Hi, I was on google the other night looking up jail info and found this board, I have read lots of the posts and they are very interesting. I am dealing with an isolated incident. I have been with my husband 12 years, he had a stroke last summer and since has been on an emotional roller coaster with his meds being switched around, and dealing with depression. He's been committed to Psych twice in the past year! He went out one night and got really drunk, he came back in the morning and was yelling and got physical with me, the neighbors called the police and they arrested him. He also was charged for making a terror threat against me and for resisting arrest. He's screwed right now, they charged him with 4 felonies, he goes to court soon but they already offered him a year plea bargain. I just got a letter to testify as a witness. This whole situation is so messed up, I mean he's mentally ill, yet they just want to toss him in jail, he doesn't have a record and has never been arrested! Any advice? Is there anything I can do to try and get him into a facility where he clearly belongs right now? He should not be in jail, he has never laid a hand on me. I got really scared and was so out of it that when I made my statement I was so upset and emotional and in shock that I may have said he hit me more then he did and they asked if I thought he was going to kill me, "as a figure of speech, and I said yes so they said that's the terror threat. :confused: This has been so hard on me and my family. I am torn, do I stay or go, what if things don't get better and he does it again or worse next time?

Just want to add, he wants me to get him a personal lawyer, with him being out of work from being sick they gave him a Public Defender that he wants to fire. Does he have a better chance with a personal lawyer? Even if I am hurt and may not want to work it out for a long time, he's still my children's dad and I don't think he deserves jail. If he takes the year will he serve the whole year?

Is it possible the stroke has had this effect on him?

Hon, you need to get all of his medical records together and get a good analysis done. This isn't standard domestic abuse, but rather a brain injury from the stroke and the medications. You need information from a neurologist regarding exactly what areas of his brain were affected and what the prognosis may be about recovery. That needs to be shared with his attorney. After s/he has your husband's information and decides what use to make of it, then you can decide whether or not to change attorneys. And until then there's no good way to tell you whether it's a one-time thing or a permanent disability for him. You really need to know that before making a decision and before he goes to trial.

Thank you for responding. I am getting all oh is records and DRs info together.