Does anyone know anything???

Have not heard a thing. Hope we do soon.

Patti

My computer has been down for the past 2 weeks! I finally got it back today! Well... a lot has happened.
My GF, DeNae, had our beautiful baby daughter at 1:06 A.M. on October 22nd. She's absolutely beautiful, and she weighed in at 8 lbs. 11 oz! She's an awesome baby! They wouldn't let me hold her for about 5 days because DeNae` was still at the hospital and we signed legal guardianship over to her parents because of our case. But, she got to come home finally and I cried when I got to hold her. She's so beautiful, you guys! She was on oxygen for the first few days because she got some gunk in her lungs during the delivery, but she's doing great now. I'm over there as much as possible to help take care of her, and to let her know that Daddy loves her eternally.
On Monday, DeNae` was sentenced to 4 years in prison. It's killing me. We've figured that with the good behavior credit (85%), the 90-day kickout, and the time-served (112 days), she'll be out in about 2 years and 10 months. She's doing alright, though, considering the circumstances. She's really scared, and I don't blame her. It crushed her when they took her back from the hospital, back to the county jail.
I'm doing alright... I'm a co-defendant in the case, but it's my first offense and I'm going to get probation. I'm not sure if I'll be able to visit DeNae` in prison, though, if I'm on probation. I praying so hard that I can. This just seems so horrible sometimes. I've read the numerous posts on here about how the pain doesn't get better but you get used to it. I hope so. I'm so scared of the pain, but I know that in the end we'll be together again. Sometimes I look at my beautiful daughter and I cry, because she's so wonderful, and because I feel so alone at the same time. I know some of you have loved ones in prison for much longer than 3 years, but to me, it seems like an eternity.
I'm doing my best to take it a day at a time, to keep busy, and to concentrate on setting goals for our life after this whole mess. I've kinda taught myself not to think about what she'll be dealing with, even though it's hopeless sometimes. Days pass by whether they're good or bad. I really don't know what I'm scared of, actually. I just feel scared... maybe anxious or sad. It's a ton of emotions at once.
Thank you guys so much for this. Just by inquiring about my beautiful baby... it makes me feel much better. Will DeNae` be able to take classes in prison? Will she be okay through all of this? I know she'll be depressed for a while, but DeNae's never been one to stay down and out for long. I just hope she survives mentally and emotionally.
Anyway, I'm back. Sorry for the length here. Sometimes I just want to pour it all out... Thank you all again!

--Aeren--

P.S. Our daughter's name is Kadance DeNae Price. I'll get a picture of her pretty soon!

Aeren, it's a emotional roller coaster for all of us. All the mixed emotions are very normal. I want you to always remember that we are here for you and never worry about the length of your post. If you need to pour it out then go ahead and do so. This is the one place you can express all of your feeling and know that others are understanding.

I look forward to seeing pictures of that baby girl. You sound like your a very happy and proud daddy. I wish you the best of luck. Baby girls are wonderful. I have 3, but I guess mine aren't really babies anymore. 10,7,4

Aeren, I have checked this site everyday waiting to see if little princess has arrived. Congraulations! What did you name her? Stay strong and wait for a better day.
And it will come. As hard at it seems, you and Denae can come out the better for it and go on to have a good life with your family.
Take care of you.
Marikaye/Angelmuffin

Ha! I just saw your 'ps' and Kandace is a beautiful name!

Well, I got the name wrong, unless you made a typo...is it Kandace or Kadance?

What a beautiful name! Congrats on the baby girl and hang in there... We are here for you! I hope you will be able to visit her.... ((hugs)) I can't wait to see the pictures!

Deb

Congratulations on your new baby, Aeren!! You do sound like a wonderful and proud father, and I think that it's great that her parents are willing to take care of the baby and support her while still letting you have a huge part in her life. You are very lucky in that manner!

