Since this is such a supportive site, I just have to find out if there are others in similar situations. Lately my bf has been really nasty to me over the phone. He is all on this "you have another guy with you" kick for no reason. He doesn't understand that I have been waiting a year for him and will continue to wait, but he has to trust me. It is driving me crazy to feel that he thinks that I would go out creeping. And I just can't deal with him stressing me out with his funky, delusional attitude! Has anyone had any problems with their man being a little paranoid about their relationship after being in a certain amount of time? What did you do to get past it?

You are preaching to the choir!! Doesn't that just bite your butt? I call it PMS - Prison Male Syndrome. At first they are ok, getting used to the system, they adapt, stick close with you, we all adjust. Then they start to see guys finding out their wives left, cheated, have a boyfriend, got pregnant, whatever. So instead of going "Man am I so glad I have a really good woman sticking by me and I need to tell her that" they start going "I wonder if that will happen to me?" So the craziness creeps into their brain and you know other guys start feeding it since they have nothing better to do than mess with each other. Next thing you know, you got a whole big insecurity pity party going full steam and there is nothing you can do to stop it. Only time can fix it.

I used to get so ticked. "Why do you doubt me? If you think I am THAT type of woman, you need to look elsewhere because I thought you knew I wasn't a tramp." Now, if he starts it, I just go "We are NOT gonna waste this money on this phone call on this crap."

I think you hit a hurdle at about 18 months. If you make it that far, you are in it for the long haul. They start to realize you are still there. Or they can always be a butthead and ask "are you sure you aren't seeing someone else?" for the rest of his time in there. Best thing you can do is ask him why does he feel you are cheating on him and are you really the type to do that to him or to the 'us' you two have created?

He must really believe this BS because he hasn't called me to apologize or anything. Monday is my b-day, and it is going to suck if I don't hear from him!

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Thank u, gurl...lol

Men don't think like we do.

Telll him to chill and he's starting to sound like he's becoming institutionilized.. They really hate when you say that and check themselves.

I agree with dwfighterva. I also believe that misery loves company and he is surrounded around quite a few negative people who don't care to see others happy. It is easy in the prison life to fall into the negativity. Just don't stop telling him, if you truly love him, go to any lengths possible to prove it. It is so hard to believe anything behind those walls. (Trust me, I just got out after doing 5 years) Good luck and have a WONDERFUL Birthday!!!

I too agree with Myersp0870 abd dwfighterva.....there is so much negativity within the system and something that my baby uses to keep him positive is God...I know we all have different beliefs and he is a God fearing man, even when he is home, he tries to find positive people (which is hard) to hang with or just mainly stays to himself....it can be done...but definitely not always easy to feed into the negativity...good luck and happy birthday!!! But no matter what just keep encouraging him and reassure him every chance you get....good luck and happy birthday

it is all in his head. he get over it when he realizes that you are still down than he get over it and just let him be an butt head he get over it soon i hope for your sake

LOL!!!! PMS- Prison Male Syndrome!!!!! tha was my laguh for today. Thanks!:haha::haha::haha::haha::haha:






You are preaching to the choir!! Doesn't that just bite your butt? I call it PMS - Prison Male Syndrome. At first they are ok, getting used to the system, they adapt, stick close with you, we all adjust. Then they start to see guys finding out their wives left, cheated, have a boyfriend, got pregnant, whatever. So instead of going "Man am I so glad I have a really good woman sticking by me and I need to tell her that" they start going "I wonder if that will happen to me?" So the craziness creeps into their brain and you know other guys start feeding it since they have nothing better to do than mess with each other. Next thing you know, you got a whole big insecurity pity party going full steam and there is nothing you can do to stop it. Only time can fix it.

I used to get so ticked. "Why do you doubt me? If you think I am THAT type of woman, you need to look elsewhere because I thought you knew I wasn't a tramp." Now, if he starts it, I just go "We are NOT gonna waste this money on this phone call on this crap."

I think you hit a hurdle at about 18 months. If you make it that far, you are in it for the long haul. They start to realize you are still there. Or they can always be a butthead and ask "are you sure you aren't seeing someone else?" for the rest of his time in there. Best thing you can do is ask him why does he feel you are cheating on him and are you really the type to do that to him or to the 'us' you two have created?

My guy has been in prison for a year now and he always tells me he can't let his self think about that or he'd go crazy!