hi i need some support tonight. hubby of 21 years getting out on friday morning after 4 years. im 46 and suddenly feel oveerwhelmed. please help. hope i am doing this correctly. is there a ive chat any where? thanks marty b

Unfortunately the live chat doesn't work yet. But my gosh, I can imagine how freaky that must feel, and that there could be a million reasons for hving ALL KINDS of feelings and not just pure elation! anyway yes you did it right, a big hug and a welcome. what exactly is overwhelming? I mean, obviously, your whole life is abou to change an that in itself is overwhelming.

Thats great news! Don't worry every thing will go just fine.

Marty, is his release unexpected? I'm wondering why your strongest feeling is overwhelmed. What has you overwhelmed?

Congratulations! Just take things slowly, let him adjust to being out and have fun! ;) I am sure everything will be fine....21 years IS a LONG time together, so I am sure once he is home you will feel alright.

I hope all goes well....but mostly just enjoy being together again ;)

Congrats on your loved one coming home. I know there will be some changes since he has been gone so long but ya'll can make the adjustment slowly; and I believe everything will be great. Remember, he has some changes and adjustments that he will have to make just like you do. I wish you both the best of luck.

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well his release isnt unexpected and this isnt his first time in for drinking and driving. he got 2 more years at the cca facility for getting in a fight when he first went to cca. he seems to be more greatful for freedom and says he will never drink again or do any thing that would cause him to be back in the hell of prison. i pray this is true. it is scary as yes my life is changing again. he said it was the first time since he was 16 he has went this long with out drinking. so in a way we are both new people . thanks for the input... marty b

I can understand how becasue you've both changed so much that it would be like meeting a new person in some ways. i agree that 21 years together is a long time and 4 years in believe it or not isn't really that long. I know it seems like a lifetime, but I think you will both be back into to groove of being together before you know it.

Congratulations! I'm sure it's overwhelming for both of you to be aout and about, and in the same place at the same time, with no one telling you guys how to act or what to do. Just give him a little space, be kind and understanding. You guys will be alright. Good luck. Keep us posted.

ill keep u posted on his return home. yes i have been thru this before and know he will need his space and it takes time to re enter the world. for the inmate and also the out mate too . marty b

I'm happy to hear that things are going well for you. However, DUI is a common thing and your man has served the max by the look of things. I would like to know if he has received any type of re-education while he has been in prison? The only reason I say this is to confirm that he won't re-offend. i have no doubt that you know him far better than I do. The bottome line is he must stop drinking and driving but I'm sure you already know that and does he.
I wish you both the best of luck

this time at cca he hasnt gotten in any program except finance and child rearing. thing is we are always broke and we have no kids. hahah go figure. i believe his spirituality has been the key to his change of thinking ,, not any program that cca offered. so it goes. prison is a money making thing for cca. terriable place. pray for us its wed. 0ne day left and i get him at 7am friday. xo marty b

Will you all be active in a church or AA organization? Even if he didn't get re-education in cca, maybe you can get involved in a group or organization that will help him maintain his spirituality. My friend is getting out in 12 months and we are already writing up a detail to do list to keep him on the right track.