Since my fiance got picked up, I have not stopped my life. I did have a few problems and have had to deal with him being in jail. Now what I am wondering....how do I deal with him with the fact that I am the one in treatment, he says that he will join me but he also wants to see his 'friends' that he was with that did not start to do any good for him.
When he did get picked up he was starting to get into the drinking and smoking crack again. I joined this sight to be able to see how to deal with him being in jail, Al-alon for me to deal with his drinking and drug use. He said that he will be fine.
I am having a hard time believing that, since he was so involved in me calling his friends this weekend to meet up with them and let them know that he will be home soon.
I dont feel confortable talking to those friends he has, I think that they will just lead him back down that road of distruction. I dont drink and drugs have no interest to me, but I also have to pay my bills. I was robbed from the friends that he has when he was picked up. they stole the things in his apartment (tv, devde player, bed, my pepsi lawn chair, and bathroom supplies) they told me that I could have it all back if I gave them $300. It all belonged to me, not him but they did that because there was nothing that could be done with him to get it back. i could get it with the police but this is just another part of life that I cant handle right now and he can do it when he gets home himself!
I have health problems so that is the main reason that I do not want to get anxious....but what can I do???
Any ideas.....

I think you should continue to make choices and changes in your life that are positive and productive. If he chooses to make choices that are going to get him in trouble. Then you two may be headed down different paths. The guy I was engaged to is doing time. I continue to be a friend to him but I told him our relationship is on hold until I see what type of changes he is going to make when he gets out. They can say and write all sort of promises but actions tell the whole story.

I don't mean to seem harsh. But you have health concerns and his friends have robbed you. You don't need to continue to put yourself in harms way. Sometime you have to love someone from a distance. (That's just my opinion)