Well May is here already!! Where is this year going?

It is getting colder and colder and I am really not liking this cold weather. I really don't like getting out of bed in the mornings and having to go to work.

So how is everyone doing? Anyone got any news to share?

I know what you mean about the cold, I just wish winter would hurry up and be over with! Spring is such a nice time of the year, not to hot and not to cold!
Back to work tomorrow... ohh the joys! Kids back to daycare... YAY
umm FInally got my partners proper release date this week so thats been fantastic after being given 3 different dates all of which were after his real one!
Release date has been set for October 15 after DP was telling me it's the 18th, 20th and then 21st...
Mothers day next weekend which should be fun.. Maybe the kids will be nice to me for the day. haha wishful thinking

Court was once adjourned once again for 3 months.
He will have to do a driving course thing before he goes back to court.
Apparently the in one of the letters he recieved from the solicitor (I think) it suggested he might get a custodial sentence or weekend detention..
My brother doesn't seem worried by this at all.
So am just gonna wait and see what happens.

Hey Mumto2brats - got to be happy you have a day for when it is home sweet home. Hope the days go quickly.

Lauren hopefully your Bro will see things different - it must be so frustrating, he does not see how much all this hurts the family. Is it all a front??

Hey Nessy - Dont want to get out of bed because it is cold - I dont want to get out of bed to go to work in general!

My kids will cook me breakfast in bed on Sunday for Mothers Day - unfortunately even they say it wont taste good. I am hoping to make muffins on Sat so they will give me that for Breaky. Going to see Hubby on Sunday - he has a surprise for me. He has been writing romantic poems on why he loves me and sending me cards.

I'm insanely busy at work at the moment... a few people are away on holidays or sick, and so I'm doing 3 jobs at once... bleh... it's all good... I'll survive... Didn't get the job I wanted... meh... wish it would decide whether it is going to be winter or autumn at the moment, it's either insanely cold, or really hot...

I don't mind which, it's just confusing. :)

I am hopeing that the kids will make me a card at day care for mothers day, Going from a 2 income family to 1 is a real killer on the finances so I'll be happy if my 2 year old son can not get into trouble for the day... Although I highly doubt it...

Lauren - Hopefully things work out well for your brother and u guys as well..

Em - Enjoy your visit on Sunday!! and Breakfast in bed... I can't wait for my kids to be old enough to do that for me!

Made In Oz - Bummer about the job, Hope something comes your way soon! Gotta love the start of winter colds and flus! We've had them as well and I only work with 6 others and when they are away it's a nightmare!! So u have my sympathy

Em: I honestly don't know if it is a front. That is the problem with him, he doesn't seem to really show any sort of emotion, that would tell us when he is sad or what the go with him is. Maybe it is just a male thing? LOL.
Mumto2: Thanks. :)

Hey Nessy - Dont want to get out of bed because it is cold - I dont want to get out of bed to go to work in general!

There might be another reason now!! LMAO!!!

That is so beautiful what hubby is doing Em!! :) Tell him that I said he is so sweet and he is very lucky to have you!! :) Say hi to the kids for me and I will have to come down and visit again soon, just to harrass them!! :)

Lauren, I know that it hurts to see someone you love go through this, but I really do hope that he is going to wake up to himself, and get his life on track. It took my loved one quite sometime after he got out, because he just wanted to play up all the time because he couldn't do it in there. Please keep us updated on what is going on and I hope that the next hearing goes ok.

Hey Norty - looks like I will be up your way soonish. Have a family thing up your way soon. My door is always open for a visit. Maybe you could harass the kids to let me on the computer!
Yeah I think Hubby has ordered Choc for the visit on Sunday. A few wks ago he ordered me a CD. Hubby knows he is lucky to have moi - he is told by several CO's and his Case manager often. I tell him all the time too. I am lucky to have him.

I have been a bit down about him being away for so long - I know he will be home but sometimes when I see my friends progress in life and I am not. I am left in limbo. I willing decided to walk this limbo line with him but sometimes it hurts and you cant wait til its over. Home sweet Home. My Mum said to me once Home is where the heart is but when loving a prisoner your heart is torn.