I am sorry though to hear that she got 4 years. Hopefully she will be out sooner, as you had talked about. It's going to be a long road, especially if you won't be able to see her. Do you have a no-contact order on or anything? Because you are the co-defendent, it is possible that they might make you stay away from her. Right now, my friend is in prison and his "GF" (I say that because I am not sure what is going to happen with them, and I am hoping to get back together with my "friend") is his co-defendent. The DA has thrown a no-contact order on them for pretty much the entire 3+ months that he has been back in jail. He can write her letters, but they can not talk or visit, and the only way that he can write is because he doesn't have bail/bond; therefore, cannot have conditions of a bond. She is free (and has a bond, and NC with him is a condition of her bond) and will most likely get probation, but perhaps some county jail time. They are not anywhere near close to being sentenced, so it seems like you are a lot farther down the road than we are at this point. I am praying that the no contact stays ON THEM (because she is very negative, and I do not want them together). When he was first in prison, there were two guys that robbed the houses with him, and part of his probation was to not have any contact with these guys AT ALL. I hope to God that is not the case with you, and I imagine that it WILL NOT be, mostly due to your daughter (I think that she was more of a blessing than some people realize ....she could be the deciding factor to the judge if he/she allows you to see DeNae' while she is in prison).

My friend took classes the last time he was in prison through a technical college, and he has an appointment soon with his social worker at the prison where he is at now. He is looking into starting to take classes again through a college to get a business administration degree (or at least start it while in there). He had a full ride to school and it was supposed to start 2 weeks after he got arrested, so we are hoping that he can use the money from his Pell Grant to pay for the books and the classes. So, yes ... she should be able to take classes in there.

She will make some friends eventually, and prison can actually be "fun" -- they get to sit around and chill out all day. While she would rather be home with you two, she needs to finds ways to make it fun in there for the time that she has. Write her lots of letters, and send TONS of pictures of Kadance (is that pronounced like it sounds Kay-Dance?) and yourself, and her parents. Do not let her miss these first few years of her life!! If you can, go visit her A LOT or have her parents go and take Kadance up there. She hopefully will be home by the time that the kid REALLY starts knowing who her mommy is. Keep tons of pictures of DeNae' up at her parents house, and tell her every day (even now) that is her mommy in the pictures, and that she loves her very much.

She will get along in there because she has no choice. And neither do we, as the loved ones waiting for them. A lot of the times, all burdens fall on OUR hands. An inmates job is to follow the rules basically. They eat, sleep, play, work, visit, and chill. That's it. She will be fine. You have a lot more to deal with, especially with a new daughter, but you have no choice but to get up every day and make it work. Make yourself happy, because if you aren't happy, you can't help DeNae out either. Stay postive, because if she knows that you are having a hard time out here, she will be all the more hurt in there. I'm young - I am 25, but have been doing this prison thing for almost 6 years now. My guy got out a year ago and we had some wonderful times then, but he's back in now and I have to do this all over again. I am very scared of his sentencing, but he tells me that I can't fear the unknown, because it might turn out much better than we all hoped.

I wish you the best of luck, Aeren, and I hope that we are able to become friends through here. I hope that you do decide to stay postive and do all you can to make it in there AND out here (cause you are really doing time with her, too). Keep us all updated, and glad to see that you are back!!

PICTURES PICTURES PICTURES!! We want pictures!! :dance:

Hang in There,
TT :cuffs:

If it is Kadance that is beautiful. Never heard it.

Yeah, our baby's name is pronounced Kay-dence, like the word Cadence (which means rhythm). I'm a musician, and my music is kind of what brought me and DeNae` together, so we though Kadance fit really nicely. We spelled it with an "a" (KadAnce) because "dance" is better than "dense". Ha! She's absolutely beautiful. Tomorrow, I'm spending the whole day with her so her grandma and grandpa can have a day off. I'm so excited. Usually, Fridays are my days with her, when I get to spend the whole day.

I'm already doing a lot of that stuff now. I have TONS of pictures of DeNae around, and I'm always listing the people that love Kadance so much... starting with Mommy. I don't have a no contact thing against me, and I think the judge can already see how much I love and support DeNae. I just hope the Arizona Department of Corrections approves my visitation papers and stuff. I write DeNae all the time, too, and she loves it, so that encourages me, too.

