Hello, my brothers and sisters.

Yesterday, I posted a thread about what did the #2 mean on the phone (you can check the thread for the entire story). Well, I got my answer. Apparently, my fiance has a warrant from South Carolina. He didn't even know he had a warrant (which I find hard to believe because how could you possibly not know you violated your parole). Anyhow, the C.O. told him that either one of two things would happen: (1) officials from the state would come pick him up and place him in a state jail to serve an 18-month sentence or (2) he will be released from Riker's Island within 72 hours if no one shows up for him. He is supposed to be released this upcoming Tuesday and I feel like a ton of bricks has hit my chest. I do not know what to do.

I am supposed to be visiting him, tonight. He really wants me to come and see him, yet I - initially - said "no." Anger was the primary reason why I said, "no," but now there are so many other factors that come to mind.

For one, I do not know how I can potentially say goodbye to him without wanting to go ballistic. I love this man to the depths of my soul. We have been together for 11 years. And despite his legal woes, he is my soulmate; we complete each other. He treats me like a woman is supposed to be treated. He keeps me grounded. He is just amazing and I do not know how I am supposed to deal with him out of state. Last night, when I got the full story, I cried like a baby. And this morning, I cried while riding the train. I am just feeling so many things, all at once. I am trying my hardest to keep the faith and be his soldier, but I am losing it. I guess what I need is to hear from you all. I need some guidance in this matter. Should I try to contact a lawyer? Should I let justice prevail? Should I do more time with him? Should I be by myself? Please share your advice, especially if you have been in this same situation.

boogie...I feel you on the i didnt know about a violation :confused: ...give me a break.......but you have to follow your heart......you sound as if you couldnt leave this man if you wanted to.....just keep praying and things will work themselves out....Plus it sounds like his time is short.....work it out if you can....are there children involved?......BE EASY GIRL.....:D

we have no children...thank God...and thank you for your advice...I will continue to pray because I need the Lord to deliver me from this damn pain...

Hi Bronx and welcome to the PTO family....

Yes that is how it works if they are not there to pick him up within that time they will have to let him go.

After reading your post seems to me your mind is kinda made up... Like it was stated above follow your heart it won't lead you wrong.... Pain and DOC goes hand and hand... How much time is he facing in SC. :confused:. At this pint you both need each other. Hold your head sis, I know easier said then done. PEACE :cool:

He will be facing an 18-month sentence and they will actually let him go from Riker's in 30 days if no one comes to pick him up.

I have decided that I am going to stand beside him. I am actually about to call his parole officer and try to get this warrant lifted, so please keep me in your prayers. I am just scared as hell. We both deserve a second chance ; he deserves a chance to right his wrongs and I deserve a chance to love and be loved by such a wonderful person.

When I first received the news, I had one hell of an epiphany. Of course, I knew that I loved him, but I just didn't know the depths of it. I realized that love is comprised of incredibly, mind-altering moments, whether good or bad. And I realized that while I can be with someone else, I don't want to be. He really does complete me. I rather stick it out with him, then start anew with someone else who would be more like a stranger than anything else.

...I apologize for the lengthy message, but I am venting...and I encourage to vent to me, if you need to...thanks for all the love...you don't realize how much I appreciate it...

update: I just spoke to his parole officer from SC...they are coming to get him in 2 weeks...he will be going to trial and facing conviction...she told me bluntly that there was nothing that could be done to rectify the situation...I feel like a ton of bricks has hit my chest, again...

damn boogie....I know how you feel...but just stand strong in the decision that you have made...It might not be as bad as you think...hold ya head girl......we are all in this struggle together...:grouphug: ....If you need to talk come over to lady liberty lounge in NY...its a check in and they are very friendly......:)

thank you, easy...I am trying to take things one day at a time, but it is hard as ever...I am just dying on the inside...my heart is going to SC and my body is here in NY...

Don't worry, mama. Before u know it, 18 months is gonna fly. I just found out the other day my man won't be up for parole for another year. And if they deny him, he could stay there until 2010-2012. I'm just bein strong, and hope they let him out on parole. Just send him much words of support and love. You gonna be aight!