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TNC
11-03-2003, 11:30 PM
As you may know I'm working to expand our Prison Weddings Forum. I'm finding that there are several states that dont allow inmates to be married and some that do allow it, but not without difficulty. I would like to get more of an idea as to what states do or do not allow this. If you could please take the time to vote and post here what your state is that would be very helpful.


Thank You

LeaAnn
11-03-2003, 11:36 PM
Yes Michigan does allow it.

TNC
11-03-2003, 11:58 PM
Idaho does

Joanna
11-04-2003, 02:46 AM
Yes California does

sunrise
11-04-2003, 09:01 AM
No problem getting married in Maryland.

rottn
11-04-2003, 10:33 AM
Ohio allows it

KRIS_NC
11-04-2003, 12:16 PM
NORTH CAROLINA ALLOWS MARRIAGES BUT YOUVE GOT TO GO THROUGH SO MUCH TO DO IT

Teardrop
11-04-2003, 03:38 PM
Colorado allows it!

ToughTimes
11-04-2003, 05:01 PM
Wisconsin does allow it, but you have to go through the warden, counseling, and they are not usually approved for inmates that have minimual time.

ToughTimes
11-04-2003, 05:02 PM
SEE ABOVE!!!!!!

That was my 1000th post! I am officially a PTO-aholic now!!

flygirlaa2
11-06-2003, 02:28 PM
I thought Turner V Safley made it illegal to out right ban inmate marriages?

TNC
11-06-2003, 03:02 PM
I think that it is illegal to ban inmate marriages, but they get around that. They give you 1000 reasons why you cant. I think that even states like Illinois and Georga can get marriages, but in some cases you may have to have money to fight for your legal rights.

CelliePieGrrl
11-06-2003, 03:08 PM
Yes Texas does allow it! Thankfully because it allowed my baby and me to get married in July by proxy! :) Now, it was a pain getting everything done, but well worth it of course!

babygirl350
11-06-2003, 04:42 PM
KENTUCKY ALLOWS IT, THANK HEAVENS

Justinsgrl
11-06-2003, 04:59 PM
Mississippi allows it!

butterfly59
11-08-2003, 08:50 PM
Florida allows it

kimMitchell
11-10-2003, 01:05 PM
OKLAHOMA ALLOWS IT...GOING THROUGH THE PROCESS NOW.

Rostonhall
11-12-2003, 02:44 PM
As you no doubt know marriage in parts of Illinois is next to impossible at the moment but the reasons given vary from prison to prison and, as one caught up in the process, it's very disheartening and frustrating.

Rose

sandy313
11-12-2003, 04:41 PM
the good old state of virginia allows weddings, but they requrie about 1 year's worth of counseling first. what a ripoff.

Emilios heart
11-13-2003, 11:02 AM
New York allows it too!

j pieczynski
11-15-2003, 08:43 PM
Yes Michigan allows it.My husband and I were married in prison in 2000.There was relatively no major problems,no couseling,just paper work.But they choose the date for you.Wedding bands are allowed.

wabbit

Haley
07-07-2004, 09:02 PM
oklahoma allows it!!!

Dre's Lady
07-21-2004, 08:21 AM
Florida Allows Marriages. The Process Is Long Though. It Takes About 6 Months To Actually Get Married After The Application Is Submitted.

1sassysistah
09-01-2004, 07:11 PM
California definitely allows it. I had no headaches or hassles. He asked me to marry him. I accepted. He got the marriage packet and filled in his portion. Then mailed it to me. I filled out my portion and mailed in necessary documents. And a few weeks later it was approved. Piece of cake!!

MsChiku
09-01-2004, 10:34 PM
Yes, Ohio allows it but you have to jump thru alot of hoops.

angelbabygirl02
09-19-2004, 12:35 AM
i dont know if georgia allows it.

coryswife
09-19-2004, 07:59 AM
iowa allows it but with a lot of crap. here it depends on the prison rules!!!

lulu
09-19-2004, 09:38 AM
I been looking for this thread for ever. Thanks for popping it back up

passionpeche
09-25-2004, 09:08 PM
Nevada does...

hopeless55
09-26-2004, 06:16 AM
Yes, unless you have caused trouble with the system then no laws rules or regulations matter. Just personal agenda

queenmae2u
09-27-2004, 12:36 AM
Ms Chiku,
What kind of loop holes does Ohio make you go through? What if you both may have a felony? Or are there ways around it? Just wondering.........LOL. My baby asked me to marry him but we both have to settle some personal matters first. Just wondering what the Ohio system will be putting us through if we decide to get married. Thanks, Karla :)

MsChiku
09-27-2004, 08:07 PM
Hi Carla,

Ok, 1st I had to get an ATTY. to get in to visit with Rodney to get his signature for the marriage application. My ATTY went 2-times (and was denied entrance after confirming the day to go down.) Mind you, he made a 1.5 hr. trip to the Institution. Finally, he threatened to sue the Institution for their tactics. All of a sudden, they could hear and found the so-called missing approval paper work. It was ugly.

The Chaplain gave us an out dated list of do's & don'ts (which we had began to do, only to change it, even more restrictions!) We had to get our rings approved too!

I mailed my letter certified. And the letter mysteriously could not be found. I faxed and no response. Then I had to keep calling them to get a written confirmation. We both had to write to the Warden, why marriage would be beneficial to us. Then we had to wait for an approval from the Warden.

Then we had to get both the Warden & Chaplain to agree on the day we picked (could only be a Monday or Tuesday) at TCI. Then I had to keep calling them to get a written confirmation. Finally, the Chaplain mailed me the confirmation about 5-days before our Wedding Day. Was that cutting it close or what?

In OHIO if you're already on the visiting list. Your prior felony does not come into question. So I wouldn't bring it up. It's a requirement that you be an approved visitor in order to have the privilege of getting married.

Also, I heard that if you reside in Mahoning or Trumbull County, they don't allow marriages. At that time I resided in Cuyahoga.

Long story short, YES it was worth it!! We will re-do our ceremony once he's home ;)

Feel free to PM me if any more questions. :thumbsup:



Ms Chiku,
What kind of loop holes does Ohio make you go through? What if you both may have a felony? Or are there ways around it? Just wondering.........LOL. My baby asked me to marry him but we both have to settle some personal matters first. Just wondering what the Ohio system will be putting us through if we decide to get married. Thanks, Karla :)

MsChiku
09-27-2004, 08:08 PM
:D My badddd :o

mzpeachez
09-27-2004, 09:07 PM
I have no idea, he is in VA, and I am in KY

queenmae2u
09-28-2004, 02:51 AM
Thank you Ms Chiku! Dang, they made you go through alot of BS!! Something that I probably have to look forward to also LOL. That was wonderful that you were finally able to marry!! Our last resort will be through proxy, but I would rather have him say the vows with me. Thanks again, Karla :)

devilorangel81
09-30-2004, 11:49 AM
California Allows It

Tears_N_Texas
09-30-2004, 11:28 PM
Texas does and it easier done by proxy. All you need is a copy of his certified birth record or a valid drivers license or I.D. (NOT Prison I.D.) Depends on what county you go through. Dallas County was easy.

LAMONT'S WIFE
10-06-2004, 10:34 PM
:confused: does anyone know anything about getting married in florence, colorado?

RegisSweetness
10-10-2004, 07:46 PM
yes, california does allow this. sometimes it can be difficult because some of the counselors of the inmates can stand in the way acting like they dont want them to get married by holding up the paperwork process, etc. but if you get a cool counselor in the process, getting married in cali can be quite easy.