You're right, I need to be happy because by doing that, it will make DeNae happy. I'm no good to her being depressed. It certainly DOES feel like I have a hard road ahead, being surrounded by life and stuff, but knowing that she isn't. I feel guilty and scared. It feels good to hear someone say that she WILL make it in there... I feel surrounded by uncertainty nowadays, doubting myself and the future, and sometimes I just need to hear that she's going to be okay. I get so sick and tired of trying to convince myself of that.

Thank you so much, you guys, for your support. I truly feel lucky that I have what I have and that I found PTO when I did. It's helping us both so much. I let her know about the information I read on here, and it gives her a lot of comfort. We both thank you so much.

--Aeren--

Aaren,

You should print this thread out and send it to her to let her know that we care about her and are praying for her and your family!!

Hearing the "cadence" thing takes me back to high school and the marching band thing!! LOL :ha: But that is a great name, and it's original too! I bet no one else will have it, and that makes her more original than she already is!

I hope that you have a good day with her tomorrow - have you taken pictures of the two of you together to send to DeNae? I am sure that she would love that!! You are very lucky to not have a no-contact order on!! I doubt they can throw that on after sentencing, so it looks like things are going pretty good for you in regards to that.

It IS ok to feel guilty and scared. I feel guilty because I feel that I should have done something different to make Trey stay living with me. He moved out, became involved with a girl that sold drugs and encourgaged him to do robberies. I thought that there MUST have been something that I did wrong as a girlfriend to make him leave and go to someone like HER.... but I did nothing wrong and there is no reason that I should feel guilty. I gave 150% to him every day that I was with him, every day after we broke up, and am continuing to do so even now.

She WILL make it in there, I promise that! She said that she is upbeat and doesn't let things get her down for very long. Trust me -- she WILL have bad days when she takes things out on you, or says that she just can't do it anymore, but that is when you need to support her all that much more. Never back down; tell her EVERY DAY that you love her and will be waiting there smiling big when she comes home, and every day until then. She has a wonderful (future) husband in you, and a great baby to come home too - and it sounds like she has wonderful parents, too.

I worry about Trey every day in there. Reading some of the posts about former prisoners (ko1 for one) ... and what prisoners go through scares the shit out of me. ko1 talks about the things that go down in prison, and his posts are excellent; however, I have a hard time reading them because I can't emotionally deal with the things that happen daily in prison (fights, rape, drugs, weapons, being treated like shit, being cold or hot or hungry, crappy food, no rec time). But she will learn how to take care of herself in there, because she has no other choice. She has a lot to live for out here!!

We will continue to talk, Aeren -- and let us know how tomorrow goes with your wonderful daughter!!

~Lisa~

I have told my daughter in law about this beautiful name and she loves it too..so I hope you do not mind, but she may use it if she has a girl...hope this does not start a nationwide trend! We love to hear any little thing about you princess so post away. Give her a special kiss from all of us who are keeping her mommy and daddy and her in their prayers and thoughts. (Special blessings on her grandparents too)

Thank you, angelmuffin. I don't mind, I love the name!

Hello Aeren and congrats on your new baby girl!! I am sure she is beautiful. I just wanted to comment on Danae getting four years. My husband also got four years and when they read off his sentence in court it was the most horrible moment in my life. I couldn't believe my ears and then I just sat there and cried and cried. Everyone was staring at me, the judge and lawyers, EVERYONE. Anyways the point is that four years turned out not to be that long after all. My husband went in to the county last year 9/12/02 got sentenced 12/13/02 (Friday the 13th), and went to prison that next week. He applied for a half-way house right away and was sent there in April 03 and now, Nov 03 he is applying for ISP and can be home next month. So you see, it was only a little over a year that he was gone and he's already coming home. It will go by quick, she'll be home before you know it. I just wanted to let you know that it is so wonderful that you are standing by her side and being such a good Daddy. Keep the faith!!!

Aeren,

Many congratulations on your beautiful baby girl! And she was born on a wonderful day..that day was my son's 7th birthday!!! :)
You sound like you are settling in to your daddy role quite nicely. I hope things with Kadance keep going smoothly. I will keep you, DeNae, and Kadance in my prayers from here in Texas.
I wish you the best,

BG