My boyfriend just went to prison for 2 years for DV against me and I was wondering if I will be able to vist him while he is in ?? As far as I know there is no restraining order between us.. I just wonder if the prison will say I can't come.

yes you should be allowed to visit
I know in California you would be able to visit

I had heard that maybe since it was against me that I might not get approved. Even if it doesent work out I want to support him while he is there.. (I know this is not a popular choice) For now I just feel like it's the right thing to do.

im going through the same thing. i feel bad as well and im doing the unpopular choice. but it makes me sleep better at night

You will probably be able to visit him but when he is released California DOC will probably place a no contact with you threw his parole officer.

I know that in your shoes I would probably visit as well.....but don't you think that will make it harder to let go? If my BF went to prison for hurting me and I visited him throughout and wrote letters and such....and then, he was released with a no contact! I don't know, I think while he is gone is the best time to let go. It may be the only way you can. Use this time to think about YOU. (Wish I could practice what I preach)

Brandy - why would you feel bad for not supporting someone who beat you silly? After all, if he were a dog and he bit you over and over, would you go back and hug him? He'd just bite again.

I'm a wife and there is a protective order. I can't visit him now but after the case is done/sentencing, then, the p.o. is supposed to go away and I hope it does. I need to talk and write and visit him.

I am going through the same thing as well!! Today was my fiance's sentencing in court, I was there and tried to get the no contact order modified to a do not harass... but the judge said that it would be up to his parole officer when he gets released!! I'm so upset, he's got 16 months to serve and not knowing whether or not if I'm going to get approved to visit him once he is transferred to prison is killing me!!

:shrug: From what I understand California has some of the toughest DV laws in America. I feel bad for you ladies from there waiting to hear but I am also thankful at the same time that my abuse happened there and I am protected from my abuser. :)

I know this isnt my post but my bf went in for a DA reject now hes on parole hold do you think i can go see him with our kids if we still have the order the po wouldnt release until he finished his classes.

lost - if the PO doesn't lift the order, then don't put him in jeopardy by trying to see him. You could easily get him revoked.