off.. Hit Jeremy in the head.

The cops came.. Arrested the other brother while Jeremy was in a coma.. They wouldn't let him out of Juvi the whole time Jeremy was in the hospital, even though the parents were totally for it and irrate.. They questioned my brothers "ex" and she said they had been arguing a bit buth nothing major. Of course, they took it how they wanted.

Jeremy was taken off life support and died.. Mark (the other brother) wasn't let out even for the funeral.. It was sick.. Eventually, they dropped charges.. I don't know what happened to Mark or their family.. It's sad any which way..

I know this may not be the same because this was an accident but it has to be hell either way you cut it for the family and friends.

There is a book called Radical Forgiveness! By Colin Tipping. I read it and it helped me but my ordeal wasn't nearly as entice as your friends. My heart goes out to your friend.

My brother killed my stepfather in Oct. 84. He is still in prison and is supposed to get out Dec. 2005. To us it kinda felt like they both died or that we lost both of them because my stepfather was gone and he was sent to prison. He was only 18 when he went in and he will be 39, almost 40 when he gets out. Such a waste of both lives:( It was really hard for all of us in the beginning because we were trying to deal with the grief over my stepdad being dead and trying to deal with all the hurt and emotions of thinking about where my brother was going to be going. It does get easier as the years go on, but I can honestly say that we have been waiting for the day for him to get out and now that's it's getting closer I kinda have a fear about it, do we really know who he is anymore?

day for him to get out and now that's it's getting closer I kinda have a fear about it, do we really know who he is anymore?

Hi there,

Chances are he's the same person you always knew... just grown up, matured, all that. Maybe a little harder on the outside but inside he's probably still the same person you knew. My guy was 22 when he went in, is 36 now, will be 42 when he is released... and is pretty much the same person I knew way back when before prison, just like the above. And for the most part new and improved, too. :)

Welcome, glad you have joined us here. :)

I just have so many worries about it because he was so young when he went in, didn't really get a chance to be an adult. So much has changed cultural wise since 1984 I know he's gonna need alot of love and understanding when he gets out. Just hope he can make the transition okay.:)

Michelle

My fiance murdered his own father in 1991 when he was 16 years old becuase he says his father raped his sister. He spent 10 years in prison for that.

My fiance murdered his own father in 1991 when he was 16 years old becuase he says his father raped his sister. He spent 10 years in prison for that.
That's pretty much why my brother murdered my step father. He was doing things to me he shouldn't have been, didn't actually rape me, but I think it was leading to that. He also kicked my younger brother out of the house when he was only 13 and think that is what finally done it. He didn't deserve to die and I hate it that Allan has spent the last 20 years of his life in prison because of this. We should have had family members step in and take care of all of us, but we were pretty much on our own:(

Michelle Z.

I know a guy who did something like this at the age of 11. He never went to prison, but it devastated him and the whole family. We punish little boys for trying to be superheros.

That is so sad!:( It devastated our whole family too. Mom and Dad divorced and Allan felt like he was the man of the house after that and did what he felt he should do to take care of his family. It was just all so tragic. He never even realized the outcome of it all:(

Michelle Z.

My neice just got stabbed to death by her baby's father in Georgia last week. I don't see forgiveness coming anytime soon as she was holding their three year old in her arms when he stabbed her in the back. He wanted a pack of cigarettes and she wouldn't give him the money. I think it all depends on the circumstances and how you feel about each person involved.

My neice just got stabbed to death by her baby's father in Georgia last week. I don't see forgiveness coming anytime soon as she was holding their three year old in her arms when he stabbed her in the back. He wanted a pack of cigarettes and she wouldn't give him the money. I think it all depends on the circumstances and how you feel about each person involved.
That is so sad. My prayers go out to you and your family!

My brother killed his wife-not really family but they met through my older brother and I- we were friends... We really never brought that up to him because of the circumstances around the murder....For the longest time I carried guilt because I knew she was doing drugs behind his back-I didnt know she was sleeping with people for them-- We are over that "guilt" stage now just focused on him and how we can help him!

Thank you MrsPhil

My penpal of three years who i have grown very close too. We are like best friends. We tell each other everything...

Anyway She killed her own mother when she was 16 in 1997. It was a very high profile case in the state of Florida and to this day there are quite a few google hits on it. She is scheduled for release in 2018. I know it took her father a long time to cope, it took her a long time as well. But it has been very hard on her family. A lot of people question how these things can happen but they shouldn't dwell on how it happened but how and what is the best form of help for the offender. Not only does one person lose their life but another comes close to it when they either spend the rest of their lives in prison or most of thier years behind the wall.

I know Nikki is so sorry for what had happened. And if things could change i think she would go back and change it all but she has to live with that everyday of her life. And you know the worst day for her isn't christmas or holidays. Its Mothers Day... So please when you say your prayers at night for those of you who do, please remember my friend Nikki in them. She's a bright young woman who needs the prayers....

Thanks


Frozen

I have never experienced this situation. I just wanted to send my deepest sympathies to your friend. I can't even begin to imagine the emotions he must be having. It is a serious tragedy... :(

My cousin was killed by her common-law-husband in 1989, a few days before Christmas. She had kicked him out a month or so before. He came over bugging her to give him some money to buy drugs. She refused and he beat her to death in front of their two children. We later found out that he had killed his first girlfriend too. She had also broke it off with him and she was 8 months pregnant, he beat her to death at a party that she was at in front of many people. It took 8 police officers to pull him off her. He was sentenced to 3 yrs and served 18 months. With my cousin, he was sentenced to life in prison. His children still have nightmares about him and refuse to ever speak to him again. They will never forgive him for taking their mother away from them in such a horrible way. I don't think that anyone in our family has ever forgiven him. My Uncle swears to attend ( and does) every parole hearing to make sure he never gets out. My cousin has prepared to take over when my uncle passes away.

Wow... reading these make me realize i'm not alone.

My Fiance Murdered My Mom........ (Yes i still love him)
He though she was Molesting My Son( he is not the dad)
and his Mental State was not good at the time he did this.

He hasnt even been Indited yet...

My family makes me fell bad because i still love him.
They dont even know i still talk to him, or write letters back and forth.
They dont know i that i still want to marry him.

Anyway...i just wanted to vent.. and tell eveyrone i'm glad i found you
folks.. Have a great day

wow that is a lot to be carrying! welcome to PTO glad you found us, nobody will judge you here and it's good friendship

My best friend was shot and killed by her estranged husband, who then took his own life. Many times I have thought about what a blessing it was (under the circumstances) that we did not have the trial, etc. to go through. I believe her older brothers would have taken the situation into their own hands, had their sister's murderer lived.

She and I had been best friends for twenty years when she died, since we were both four.

I miss you every day, my sister.

I have a Saying about Mike now.

How can i be Mad at him.. When he was so sick at the time it all happened.

He has a Real Atty. Now, not some Public Deffender.
And they will be asking for his Psyc. Eval. (thank god)

I Just pray, they can Come back with the Right diagnosis.
**** i think i know what is wrong with him, i wish i could just tell them** HAHA ! :p


I added his Pic to my profile too.. :(

Have a great night:broken: :fb: ((( what is this guy doing??? HEHEHE ))))

My brother murdered my father, he almost decapatated his head and stab him 27 times while he was dying and he walked with almost a million dollars. He used a scapel and even though the detectives found a box of scalpels in his closet they would not use it for evidence because they said it was not the right size. Please, how many people have scalpels around the old homestead?????????????/