MrsPhil
03-05-2005, 04:38 AM
New Jersey allows it but they don't make it easy. You have to find your own person to marry you. It has to eb submitted to the social worker then it goes to a marriage committee and then to the superintendent. If it is approved by all of those people there is counseling and then it goes back to the superintendent. Then if he approves it again they bring the inmate to the city where the brride lives to sign the license. I will have to pay $45 an hour for 2 guards to escort him plus 36 cents a mile and buy them lunch. I live 110 miles away from the prison. You do the math. But it will be well worth it!

johnsbabygirl31
03-05-2005, 01:13 PM
here in Texas you can get married by proxy :(

titantoo
03-05-2005, 01:16 PM
I discover that I am still naive.
I would have thought that it was illegal and a human rights violation to not allow prisoners in any state to marry if they want to and have agreement between partners!
Which states do not allow it?

fohnsgirl
03-05-2005, 01:43 PM
Missouri allows it......and I am so happy cause me and my sweetie are getting married on May 18, 05 at 0900 am

CRAZY4ALBERT
03-05-2005, 01:57 PM
Yes, I Actually Sent Out Mine And My Loves Marriage Forms Out This Morning!

MiaBellaAngela
03-05-2005, 03:14 PM
I have a question for these states that require "counseling." I see there are alot of women on here who live in one state and their man is in another. They cannot fly or drive long hours there every week for counseling. What do they do?

jabbasgirl33
03-05-2005, 04:37 PM
New York allows it ,But it takes about 4-6 mos for a interview for you and your mate with his counselor. and about 2months for his request to marry to be aproved. After that you have to marry within 60days.

Bubbles7598
03-06-2005, 05:57 PM
Va allows it. I must admit, I felt it was way to easy for me to get married. All i did was get the marriage license. Jason filed the papers n his counselor did everything else. I didnt have to go for counseling or anything. Maybe its cuz we were engaged on the outside 7 yrs ago n have a child together? I dunno. Anyhow the warden approved it in about 3-4 weeks. We also got an hour visit after the ceremony. The only sucky thing was that we were not allowed to bring a camera in cuz of the level of the prison. It was a level 5 n for "security" reasons, no cameras were allowed. That was my only regret, but we have our memories and when he gets out we will renew our vows n have all the pics we want!

withoutmyjamie
03-06-2005, 09:22 PM
how about west virginia? Anyone know anything about gettin married here?

Blueyez94
03-07-2005, 09:55 AM
Alabama allows it..The prisons differ on how many counsiling sessions u have before getting married.

PhillyGurLL
03-08-2005, 05:43 PM
Yes! and I will be married on April 2nd, 2005 in a New York State correctional facility.

mamicita
03-11-2005, 11:24 PM
beautiful louisiana.... the little dumb jails here don't :( ...but thank goodness correctional centers do allow it.:)

JayandMe
03-20-2005, 02:31 PM
Washington Does!!!! Woo Hoo

leeperjeeper
03-22-2005, 07:05 PM
Missouri will allow inmates to marry. It will even let inmates marry each other. The Chaplan at SECC told me who to contact to perform the ceremony and sent a paper outlining all the steps that had to be taken to get married including the phone number of the County Courthouse to get the license. I am not sure that is how they do it at all Missouri facilities but so far it has been less of a problem than I imagined. BUT my beloved is in the hole so they will need to accomodate us with him behind the glass. That may turn out to be an issue.

twklstrz
05-29-2005, 05:35 PM
Arizona allows it. I just married my husband on 5-25-05.:thumbsup: It was a pretty easy process. Just had to fill out a marriage request. We both had to sign it. Then had to meet withe the chaplain, he sent his reccomendation to the warden. We waited one week for the approval. They only do marriages on Wednesdays. He is in Max security. We had to get married with him behind glass. But it was a smooth process.:thumbsup:

amusick
05-29-2005, 08:15 PM

amusick
05-29-2005, 08:17 PM
I got married in April of this year. I am in WV, but I had alot of paperwork and lots of waiting time to get it approved. I think it took about 3 months to get all of the requirements finished.

robin_n_jim
05-29-2005, 09:00 PM
The state of Indiana does allow it in most cases, the only thing I have heard where they won't allow a wedding was if the inmate was in seg., because it was a security risk, but that was only one prison, because the max prison here allows you to marry, but all prisons with very minor red tape to go through, very well worth the out come.

Shinnenmai
05-30-2005, 12:00 AM
It's OK with California, I guess. It wasn't too hard, just lots of paperwork and fees. Tom and I got married while he was in El Dorado County jail. Not romantic, but a done deal just the same. Good luck to all of you who are trying to do it, and don't give up.

ShannonL
05-30-2005, 12:07 AM
I have the rules for Brant's prison here in Ohio. I can type them up for you if it helps.

He sent them to me to be funny. heheh. ;)

Vells1&only
06-04-2005, 09:40 PM
Alabama allows it, but some counties in Alabama will not sell a license to Inmate couples.
I know that Baldwin & Escambia county will sell the license. The facility will require counselling & the request has to be approved by the warden.

ginaned
06-05-2005, 01:22 AM
Tennessee allows it but it takes up to I think 60 days and a little more to do it

LadyTee
06-07-2005, 02:24 PM
The Warden at SCI Frackville PA, told me that the state no longer allows it. I need to do more research on it though.

BillieJo
06-12-2005, 05:25 AM
from what I understand WI has guidelines but each facility interprets them as they see fit. I am currently reposnsible to provide outside couseling, inside of the prison- before the marriage. now I don't know what requirements this coulselor is supposed to have. but hell I am not approved for visitation yet so- I don't know much beyond that at this point.........

RedzReyna
06-12-2005, 10:09 AM
Texas does not allowed inmate marriages at the unit you have to get married by PROXY!! Yea i know it really suckz i would of done anything I could to be able to marry my husband at the unit =\ didnt happen!!

TBMc
06-22-2005, 10:17 AM
I got married two years ago in the prison. I researched law at the time, I'm not a lawyer. Two Supreme Court Decisions support prison marriges. One is Loving vs State of Virginia. This struck down laws against inter-racial marriages. Next was an Arkansas? case where two inmates in a prison housing both men and women wanted to marry. The Court said "marriage is a fundamental human right" and the Prison could only stop it for "valid penological purpose." All the counseling and paperwork are just foot dragging. As I told my fiance, "It will happen but they just want to delay it in case we change our mind, one of us dies, or we make a mistake." The biggest delay was getting a minister to go in and do it. Prison Chaplain would not marry us. It was nine months from first application. Tennessee Prison For Women
Tim

givens girl
06-22-2005, 01:21 PM
Yes, In the state of Georgia you can marry,and I say only from experience not long ago my husband and I married October 18, 2004.....Givensgirl

jasonsprincess
06-24-2005, 02:47 PM
I have the rules for Michigan weddings. Jay sent it to me a couple months ago so we could get started on the process....If anyone needs it let me know, I'll post it!

callen202
06-27-2005, 08:36 AM
NC allows prison weddings but when I spoke to the Chaplin where he is now in the county jail, he said they don't allow it.

RMD4EVER
07-07-2005, 04:01 PM
I WANT TO KNOW IF ANYONE IN TEXAS GOT MARRIED IN PRISON ,NOT BY PROXY THAT i KNOW THEY ALLOW

Willsgirl
07-07-2005, 05:33 PM
Texas only allows proxy, nothing else.

RMD4EVER
07-07-2005, 06:40 PM
Thank you for answering that thats too bad but guess we will do the proxy thing and renew when he comes home Texas only allows proxy, nothing else.

