My husband is back in the county....he has a court date set for 1/23 and at that time he will know when he will be going back....it is not a case of IF - but a case of WHEN.

I filed divorce last month. I cannot handle this!

oh no....what happend?

gosh, i'm soo sorry. i can only imagine what you are going through. thoughts and prayers go out to you!

I didn't even see this!! Didn't even realize you'd posted anything about it!! I'm sorry hon!! You know I love ya and am here for ya...whenever/whatever!! I just hate all the hell he caused and put you through during those few short months he was a free man!!!

(((HUGS)))

I am so sorry! I know this is breaking your heart. You are in my prayers.

[quote=stephrn]I am so sorry! I know this is breaking your heart. You are in my prayers.

I am so sorry! What happened? Did he come home and get to clownin?

I am so sorry!! What happened what did he do... My husband got out last month, but we are going through some crap too but it is not his fault... His po would not send off his drug test for conformation because he knew he has not done drugs and we had one done and it was negative and he even took a hair follicule test and it was negative and they still are hard on him, but I just look at it as a trial we are going through...

My husband is back in the county....he has a court date set for 1/23 and at that time he will know when he will be going back....it is not a case of IF - but a case of WHEN.

I filed divorce last month. I cannot handle this!


I am so sorry, I know how you feel. This is my first relationship with someone who is in prison. We have been together off and on for 9 1/2 yrs. I say off and on cause I would try to fill his shoes in someone else, but failed at all attempts and he and I seem to find our way back to each even after telling the other we were not going to take the other back, but we have been back together now for a year and 2mos. I think it helps cause of our daughter. He makes me feel something that no one else can. What are they really like when they come home? Do they end up going back to their old ways? Does is help theim from going back to their old ways if they are in a new city, starting over or does it just depend on them!?

I wish you luck and we are always here for you!!!!!!:grouphug:

Prayers are being sent yor way and follow your heart...this stuff dealing with all the bullcrap can be really difficult. I feel for you.

I just found this and thought I would UPDATE you guys......

Well, Terry came home July 23, 2007 - we got married on August 9, 2007 - within a few weeks he was at the devils door and the crack dealers touching distance......figuratively speaking!

We separated October 2007. We kept in touch off and on til the last week of November to which he called and told me to GO TO HELL and hung up on me...like his addiction was MY FAULT.....arrrrgh!!! Anyway, I didn't see or hear from him til Christmas Day when he called and told me he was in jail and wanted me to bail him out....NOT!!!

He then got a parole violation slapped on him and there was no chance of parole at that point. I filed the divorce in December during his absence but because I could not pay all the fees til January...they did not go forth with it for fear of me giving in - AGAIN NOT!!! I finally paid them the whole $1,219.00 and they filed the divorce....

As of March 3, 2008 - I am a DIVORCED WOMAN! He is currently an inmate at the Limestone Correctional Facility in Harvest, Alabama.......again, alone <----meaning him NOT ME.....I am happy! I have a great life.....I am not seeing anyone or have any prospective boyfriends....hehe....but I am a mommy to the most wonderful little girl and I have a great job and lots of friends.

His loss!!!

I am soooo sorry you went thru all this. But I am soooo glad things are going well for you. :yes:

Oh, thank you but don't you dare worry about me....I am fine as can be! Life comes at ya fast...however you have to deal with it! I love ME!!! I am not conceded or anything...just know that I cannot worry about someone that does not worry about themselves (him)..

just know that I cannot worry about someone that does not worry about themselves (him)..


Truer words were never spoken. Keep rockin' on lady, I'm proud of you :yes:

Thank you, Chic, I needed that!

I realized during his bid and my wait......that HE did it to himself, HE had addictions that he had to control, HE made his choices, HE is the one that is losing out. I am one BBW that has alot to offer and a heart the size of the state I live in.....and Alabama ain't THAT small, you know? Hehe!!!

So, here is to the me that was once with an inmate - married a parolee - and lived to tell about it!!!

Sorry you had to go through this, (((HUGS))), but you sound like you have a good head on your shoulder. Wishing you a life time of happiness with your little girl and all your dreams come true. Its his loss and he did it to himself. Look forward and never look back.

WOW! You are an amazing woman. You have loved and lost(so to speak) and lived to tell about it. May you have an abundant of blessings come your way.

Actually I have to agree with you.........I have blessings everyday and they are that I chose to be a MOMMY and not a wife of a CRACK ADDICT! I knew when I waited on him what he had done and where he had been. I knew that he was an addict when we got together and then married.....I believed in our love and the fact that I was good to him.........it didn't work out for anything I done so for that I have NO REGRETS! I don't wish I had not married him or been with him or waited on him....I regret that I didn't get him to do more around here before he went off the deep end - Haha! Just kidding........I don't really have any regrets! There is a future so bright out there......sometimes I have to wear shades!!!

Something is wrong with this whole picture...I keep seeing people go back in jail b/c of major addictions( like where brain chemistry is altered)...So I see the failure in the Rehabs in the prisons...I'm reading things like inmates going thru these programs...Fake it an Make it...So the instructors in the Rehab make their pay check and really don't care as long as they get paid for not really helping...They know people with crack, meth, coke etc. have major major problems with drugs...they just don't care sorta like move um out move um in...knowing they have not done a bit of good...So, I've come to the conclusion that these Drug Rehab programs need to be looked at in the system...someone has all ready got the money for these programs and put the money in their pockets so why should they care about a drug user...just thinking outloud...

U are completely right....I think so too. The sad part about all this is - they can get drugs in just like out...and that is where my ex's problem was. He kept doing drugs while in therefore he never really was rehabilitated...you know? And in these maximum security places - I truly believe that the CO's are the ones that help get it in.....and then they act like nothing is wrong as long as they make some inmate money. Now that is just me thinking outloud as you said.

Well, I agree also. The CO's are so strict on the vistors but not on each other. Although, as I was leaving from my visit today and the guards were changing shifts they were searched just more than we were. I thought we were walking through airport security (LOL). I am thankful that they are now doing that in this particular facility, fewer drugs. I wish that I could say that there were no drugs though.

Don't we all......humans are the killers of themselves...you know. All these drugs are man made and that is sad. I wish that the world would open up and all the drugs would fall in.......wishful thinking! A fairytale in my own mind, huh?