MIO - the job not coming through sucks but it did happen for a reason - there must be a better offer coming up?? Fingers crossed. How is the car - must still be enjoying the new car.

Mumto2brats - once the kids get old enough to make you breakky in bed you look at it and you have to eat it. Then you cant wait til you can teach them to cook properly.

Lauren - Head up, your Bro needs to take the path he is taking. He needs to learn something from it and unfortunately he may not have learnt it yet. Makes you wana scream. I watched loved ones and tried to help them - honestly nothing worked. They had to be ready.

Well... I think I got a promotion today...

Well... my boss brought back my procedure manual I had written. He said that he wanted me to make some cosmetic changes to it, but other than that, it was fully tested as working (woohoo).. He then said "We really need to change that job title in there..." I said "Oh?"

He said "Yeah, I think it should be 'Customer Service Officer'"... which in the government system means a level 3... as opposed to my current level 2. And a few other people were talking about it... So I have a new job title... and a new position... I just haven't gotten it ratified yet... *sigh* The reality is that I'll be getting paid more for doing the same thing - on the logic that it should have been a 3 all along.

I think it'll be the new financial year before I actually get the pay raise... but... :)

MIO!! Well done!! I am really pleased for you!! :)

Em, I am so excited!! When, when, when?? LOL

Hi everyone,

I haven't been around for a while but am back and glad to see people are doing ok. Em, how did you go with your job. Don't you just hate having to reapply for your own job. Hope it went well.

I'm home from work today. Got some dreaded lurgy and dragged myself in yesterday but really, it isn't worth doing it again today so will be off to the doc shortly and then back to bed.

Did you manage to resurrect the chat nights or not? Might look in tonight and see if anyone is around.

Cheers
Wys

I am soooo tired... work is killing me at the moment.... we're ramping up to our project's launch the week after next... and that will only be the start of it.... And if that wasn't enough, there's a lot of dross going on at work which is driving everyone up the wall... but I am doing my best to turn up with a positive attitude every day...

On the bright side I am back working on my writing.... which I just haven't had the energy to work on... and frankly still don't... but it's a good escape. :)

Hi all, yes i haven't been around for a while either, it's taken me ages to try to catch up on whats been happening. I'd love to say that all's going well but it ain't. My husband is at that I've been out for 6 months i can't handle not being inside thing, i don't think i truly appreciated just how institutionalized he really is, after 6 1/2 years and then another year.
Even though it's breaching his parole he drinks, constantly and with that comes the aggression and anger and hurt, usually directed at me.
I've tried everything i know to try and help him, but at the moment all i can see is him going back inside and i know this time i wont be there when he comes out.
I hope everyone else is doing well, I've missed the time on here chatting and getting to know each other and the support
hugs to you all
KatyKAt

Katy, sorry to hear that everythings sounds down at the moment. I really do hope that hubby comes out of this funk and realises just what he has. Thinking of you hon!!! :)

OK looks like it's time to poke my head out of the hills - sorry I've been so quiet, bin havin a bit of trouble keeping up with things, went into retreat mode...

Katy I'm so sorry to hear that things have not been good. Certainly sounds like a classic case of institutionalisation... hope it's only a temporary thing. In the meanwhile, you need to look after you tho, and I'm afraid that when it comes to abuse issues, my views are pretty strong. Is there any way you or he can take a bit of space for a while until/unless he gets through the adjustment stuff? Sending big hugs & bush vibes...

MadeInOz, hope the launch all goes well, & great to hear you're writing again - may I ask for more details? Fiction?

And Wissy - how's things with you guys? Hope the lurgy has moved on.

Em I can really feel for you re the limbo thing - it really is like we're in prison too...

And as for us, only 4 months & 5 days to go! Not a moment too soon mind you, & still gotta get thru the Winter. My health has not been good - all the driving has been wearing me down. JD tells me he would understand if I don't do the weekend leave too often as it takes me about a week to recover, but I can't bare to leave him in there for too long when he could be out every weekend if I could wrangle it. So at this point it's about every 3 weeks.