Msnikay
07-26-2005, 08:57 AM
whats proxy?

eddyswife39
07-26-2005, 10:37 AM
Does anyone know if Illinois allows it? We are trying to get married on paper, not just in our hearts! PM me please if anyone has done this or has any info!

magical_lady76
07-27-2005, 01:28 AM
Iowa allows it and for us it's been pretty simple! A Packet, 1 counseling, and Warden approval and we are all set and ready as soon as we decide!

cheim
09-04-2005, 11:26 AM
I have the rules for Michigan weddings. Jay sent it to me a couple months ago so we could get started on the process....If anyone needs it let me know, I'll post it!



Would be great if you could post that info for me... He is in Macomb County Correctional. Is it the same all over the state? Thanks so much...:confused:

JnV4ever
09-06-2005, 06:16 PM
Georgia does allow marriage, but in my case it has been so hard to get an application filled out because they want him to be present. I called over 15 different counties and evrybody said no, except one county. They told me to get a letter from the prison stating that we have permission and bring it ther and they would send a clerk out to the prison, I went through all of that and drove 2 hours to take the letter to the probate court and they told me they don't do that. That they have no idea who told me they do, but they don't. That it is up to a clerk if she wants to go out the prison and she wasn't going. I have found it to be so hard just to get the marriage application that it just shouldn't be legal. I wonder how do you allow prison marriages, but then have no avenue for couples to obtain the marriage application so they can purchase the license. It just makes no sense to me at all!!!!We have cancelled our wedding, it was supposed to be Saturday, September 10, 2005. I will spend that day in visitation with my man though..kinda bitter sweet, but something we have had to come to terms with.Vickie

AngelRose
09-07-2005, 08:40 AM
file://c:documentsand settings\rose\mydocuments\mypictures\rose1.jpgyes, New York does, but its a long process and we can hardly wait...hehe

G's Sunshine
09-07-2005, 08:43 AM
Where in Virginia were you married?

NJNancymae
10-08-2005, 10:17 PM
Hi Twklstrz. I am glad that I finally found someone commenting on Arizona as my love, Eric, and I are planning to marry as soon as the paperwork is approved. What facility is your husband in? Eric just got transferred to Rincon, Tucsan, from Central Unit in Florence. I live in NJ and this could be tricky meeting with the chaplain unless we could take care of everything one right after the other. Thanks for the info. NJNM ;)


Arizona allows it. I just married my husband on 5-25-05.:thumbsup: It was a pretty easy process. Just had to fill out a marriage request. We both had to sign it. Then had to meet withe the chaplain, he sent his reccomendation to the warden. We waited one week for the approval. They only do marriages on Wednesdays. He is in Max security. We had to get married with him behind glass. But it was a smooth process.:thumbsup:

nu2this05
10-10-2005, 02:15 PM
Nebraska Allows It Its Pretty Easy.

4MyBabyBoy
10-19-2005, 06:50 PM
I was married in NY almost 4 weeks ago. My experience went very easy and very quickly, thank goodness.

babyg2
11-06-2005, 08:04 AM
Alabama allows inmates to marry.

NJNancymae
12-10-2005, 11:37 PM
Hi Twklstrz. I am glad that I finally found someone commenting on Arizona as my love, Eric, and I are planning to marry as soon as the paperwork is approved. What facility is your husband in? Eric just got transferred to Rincon, Tucsan, from Central Unit in Florence. I live in NJ and this could be tricky meeting with the chaplain unless we could take care of everything one right after the other. Thanks for the info. NJNM ;)

:wave: :wave: :wave:

Well, we are now looking at January 25, 2006, as the big day when we make our loving commitment to each other. Heavy sigh. It took a while, for some reason, for the warden to give us the okay...but I went down for our first contact visit the weekend after Thanksgiving and I got the paperwork application all in order, signed, sealed and delivered from Pima County. It is a done deal except the ceremony!!! YIKES. It is really happening! I am marrying my best friend!! Well, how does song from Alanis Morrisette go? My best freind with benefits!! OH yeah.....I will be watching that clock!! tick tock tick tock! :drool: :drool: :drool: :drool: :love: :love: :drool: :drool:

HeSoHandsome
12-11-2005, 02:49 PM
Yes it does, and thank God for that because me and my husband spoke on proxy yesterday and our feeling on that was the same -- that while it works for others, which is fine, we would not do that because it would not be fine with us. Having to marry then walk away is one thing but to marry and the groom can't even be present -- I don't know what that is but I am glad that such a thing does exist. This way for people who don't want to wait, they at least have an option of not having to despite their state not doing prison marriages.

boydsgurl216
12-13-2005, 06:53 PM
hello all i posted a lil while ago but dont see it up well have a good night :rolleyes: jus in case it dont get posted i was saying that i really needed a friend because i am getting married to a inmate and seems like all or most are trying to tell me not to i thought this was mine and his choice but seems like its every ones am i the only one who feels or felt this way ? well good night all :D

shaye
12-13-2005, 07:01 PM
Florida does allow marriages . I was married January of this year in a prison.

Daves Mom
12-13-2005, 10:58 PM
My son is in a prison in Adrian Mich and the warrent wont let his fiance visit on account of a felony in the 90s. and he wont let her come up there so they can be married. they are truely against them. so what can be done, they havent seen each other since aug 2005. can anyone help with suggust. would be appricated

boydsgurl216
12-14-2005, 08:12 AM
no prob in virginia

mrsdragoness
12-14-2005, 08:17 AM
Dave's Mom, Don't give up. His fiance can continue to send requests every few months. Has she tried getting support letters from family and professional people that would say they think she should be able to visit? If your son has a minister or a social worker, see if they will write a letter of support.

IT DOES happen in Michigan..... I know of a couple who were married while she was on parole! She was granted visitation after she got out and they were able to get married.

Maybe with family support the warden will reconsider!!

albmonsters
01-07-2006, 01:02 PM
If anyone has information regarding recent Ohio marriages can you please post it?

CLNAC
07-20-2006, 10:57 PM
Does Ohio? If so, what counties or jails?

CLNAC
07-20-2006, 11:01 PM
I have the rules for Brant's prison here in Ohio. I can type them up for you if it helps.

He sent them to me to be funny. heheh. ;)

LOL why are they funny?

southrnangelgrl
07-21-2006, 10:24 PM
do you know if they allow it in south carolina? I don't know but I would love to find out so chris and I can get married.

berniesangel
07-31-2006, 04:18 PM
They allow marriages in New York. As a matter of fact my wedding day is August 9th!!!

STORMY38
08-02-2006, 03:43 PM
Louisiana allows it, with minimal red tape.:thumbsup:

rlocs75
08-08-2006, 01:15 PM
alabama does

lovelooch4eva
08-08-2006, 05:20 PM
I would like to know if they allow county jail/prison weddings in West Virginia and if so do they allow you to marry if your not living in the state where your husband to be is?

MRSMROBINSON
08-08-2006, 06:58 PM
Florida,does thank Goodness

Melissa_2006
08-08-2006, 07:05 PM
I'm curious about WV also.

BRIAN'S GIRL
08-09-2006, 07:26 PM
wv does but its a lot easier if they are in prison and not in jail, at least it was for us

Baby_Blue
09-10-2006, 09:48 AM
I know they allow marriage's in Georgia State facilities. I am unsure if there is difficulty in doing so though. I have not went through it yet.

AWOL3
09-10-2006, 09:48 PM
Read over some of the posts- does anyone know if Madison Parish in LA allows it and if they allow any extra visitation on it too?

