View Full Version : I Lost My Mom To The State Of Florida
cheryl32778 12-11-2007, 11:42 PM my mom is 61, she has never been in trouble in her whole life. the only thing she is truly guilty of is loving her son to much. my brother is a mentally ill person ( enough said or i will start ranting ). she recieved a sentence of five years, but on oct the 14th 2007 I got the call that all of us dread, she was in ocala at the hospital on life support with no chance for recovery. they waited three weeks!!!!! before they even called me. I had no idea were she was or what had happened. I got to see her hooked up to tubes and vents and monitors of every sort. I was out of my mind with grief and anger. Then i had to ask for additional time because they only allowed me two visits ( 15 mins each ). I am her medical proxy, so it was up to me to sign papers. I had not seen my mom in 18mnths when this happend, because of the type of crime she was not allowed visits, only phone and letters. When I did see her she was in a medical coma, then AFTER I signed the papers ( she had a living will ) they brought her out of the medical coma, but she still was " not there " and I had to do the most horrible thing I have ever faced in my entire life. I had to allow them to take her off life support, I had to watch my mother die, holding her hand she only lasted 45 seconds and she was gone. I cannot stop crying, I cannot go on, I feel like I am going to explode I am so angry with our system. She was a good person and they just didn't care. I now am left with my dad being at apalachee for another four years and every day i hope and pray that they dont do the same thing to him.:(
firedancer 12-12-2007, 01:58 AM I'm so sorry! I can't even imagine what you are feeling right now and words are not enough, but I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
Rox73 12-12-2007, 02:20 AM I'm so very sorry for your loss sweety. And also very sorry you had to go through the ordeal of watching her die. Is there no one else in your family who you're close with? I wish there was something I could say to ease your pain but I don't have the words :(
I just finished watching a documentary that had some coverage of Florida prisons and you're right. The system is corrupt to the core, from the tops to the co's. It's just beyond belief how bad it is. Are you allowed to keep in contact with your dad?
Try to remember the good times with your mom. You could even share happy memories about her with us. Sometimes it helps talking about the people we love who have died. Like what are the best memories you have of her and you? What was her best quality?
Lesliezack 12-12-2007, 02:39 AM She Is Smiling Down On You.
wendy tyler 12-12-2007, 04:30 AM I have started a reply to you 3 times, I'm obviously having a hard time doing so. I'm never at a loss for words until now. I just wanted you to know I'm thinking of you and your family, I honestly am stumped for words.
Menia 12-12-2007, 06:42 AM I am so sorry. I know there is nothing I can say to ease your pain. I will pray for you.
mrsadams 12-17-2007, 11:15 PM I know there is nothing i can say to ease the pain. that will only come with time. You and your family are in my prayers.
tigrldy 12-17-2007, 11:36 PM I am so sorry.
BlessTheInmates 12-18-2007, 01:19 AM Father God, please bring her back here among others who will be here for her night and day. We know you are with her always. And if you can give her a little bit of encouragement to go on each day with strength to get thru this dark time in her life.
Cheryl, Please come back here as soon as you can. We are here for you to talk to about all this. This is the best group of people I've met in my life that understand eachother and help heal eachother together with prayers, hope, faith and compassion for one another no matter what our situations are. We're all suffering together and we're all finding our way out of pain together.
Lorax 12-18-2007, 02:08 AM Telling you how sorry I am for your loss just doesn't seem to begin to say enough.
You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Donellsgirl 12-18-2007, 07:56 AM My prayers are with you and your family, may your mom R.I.P.
shya3 12-18-2007, 11:58 AM Im so sorry sweetheart my prayers are going out to u. Trust in God, he will make a way.
LostEverything 12-18-2007, 12:45 PM cheryl i wish there was something that i could write out to you to make you feel better, i am so sorry, and i know many of us KNOW how unfair the system is. they need to put themselves in our positions, sometimes people grow so cold on there job and loose the facts of what is really going on. one time at my current job i had a women call in wanting her credit card payments waived because her husband while deployed serving our country was gunned down and killed... guess what our company a huge bank didn't care and was envoking financial hardships and even more stress on this poor women, people grow cold with there jobs. in time you will find comfort. hold close to the things in life that you care about deeply and dont feel uncomfortable talking about it to anyone. i didn't loose my mother which i feel is the one of the worse losses anyone can go through you just cant prepare for it, but the way that you had to go through it was uncalled for. i am keeping you in my thoughts this holiday cheryl.
PCGS70 12-18-2007, 01:42 PM I am sorry for your loss.
Tyson's Wife 12-18-2007, 02:13 PM I'm so sorry for your loss. My condolences go out to you and your family.
dozer1 01-03-2008, 06:56 PM We too lost our mother to the system and were the last no know. It has been over two years now and I'll still get upset when I think of it. Please focus on your good thoughts of your mother and this will help
may God provide you the comfort and strength to carry on. my prayers are with you.
gibbyslady 01-06-2008, 12:08 PM im sorry for your loss..she is yours and your fathers guardian angel...
Tigger Mom 01-06-2008, 09:08 PM I am so sorry for your loss. I to lost my mom and had to watch her die. It was the worst because I had to watch knowing there was nothing I could do to help her. Please know that our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family and if there is anything we can do to help you get thru this just im or post and the people here are great. Even if you just need to vent. It helps.
I'm so sorry.... My thoughts are with you and your family...
Deb
Oldporkbutt 01-06-2008, 11:50 PM I am soooo sorry that you had to lose your mom like this, you are being prayed for by all of us. God Bless and help you thru this.
yaya'sbaby 01-10-2008, 12:48 PM I am so sorry that this happen to you. My prayers are with you and your family.
morgan17 01-10-2008, 01:05 PM i feel horrified at what you have had to experience....i truly am sorry for your loss and what was done to you and your family...stories like this disgust me...how can they not phone you? I cant believe that there are not rules when it comes to these sort of things.....i will keep your father in my prayers that he will be safe for his remaining sentence and come home safetly to you and your family!
Shawn's Girl 01-21-2008, 11:15 PM I am so sorry for your loss and will keep you and your family in my thoughts :grouphug:
Brent's Mom 01-22-2008, 01:48 PM http://i52.photobucket.com/albums/g13/Brents-Mom/godbless.gifMay the lord always be with you! I too lost my mother and it was the saddest day in my life as she wasn't just my mother but my best friend too! The pain is hard to bare, but know that your mom will always be with you! So lift your self up and be proud that no one can ever hurt her again and she will always be at your side!!! If ever you need to talk just let me know as I'm always here.
Bless You with Love,
Cathy
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