It's still bin pretty wet at home, but I manage to scrounge enough firewood on the dry days to keep warm & dry thru the wet ones. I've still got a bit of a menagerie - sadly lost my best chook to Mr Grey Goshawk so no eggs any more until JD gets out & helps me build a decent chook pen. My 2 goats help get me out of the house as they're mostly tethered, and like their afternoon walk. All the animals help keep me sane (hmmm...)

Anyone heard from Roz?

Hi Dingogirl, good to see you are still around.

Sorry to hear your health hasn't been good. Right now, my lurgy has returned so I can sympathise.

I hope the next four months pass quickly so that you and JD are back together and you can both renew yourselves (I think you'll know what I mean), regain your health and look to the future.

Do you mind if I pm you on something?

JD: Thanks... I think... the project's beeen on the go for about 18 months, and won't stop after it's launched... ugh! Anyway...

As far as what I'm writing, it's a modern romance/addiction comedy novel...which is completely outside my normal sphere of reading and writing, but I got bored. Guy meets girl in a fast food restaurant carpark, and hilarity ensues... well, in my opinion anyway. :D

It's always good to hear from you all! :)

Just thought I'd say gidday, it's been a long while since I last logged on to PTO. Things are going well with me and mine, I spent the long weekend camping at Carnarvon Gorge with my daughter in an attempt to BOND. I don't know if we bonded - it's going to take more than one weekend at camp but it's a start.

Cheerio
Morina

Hey Morina... nice to see you again :) Any step in the right direction can't be a bad thing... Carnarvon is lovely! :)

How is everyone going?? It is starting to get really cold and I have been rather sick, but hopefully am back on the mend. This is the reason that I really don't like winter time. ;)

Hi Everyone
Its really vold here in S.A. I hate winter grrr

Jules, I know the feeling!! The slippers have not come off my feet almost!! :) Hopefully it is over soon!!

Hi all, well update on me, Hubby has been done drink driving last Thursday,so now on top of his no alcohol as part of his parole he was done at over 3 times the legal limit, so faces jail time for that as well as his parole possibly being revoked as he has failed to adjust and live in "normal society".
Can i do another 6-12 months, i don't think so, i have done everything for him, and in return his need for alcohol and unwillingness to stop drinking will beat us in the end.

I just don't know what else to do, i want to cry cause i think I'm going to lose him, but I'm also at the point where he's dragging me and my life down further and further,
AM i being selfish????
I hope all of you are doing well, its gunna take me hours to catch up on all the threads. I was sitting here tryign to make sense of it all and my fingers brought me back here.
Hugs to you all, sorry for my woe is me
Katykat

Oh katykat, I am so sorry to hear your news. I wish that there was something that I can say, but ultimately, the decision is up to you. But what I can do is, offer you support and hope that things start to look up for you.

Hey Katy :grouphug:
Oh darlin, so sorry to hear your news - and the last time we heard from you it wasn't looking good either... sounds like maybe it's all just too hard for him to make the changes necessary.

I'm sorry, but when it comes to things like this I'm a real hard-liner - in my opinion, the best way you can help him is to draw the line for your own well-being. Cut the cord, tell him that if when he gets out he can prove to you that he is serious about giving up & staying off the grog (ie 6 months down the track!), then you might consider giving him another go.

But that's me - I refuse to have a relationship with someone who has an alcohol, drug or other addiction problem, and made that very clear to JD when we first got together. Also if I'm not treated with respect, out they go. I have been in love with men who turned out to have an addiction problem, or have treated me like crap, and felt like I was tearing my own heart out in ending the relationship - but was having my heart torn out within it anyway.

You are a gorgeous, vibrant, caring woman, Katy, and you deserve a good life for you & your son. That is not being selfish in my books. Only you know this man enough to know what the chances are of him changing, and how much you can handle before it becomes life-destroying as well as soul-destroying.

Lots of love, strength and healing from the bush to you!