SexyChef1
09-18-2006, 11:33 AM
Lousiana allows it..Angola....
Edfield FDI doesnt (SC)

tmwhelan
09-18-2006, 06:48 PM
does oklahoma allow it?

buttercupforwes
09-20-2006, 12:39 PM
Oklahoma does allow it. But there are so many stipulations. The facilities only do weddings at certain times of the year, some of them once or twice. AND in order to get married there is the marriage packet that has to be completed, turned in within a certain time frame, and THEN you get to wait for the warden, the prison ministry, to APPROVE your application. IF they don't approve it, either of them, you don't get to marry. You can re-apply but there are procedures for that too. I don't care what I have to go through-even he<< itself, I am marrying my man ASAP!

lovinkiah
09-20-2006, 04:05 PM
Yes! We can get married fairly easily in our state or at least in my fiancee's facility. It is what happens trying to get the FRP poppin' that the difficulty comes in.

We have our application date on 10/11/06!!!!!!!!

bikerbaby45
09-23-2006, 11:11 AM
Oklahoma does allow them, but with alot of headaches!

im_in_luv_with_
09-24-2006, 11:39 AM
It is hurting me so bad that I cannot marry this man that I consider my soul mate and the one I am going to be with forever. We have been through so much in our relationship and have been together for 2 years. We were committed to one another before he got locked up and I want to do this bid with him as his wife. He is in Albion Pennsylvania and they are giving us such a hard time that it is rediculous! Any suggestions?:angry:

bikerbaby45
09-24-2006, 03:35 PM
Here in Oklahoma it depends on alot of factors. There is a long list of prerequisets that have to be done. And if the warden decides the inmate is not marrying for the right reasons he can deny it. Ours was denied the first time. But the second time it went through. The first time was on March 6,2004 the second time we got married on November 19, 2006. We met after incarceration so it made more difficult, and our age difference. but I dont regret any moment of my decision. Good Luck! Carol:)

Squaw118
09-25-2006, 11:58 PM
Yes In Texas You Can Get Married By Proxy... But We Also Have The Common Law Marriage clause Here... My Baby Sent Me A Piece Of Paper He Had To Look Up In The Law Library And Had To Hand Write It Out.... I Have To Take It To A Notary Public And Have It Notarized And Send it Back To Him... The Prison System Here Will Accept That... Cause I Want My Baby Here When We Actually Say I Do I Dont Want Him Behind Prison Walls.....

lovinkiah
09-26-2006, 09:08 PM
It is hurting me so bad that I cannot marry this man that I consider my soul mate and the one I am going to be with forever. We have been through so much in our relationship and have been together for 2 years. We were committed to one another before he got locked up and I want to do this bid with him as his wife. He is in Albion Pennsylvania and they are giving us such a hard time that it is rediculous! Any suggestions?:angry:

Try contacting the warden, superintendent or commissioner of the prisons to get the exact procedures. Lots of times things are assumed. It may be bad but it may not be as bad. One thing I noticed (not implying that you aren't) be extremely polite. You get more bees with honey than vinegar. They should have some way. Also you can try to contact his guidance counselor. In NY we both have to write the superintendent and request permission. Once they confirm he has no (or no recent) tickets and he isn't in the box (solitary) or keep-lock they usually grant the permission. We are do to go on 10/11/06 to apply for our license.

ebonyeyes
11-03-2006, 07:13 PM
yes. Mississippi does allow it, but you have to go through warden, chaplin and other authorities and complete a marriage package. My fiancee' has no rule violation on him. I am a former employee, policy states i could start visiting after one year of seperation from the job, i have been gone almost two years, now they have banned my visitation, even though my marriage package was approved. I was visiting him then one day i went to visit as usual and was informed I was banned. Now I am trying to find ways to get married by December 9th they said that the date the wedding is set for inmates to get married. And yes Mississippi only marries inmates twice a year.

bronx2
11-03-2006, 10:11 PM
Montana allows it, but the inmate has to go through counseling, of course it has to be approved and we have to find our own father or pastor to marry us.... Even then I don't think I want to marry him while he is in.... I love him, but he knows what kind of ceremony I want and I know he wants me to be happy...

shorty's girl
11-04-2006, 07:49 AM
south carlina allows it you have to go to horry county to get the marriage license b/c there the only county that still issue marriage license to inmates. i just got all my paper work filled out and sent back to the probate court hopefully in dec. or feb i'm going to be marry my soul mate

enniz
11-04-2006, 07:54 AM
arkansas and missouri do too , as far as i know, i am planning to marry my baby some time soon, he just wrote a letter to the chaplain ...wish us luck

enniz
11-04-2006, 07:59 AM
bronx2.... him i i feel the same way even more him than me, i my self have alleays dreamed of a perfect wedding, my daughter got married two years a go, and it was a dream come true to me, but now that he ask me before all this nightmare started ..i dont know if i shoul wait, my daughters say i can just get a marriege license and do the religous ceremony when hi is out.. what do you ladies think

sunnynurse
11-04-2006, 10:05 AM
Hi! I live in texas but my boyfriend is in angola in La. we have talked about getting married but dont know if we are able to. He is in prison for life. I dont know if that poses a peoblem or not. any help would be great. thanks!

Enjay
11-05-2006, 01:09 AM
enniz,
My husband and I got married in proson in CA almost 4 years ago and we both agree that when he gets home we will renew our vows with family and friends. But it was important to us to marry when we did, to feel closer to each other. And I think it has helped keep us together becaus ethis is not an easy road and there have been times if we weren't married I might have given up. How long does he have?

Enjay
11-05-2006, 01:13 AM
Sunnynurse,
I have a freiend whoi married her hubby in prison in Texas. It was by proxy though. He was not able to be present. She and a witness who stood in for him had to go to the courthouse and get married, then they were married. I don't think the legth of the prison term matters

shorty's girl
11-05-2006, 04:58 PM
south carolina does but you have to go to horry county

shannonwilliams
11-05-2006, 05:53 PM
Hello michighan allows it.

enniz
11-08-2006, 08:12 AM
hi Enjay...he has 7 years , with a mandatory of 80% and is not eassy, but you got me thinking and you are right , he is in fulton right now(at diagnostic) , and he says he allready wrote to the caplain, i dont know, do you think they will let us do it there? i wouldnt think so, i think he will be transfered to another place in january, wish us luck

Momma B
11-08-2006, 08:17 PM
Ohio allows it too. But there is major difficulty with an inmate getting a divorce.

Foxylady101
11-09-2006, 11:48 AM
No hassle here in NY.

lin_z_82
11-12-2006, 08:40 PM
i am not so sure if my state does or not... i live in illinois, so if anyone knows, please let me know. my :love: is in dixon c.c.

DZZYXX31
11-12-2006, 08:55 PM
Here in Nevada it was pretty easy. He filed a kite to the chaplain for request to get married then i also called the chaplian and from there is was just makin sure we had all the paperwork just be persistant if you are they see then your foreal in wanting to be with this person... it took me about 6 weeks from beginning to the day we got married.. I was scared saying "HEY DAD im getting married in prison will you give me ur best." he of course came along with my mom and 2 kids and my hubby's best friend got to stand in as best man.And then after the cerimony he told my man i didnt loose a daughter i gained a new son, now get ur butt home soon!!! i wish you all the best...

Valentina
11-12-2006, 09:08 PM
Marriage is legal in every state even if the person is in prison. There is a supreme court case guaranteeing it.

Brenda Dillon
12-04-2006, 09:00 PM
I have the rules for Brant's prison here in Ohio. I can type them up for you if it helps.

He sent them to me to be funny. heheh. ;) please send them im wanting to get married and im from ohio and im lost when its comes to signing the marriage lin. my county wont let me sign without him there thank you so much mikes girl

Brenda Dillon
12-04-2006, 09:04 PM
[quote=Brenda Dillon]please send them im wanting to get married and im from ohio and im lost when its comes to signing the marriage lin. my county wont let me sign without him there thank you so much muskingum county

star24
12-06-2006, 09:32 AM
I'm glad to say NewYork allow us to get marry, I'm waiting to receive the paper work, I hope it dosen't take to long.

butterflys4ever
12-11-2006, 02:03 AM
Yes, California does allow it.

deidra100
12-26-2006, 12:00 AM
Texas Allows It

psnvyd
12-26-2006, 02:45 PM
yes new york state allows marriages and we also get trailor/conjugal visits as well.:thumbsup:

im_in_luv_with_
01-05-2007, 04:11 PM
Pennsylvania SUCKS ASS!!! We have been trying for MONTHS!! The chaplain thinks he is God and makes all the decisions. I hate it and I want to marry my Baby Boy sooooo bad. A year and a half to go though so I guess we will have to wait or fight our way through it, I have given a lawyer a call and some paper work I aquired from another inmate that was married in PA and I am waiting on her to see if she can help. Any suggestions?

im_in_luv_with_
01-05-2007, 04:14 PM
WHAT!!! I wish so bad I could get JUST ONE conjical visit. It has been 2 years for us. OMG that would be awesome. We have ways to "help each other through" though. What the guards can't see won't hurt them!!!!

2010
01-16-2007, 09:32 AM
was wondering if Virginia allows inmate marriages?

Brenda Dillon
01-18-2007, 12:43 PM
does anyone no about getting married in noble ,or conjugal visits

Brenda Dillon
01-18-2007, 12:45 PM
:rolleyes: does anyone no about getting married in noble ,or conjugal visits

Mrs.Glamma
01-18-2007, 06:09 PM
<http://www.prisontalk.com/forums/sho...&postid=335802 (http://www.prisontalk.com/forums/showthread.php?s=&postid=335802)>
This is the link to Ohio information. Hope someone can answer the facility questions for you.

honey19487
01-27-2007, 01:22 PM
I know Texas does but from what i hear, the inmate has to do a lot of the process on the inside, IS THIS CORRECT, really need some info...luv to all of you...it takes a good person to love and be patient.....honey19487

DaveMoff
01-27-2007, 09:03 PM
I believe one can do a "proxy marriage" in Texas with relative ease--not at all sure what is involved, though. As to a more traditional wedding, alas, I have no information. To the best of my knowledge, if your guy is on Death Row, you'll have to get married on opposite sides of bulletproof glass if you can believe that. They need a Romantic in prison administration somewhere!

MRSMROBINSON
01-28-2007, 08:19 PM
The State of Florida allows it!

justvicki
01-28-2007, 10:28 PM
West Virginia also allows inmates to marry.

Mrs.Renteria
01-30-2007, 01:22 PM
Hello everyone !! I'm a newcomer on this website , my older sister reffered me shes in the same situation as me my boyfriend just recently was sent to reception in Delano, CA and i would like to know how do i go about getting married . Please help !!!!

SaraTony2005
01-30-2007, 03:50 PM
iowa allows inmates to get married. just no conjucal visits. that sucks

KaNez
01-31-2007, 04:31 PM
does PA allow it??

Jillian
01-31-2007, 05:39 PM
yes they do : http://www.prisontalk.com/forums/showthread.php?s=&threadid=31520

twist71
01-31-2007, 06:41 PM
My wife and I were married while I was in prison at the Newton Correction Facility in Iowa. I was "down the hill" at the minnimun site. But while I was up the hill at the medium site I know of 2 other inmates that were married up there.

There was some paperwork involved and all in all it took about a month and a half from the time I got the packet from the chaplain.

Twist

TIPsGIRL
02-17-2007, 01:43 PM
WoW who knew it was so difficult!

Mistie013
02-28-2007, 01:26 PM
South Carolina state prisons DO NOT recognize marriages that happened while they are locked up, Federal prisons is SC will conduct the marriage. Me and my husband got married back in August of 2006 while he was in court for his PCR. I have been fighting with the SC DOC about getting his status changed since then. They are telling me that we did it illegally and they will not recognize it and will not change his status. So it looks like I will be getting a lawyer involved in this situation, because they said they would not help when we asked for their help when we first thought of getting married. But I had to send a power of attorney to him just for a marriage license and he had to sign that in front of a witness and a notary had to notarize it with a witness for her signature, 2 of them worked for SCDOC, but they couldn't assist us to get married. Well, first off I am NOT going to sign my name to something that I didn't read and it was there is BOLD BLACK LETTERS MARRIAGE LICENSE. So anyways the state messed up and now they dont know how to fix it. So good luck to all that are wanting to get married in SC!!!!!:angry: :angry: :angry: :angry:

DaveMoff
02-28-2007, 04:12 PM
Now that stinks! You might have quite a fight on your hands, and honestly should not. This actually sounds like a situation where it couldn't hurt to contact the ACLU. The worst they can do is is decline to help you.

gigilaw
03-03-2007, 01:05 AM
MRS.RENTERIA
fIRST THINGS FIRST HE NEEDS TO GET A MARRIAGE PACKAGE FROM HIS COUNSLOR AND THAN FILL OUT HIS PART AND MAIL IT TO YOU SO YOU CAN FILL OUT YOUR PART. YOU SEND NO MONEY UNTIL ITS BACK IN KELLY YAGERS HAND (SHE IS THE ONE THAT DOES THE MARRIAGES AT K.V.S.P.) ONCE THAT IS DONE SHE WILL SEND YOU A CONFORMATION LETTER AND THAN SHE WILL ASK YOU TO SEND IN THE FIRST 65.00 AND THAN YOU WILL HAVE A DATE. tHE DAY YOU GET MARRIED YOU WILL THAN BRANG WITH YOU 95.00. GOOD LUCK AND KELLY WILL HELP YOU OR ANSWER ANY OF YOUR QUESTIONS. JUST CALL THE PRISON 661-721-6300 AND ASK FOR KELLY YAGER.

utcrush72
03-03-2007, 04:25 AM
Where are you in TN. I am in Bristol. PM me if you are close.

MsAkbar
03-12-2007, 01:30 AM
Yup.

ShaadGyrl
03-12-2007, 06:25 PM
Texas Allows it!!:yay: Yippeeee and thank GOD that they do!!!
You have to do a proxy marriage though. I'm getting married on 3-21-07 and I had to send my Shaad the Absent Applicant Affidavit form (get it from the county clerk's office) and he didn't have to get it notarized. There are 2 types of forms :one requires a notary and the other doesn't. They don't tell you about the one that doesn't, you have to ASK! You get that from the county clerk's office in the county you want to get married in (Mine was Harris County) and then once you get the paperwork back you take it along with $41.00 (amt may vary in diff't counties) to the county clerk's office at least 72 hrs prior to when you want to get married and then on the date you want to get married the person that is going to "stand-in" for him comes with you and you also pay $40.00 Cash (may vary in diff't county) to the Judge who is going to perform your marriage. My stand in is my close homegirl Fran! So, it doesn't matter who stands in whether its malel, female, family, or friend. Hope this helped!:thumbsup:

larry's lady
03-14-2007, 08:39 PM
Which states have conjugal visits?

Eia
03-15-2007, 05:47 AM
Well I know that Washington does, because my fiance is from there and reminds me of it when he is feeling particularly frustrated..But since he is in a fed prison there's nothing!!:D

CMaJoR
03-17-2007, 10:53 PM
good to know iowa allows marriages.. does it depend on the persons sentence or does it not matter??

Mrs.Glamma
03-28-2007, 09:15 PM
good to know iowa allows marriages.. does it depend on the persons sentence or does it not matter??

Hope you can find some answers in this link.
http://www.prisontalk.com/forums/showthread.php?s=&threadid=35048

triniswife
03-30-2007, 09:10 AM
NY allows marriages and family reunion visits.... i cant wait to get mine. oh yeah, gotta get married first..lol ....that is a short time coming. my baby is in s-block right now but, when he gets out we gonna do the dang thang :-D

SME
04-15-2007, 06:06 PM
Washington Does... But It Is A Lot Of Time & Involves The Killing Of Many Trees. :)

MaddyRuiz
04-18-2007, 08:10 AM
yes they allow it in arizona but the prison counslers could be a real pain in the but about it :blah:

mkserendipity
04-19-2007, 12:17 PM
Does anyone know anything about getting married in WA? Preferably the Stafford Creek Correction Center? Any help on this would be great and really appreciated.

k8bryan477
04-24-2007, 11:35 AM
California does allow it, but they keep making the process more extensive. It can take quite a bit of time and be a lot of paperwork and running around. They really make sure that you are serios.

nad_25
05-03-2007, 09:48 AM
Alabama allows marriages! :)

mediprod
05-19-2007, 01:14 PM
Does anyone know anything about getting married at EJSP in Rahway?? My fiance is in the camps and I live all the way in Florida, so the only way we'll be able to get him transferred down here is to get married before he's released. I'm having a tough time trying to find information about the process, and I've gone through all the posts here, but it seems like there's info on every other state and prison than the one I'm looking for :D Any help would be GREATLY appreciated.

babygirl350
05-19-2007, 09:38 PM
Kentucky allows it. Thank heavens!

mediprod
05-27-2007, 01:55 PM
If anyone is trying to get married and your loved one is at EJSP and you feel like you're going crazy trying to figure out what to do, PM me! We recently went through the process and I can let you know where online you can find the info you need, what your man/ woman has to do from their end, and can even provide you a person that will perform the ceremony (yep, you have to have someone come to the prison to do it!) for a reasonable price. I thought I was going to lose my mind trying to get everything organized, especially since I live in FLORIDA and he's in JERSEY!!! I wouldn't want anyone else to go through that, so if you need help or info, let me know!!

TomT
05-28-2007, 11:18 AM
Arizona allows it

mindi1
07-08-2007, 08:35 PM
hello i was wondering does toledo ohio (TOCI) allow you to get married there? and if so how long does the process take, the reason im asking is my fiancee and i have talked bout it, but hes getting out in novemember, so i was wondering if we still had enough time to

mike's angel
07-09-2007, 09:31 AM
Are you serious? I was told they don't allow any kind of weddings.....and it's from someone who works for the prison system???? Now I'm confused!! My fiance is a transfer from Colorado.

teetee1204
07-24-2007, 05:06 AM
Does anyone know if South Carolina allow prison marriages?

Empty
07-24-2007, 11:25 AM
Does anyone know if Illinois allows marriages in the receiving center @ Stateville or at the boot camps?

make475
08-03-2007, 04:39 PM
Oklahoma allows it.

johns love
08-09-2007, 06:44 AM
yes georgia allows it i am going through the process now it has been a complete pain everything is so difficult nobody seems to know anything for sure so i am on my on i am going to have to drive 4 hours to the only county i have been able to find to get the marriage license then after i do that there are still quit a few steps i have to go through but i guess its like that old saying "the things you will do for love" and i have come to find out that saying is very much true

KathiR
08-16-2007, 11:47 AM
Does anyone know if South Carolina allow prison marriages?

teetee,

If they don't, consider going through your church. Ask your minister if the church has its own bylaws that allow proxy marriages. There are some alternative churches that also allow marriage by proxy for incarcerated citizens.

Look at Spiritual Humanism Church, Progressive Universal Life Church and First Nation Church or do a Google search. First Nation allows proxy marriages and marriages between same-sex partners, while Spiritual Humanism offers inexpensive "marriage licenses" which may, or may not, be recognized everywhere.

mrs.battsiii
08-16-2007, 12:45 PM
very easy at CWCC. and on a day when the place was going through shakedown. good thing battman kept his cool. a CO said- it might not happen today. he said - it will happen today. then spoke to the warden who said since i came from AZ!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! it will happen. in 30 minutes we were escorted to the law library- on the inside! wow. :thumbsup:

KathiR
08-17-2007, 12:15 AM
whats proxy?

Oops. I screwed up earlier referring to proxy marriage when I meant prison marriage, and I can't edit the old post. My dumb.

Simply defined, a proxy marriage is one where someone stands in for the absent party, or where the absent party "attends" either by phone or video conference. The most common examples: one party is in the military or is incarcerated.

Montana once had the most liberal law regarding proxy marriages, and even allowed *double* proxy weddings, with stand-ins for both parties to the marriage, and neither party had to be a resident of Montana. I haven't reviewed the law recently, but I think they may have changed the law a while back.

Of course, this may have already been covered in this thread (sorry!)

I love it that several people have mentioned that proxy wouldn't work for them because they wanted to be there on the wedding day. That's truly wonderful and makes perfect sense! :blush:

jackies girl
09-10-2007, 01:27 PM
does texas allow inmates to marrie

lexibombay
09-25-2007, 06:06 AM
Florida allows it
Is your sweetheart in Prison or in jail? I have my sweetheart in jail but is facing deportation, and if he goes it will break my heart!

God Bless you and those dearest!

Warmest regards,

Lexi

fyrenspyce
02-01-2008, 07:33 PM
I am not sure if "my" state of Mississippi allows inmate marriages or not. I feel that they probably do, as they do allow conjugal visits as well. However, NC (where my sweetheart is) does allow marriages and we plan to get married this year! We were aiming for mid-March, but he landed himself in seg. recently and so our wedding date will be postponed a bit!

luvnmissNATE
02-03-2008, 01:43 PM
Does anyone know if South Carolina allow prison marriages?


I was told that SC did away w/ prison marriages, I'm not certain how true that is but I'll let you know if I find out anything

LadyChampion
02-04-2008, 08:34 AM
Ohio allows it but I'm not sure yet of how difficult it is or not because we've just began the process, but I will keep you posted.

derricksgirl07
02-14-2008, 04:16 PM
Does Indiana allow it

HeandI4Ever
02-14-2008, 04:42 PM
What about In Vitro (to have a baby; while he is in prison)??? Any information?

chuieycuzca22
02-14-2008, 07:58 PM
just got married in GA today!!! Happy Valentines day!!!

JoeysGurl4Lyfe
02-14-2008, 08:38 PM
yes michigan allows marriage in prison

Kemiller
02-25-2008, 05:14 PM
Texas allows marriage but only by proxy.

mskena24
02-25-2008, 07:16 PM
hey ladies just wanted to let you know if anyone needs information on getting married in Florida, marriages can be perfomed via a notary public. I am a licensed notary public, and i will be willing to marry people in the state of Florida. I am not sure how it works. I belive the only thing is that they have to add me onto there visiting list, and you call the prison and let them know that you want to get married. I come and witness and say the spill (dearly beloved we are gathered here today). and then file the paperwork and you are married. i can get more information if you would like. My fiance is in Ohio, and we are having difficulty getting married. so i would be willing to help out any any way i can cause i know how hard it is! you can pm me with any questions....

dmdeubel
03-05-2008, 02:18 PM
Do you still have to have a years worth of counseling in va?? I hate the commenwealth!!!!! Me and my man were hoping to get married right after he got moved out of recieving!

Isweoriswenot
03-13-2008, 03:12 PM
I think that it is illegal to ban inmate marriages, but they get around that. They give you 1000 reasons why you cant. I think that even states like Illinois and Georga can get marriages, but in some cases you may have to have money to fight for your legal rights.

I agree as well. I think it should be an inmate's legal right if they want to get married. Me and my fiance' really want to get married, but in SC they really don't want that to be able to happen, before it could, but now they have put up so many roadblocks it's hard to get it to happen.:( So I guess we'll be waiting until he gets out.

twixnstix
03-13-2008, 03:19 PM
they do in california.... and you get family visits so you can do your thing and have a family if you want. but only if they have a release date... they dont have it for lifers anymore.

eeniaLorr
05-02-2008, 07:27 AM
In Georgia we were able to get married. I have heard varying rates of difficulty, however, we did not encounter too much red tape. Right prison, right county.

14monthsleft
05-03-2008, 12:28 AM
Arizona...piece of cake!

sandrapiazza
05-11-2008, 12:33 AM
Yes Michigan does allow it.
I KNOW TEXAS DOES I HOPE YOURS DOES TO WISH YOU LUCK:)

imurhuckleberry
05-16-2008, 01:13 PM
MA allows it as well and if there is anyone out there who has married in a MA prison i would like a lot of information. I've been to the MA.gov site so I know the laws but I want to know about other things so please help!!!

kae
05-23-2008, 07:46 PM
georgia allows marriages, but getting the license is the tricky. most counties won't give you a license if the groom and bride aren't present. it can be done, you just have to have patience and be persistent. prayerful too........

splitin88
06-07-2008, 04:50 PM
Arizona...piece of cake!
How do we go about it, my man is currently in Florence arizona at FCC. What do we need I live in Illinois.

splitin88
06-07-2008, 04:53 PM
How do we go about it I live in Illinois he is locked up in Florence, AZ? Can I gather what's needed or is it up to the jail?

NtShadow
07-02-2008, 07:01 PM
How do we go about it I live in Illinois he is locked up in Florence, AZ? Can I gather what's needed or is it up to the jail?
He needs to get the marriage packet from his CO III.

NtShadow
07-02-2008, 07:03 PM
Arizona is easy, but it's done differently for each county as well as complex.

lisharon
07-08-2008, 04:03 PM
you can get married in alabama too. i have a friend that will be married in august if her fiance is not out by august!

1dayclosertohim
09-05-2008, 02:45 AM
Marriages are allowed. The biggest obstacle is if the Chaplain is on top of his job & if he doesnt have a chaplain avail the search to find one I think is most frustrating for ladies I've spoken with.

I have posted the marriage packet & process info on my blog for the facility my fiance is at. (Florence Crane, Coldwater, MI) Its usually the same but for specific rquirements be sure to have your fiance request the info from his/her chaplain at their facility.

We are now waiting for our witnesses' LEIN checks and we should be given our date for some time in Sept or Oct. :) We're so excited!! :)

Soņando de Mi Amor,
Dedicada

Temeron0926
09-05-2008, 02:59 AM
Well, I live in Idaho, and he is incarcerated in WA (ok, sorta, kinda, not really! He is in MN right now.....out of state transfer) but when he gets back to WA we are getting married. It is a process I am sure, but it will be totally worth it.

Miss Superwoman
09-08-2008, 09:39 AM
Yes and No in South Carolina. There are few counties that will grant a marriage license to an inmate and after that it is up to the Warden at each institution to grant permission.

sherrysunshine
10-12-2008, 06:50 PM
Louisiana allows it. I am glad because we are getting married as soon as I finish getting the paperwork together. I am so excited. I love him very much.

indianawmn7798
10-14-2008, 08:25 PM
Indiana allows it :thumbsup:

Junie Dragoo
11-27-2008, 06:37 AM
Texas allows marriage, we got married common law first so we can have our contact visits. We will get married soon by proxy so I can officially change my last name...WOO HOO! I love my baby, he is my life!

smoser
12-10-2008, 09:28 AM
North Carolina allows it...all with paperwork involved and permissions from officials but each camp is different in how well they will work with you.

DavidsGirl4Ever
12-11-2008, 04:48 PM
California does and we just got our approval to get married....yay!

Mrs.Official05
12-12-2008, 09:02 AM
Nevada does

shortcake757
01-13-2009, 09:38 PM
Does anyone know the process in Virginia? He is in Stafford Diversion and even though I changed my last name to his in 2003, since we are not married, I can not visit him.........

jen31588
01-13-2009, 11:19 PM
Im trying to find out how Jersey's procedures may be and in the process so far of just getting info from social services it seems like no one really wants to cooperate- i can see now that this may take some time but i aint goin no where i'll let u know how it goes- but yea its allowed in Jersey

Lion's Victory
01-14-2009, 08:51 AM
I'm so glad FLORIDA does...now it's just deciding if I want to get married while he's in there...

mrs phillips
01-14-2009, 12:56 PM
i want to get married but have no clue where to start. can anyone help me? im in texas and my honeys on gib lewis unit

6.9 and waiting
01-14-2009, 04:59 PM
Yes Arizona allows it!

RavenMorrigan
03-01-2009, 05:05 PM
Im not positive, but from what I've read I believe its allowed in Nebraska...My fiance is presently incarcerated in Virginia and I know its allowed there.

indianawmn7798
03-05-2009, 01:15 AM
Yes it is allowed in Indiana but not without some MAJOR jumping through hoops and roadblocks. My fiance and I are currently fighting the IDOC to get married.

margym
03-06-2009, 05:59 PM
missouri we ask to be married and as of jan 2009 thay stoped all weddings until farther notice i spoke with the chaplin and he is trying to get it back and said he would let us know of any changes thank you margym

onesweetie
03-08-2009, 12:26 PM
Cali-allows it!

homewell2do
03-18-2009, 06:20 PM
:angry:I need help getting married in a north carolina prison system. They allow it but we have been told no.

esteli
03-20-2009, 10:43 PM
All states allow it. the United States Supreme Court made a ruling and this is across the board.

lilmamarogers08
04-04-2009, 02:12 PM
Does anyone know if South Carolina allows Prison Marriages? My fiance is in state prison and I am not sure where to start. He is not due to come home until 2011 and we are both wanting to get married now while he is in, and then do it big when he comes home! can someone please help me, I want to marry my baby.

lilmamarogers08
04-04-2009, 02:18 PM
Yes and No in South Carolina. There are few counties that will grant a marriage license to an inmate and after that it is up to the Warden at each institution to grant permission.
Hey do you know how I can find out how to go about it, i was an ex state employee, and my fiance is incarcerated in state prison in sc, and they have denied me visiting him for 1 yr and that expires July of this year, but i have filed a name change with the courts to change my last name to his to get in for visitation, but we are wanting to get married, can you please direct me to where i need to contact. I am so lost and lonely... and scdc is so messed up with their policies... HELP

:(

lilmamarogers08
04-04-2009, 02:29 PM
south carlina allows it you have to go to horry county to get the marriage license b/c there the only county that still issue marriage license to inmates. i just got all my paper work filled out and sent back to the probate court hopefully in dec. or feb i'm going to be marry my soul mate
hey, i was wondering if you could give me some information. i am in south carolina, and my fiance is in a sc prison, we are wanting to get married, but the county that i live in says that both parties need to be present for the applying of the license.

do i go to horry county and apply with all his information too,and where do i get all of the paperwork?? our preacher is willing to marry us, but i am not permitted to visit him due that i used to be employed with scdc and was terminated when they found out that he was in the prison system...i cant visit him until after i reapply in July of this year, the good thing was i saw him for the first time in a year this april 1st, 2009 at the county court, and actually hugged and talked, but it hurt so bad to know he had to go back and now we have to rely on calls and letters once again! can you please help me?? he is my soul mate, and we love one another and he accepted my child as his own too... my name tattooed on his neck, my daughters name on his arm.... i am so lost and very depressed:(

Kat
04-05-2009, 06:41 PM
Georgia does

willsbaby209287
04-05-2009, 10:31 PM
Yes Michigan allows it.My husband and I were married in prison in 2000.There was relatively no major problems,no couseling,just paper work.But they choose the date for you.Wedding bands are allowed.

wabbit
my friend and his wife got married in carson city mi and got to choose the date they wanted to get married on i stood up his wife and his best man and i fell in love 2000 when we meat and he ask me to be come him wife so it go to show u all love does happen when you lot looking for it and i so happy it has and gl to u and your hubby sorry u did not get to pick your date

you_kno_iit
04-22-2009, 03:09 PM
D0es nj allow it?and how long d0es an inmate have to be sentenced in order to do it..mine is sentenced for 2yrs 6mths for now but he had gotten a new charge so i dont kno if that is goin to affect him yet..

~*HiS WiFeY*~
04-23-2009, 12:34 PM
Ugh im so upset, because my fiance is not sentenced yet we can not get married :-( Its been 7 months or so we've been engaged, we've been together 5 years, and they wont let us get married because legally hes not "award of the state" or some b.s....Im so sad now!!!!

msdenagall
05-12-2009, 08:19 AM
Texas does allow marriage by proxy but in louisiana (where my fiancee is) they dont. But in louisiana they will let you marry your cousin (ridiculous). But i went to the county clerks office here in texas and they said it doesnt matter where he is located just as long as all paperwork and ceremony is in texas

kuttyswife
05-12-2009, 01:26 PM
I'm in Maryland and just got our approval yesturday. So we're getting married May 27th

BertsErnie
06-04-2009, 01:11 PM
I can't marry my Boyfriend because he is in New Jersey and I'm in North Carolina..... New Jersey says I have to live there in order to get married...... :( I am so sad we found out like a week ago!!

blznmixedmami
06-10-2009, 08:15 AM
Does anyone know if PA allows it?

Locked & Loaded
06-10-2009, 02:30 PM
Ohio does!

MISSGRUMPY805
06-13-2009, 09:27 PM
Does anybody know if arizona alows it???

timsbaby41
06-13-2009, 09:38 PM
Maine does and so does New Hampshire

yogiritz
06-15-2009, 04:32 AM
NORTH CAROLINA ALLOWS MARRIAGES BUT YOUVE GOT TO GO THROUGH SO MUCH TO DO IT


My boyfriend and I would like to get married. He is at bertie in north carolina. does anyone know what the process is, how much it costs, etc. Any information would be greatly appreciated.

DuckGoose
06-18-2009, 10:47 AM
It is a prisoners constitutional right to marry and regulations interfering with that right must be reasonably related to penological interest (security reasons)

dezzie1
06-19-2009, 09:33 AM
Did you ever find out? My fiance and I want to get married also?Does anyone know if South Carolina allow prison marriages?

hisbabygirl1107
06-28-2009, 03:22 PM
Maryland allows it. As a matter of fact, me and my husband just got married on the 18th.

Mrs. Tillmon
06-28-2009, 03:32 PM
Virginia allows it.

SexyChef1
07-14-2009, 10:02 AM
Has anyone ever heard or marriages in Supermax?

Dramarella
08-04-2009, 12:51 PM
I am from washington state and am desprite to marry my boyfriend who will soon be an inmate but i dont know how. Can anyone help me??? Does anyone know if it is legal to marry in Washington state and how do you go about doing that???? Please if anyone knows help!!! Thank you

PhilsWifey4Lyfe
08-04-2009, 03:15 PM
ny allows it.... with alot of crap we have to go threw....... !

carrie860
08-06-2009, 07:58 PM
north carolina does, but yup it's difficult!!!

**MiSSiN U**
08-06-2009, 08:26 PM
CALiFORNiA DOES :)

tamlee
08-06-2009, 08:34 PM
Hey Guys My boyfriend is doing 26 years since 2001 and we are still gosing strong, but lastnight I was watching lockup on tv on florida state prison in the female prison the vistation park was empty!!! and male was full, it makes me wonder if I was in Prison, would my man stand by me??? what yall think

ACAC8080
09-17-2009, 02:44 PM
hey,
my name is anna
i seen your post we are in the same exact boat about former employeee wanting to marry inmate my boyfriend is in. I left SCDC 5 years ago and still denied visitation!!!!! I had no issues, write ups etc left on my own accord.....I didnt even work with male population!!! They will just not let me into see him. We want to get married as well but cant!!! Can you please help me??? any advice?????? please!!!!!

Anna




hey, i was wondering if you could give me some information. i am in south carolina, and my fiance is in a sc prison, we are wanting to get married, but the county that i live in says that both parties need to be present for the applying of the license.

do i go to horry county and apply with all his information too,and where do i get all of the paperwork?? our preacher is willing to marry us, but i am not permitted to visit him due that i used to be employed with scdc and was terminated when they found out that he was in the prison system...i cant visit him until after i reapply in July of this year, the good thing was i saw him for the first time in a year this april 1st, 2009 at the county court, and actually hugged and talked, but it hurt so bad to know he had to go back and now we have to rely on calls and letters once again! can you please help me?? he is my soul mate, and we love one another and he accepted my child as his own too... my name tattooed on his neck, my daughters name on his arm.... i am so lost and very depressed:(

Shorty8606
09-23-2009, 01:12 AM
I've never worked for SCDC so unfortunately I can't help with that portion. However, my fiance is incarcerated in SC and we are trying to get married. We finally got his birth certificate, but his Social security card seems impossible to get so we're still looking for a way to get that. Anyway, I just called Horry County today since we had the paperwork sent to us last year. Apparently, they have changed their policy so the affidavit that has to be filled out by an SCDC employee now has to condone the inmates having a ceremony. Before it only had to verify the inmate was incarcerated at that location. Linda said most SCDC facilities won't do anything to help inmates get married, but hopefully your fiance is at one of the places that will assist. The number to dial for Horry couny probate is (843) 915-5370. You'll need to speak with Linda Gerald. Good luck and let me know if you find some useful information.



hey,
my name is anna
i seen your post we are in the same exact boat about former employeee wanting to marry inmate my boyfriend is in. I left SCDC 5 years ago and still denied visitation!!!!! I had no issues, write ups etc left on my own accord.....I didnt even work with male population!!! They will just not let me into see him. We want to get married as well but cant!!! Can you please help me??? any advice?????? please!!!!!

Anna

missmyhubby735
09-25-2009, 10:47 AM
florida allows it, but with a little difficulty, you have to attend alot of meetings with the chaplain to ensure him that you are ready to get married and etc.. Thats why me and my fiance decided to wait until he comes home b/c he's about 7 hours away from me and i wouldnt be able to make it to all the meetings when i would have to.