:confused: Hello once more...my name is Dori....well, as some of you know (those who read my past few threads) I had to call my husband's PO when he contacted me the day he got out on the 2nd. They put him right back in....:blah: I'm waiting for a subpoena with a date I will have to go to board to testify, even tho it was only a pay phone call and might not stick, the fact is he DID contact me, he knows he did and so does God! God knew how stressed out :eek: I was before he was to be released, and it was ironic it happened. That night when they took him in, I got some real nasty messages from his MOTHER! Now, she's never acted like this with me before, but she called me a f____ b__ch more than once, :angry: and that she's going to take my kid because I'M(?) nuts? Ya, whatever--who is on my voicemail right now that sounds ten times more nuts than me? I left her a message back saying if she kept calling like that I was going to file Civil Harassment. :blah: Haven't heard a thing back since. I think she realizes she stepped over the boundaries. In a way, I'm sort of glad she did that because now that gives me a REAL good reason to not let that side of the family continue a relationship with my son (2 and a half yrs old), Joshua. And I'm not trying to deprive my son a relationship with them, but if they're going to continue to enable my husband's (soon to be ex on the 24th!!!:D ) behavior and treat me like dirt, then I don't want my son knowing people like that! After all, it's NO WONDER my soon to be ex has the drug problem he has...sure, he makes his own decisions now that he's grown (is he REALLY grown up tho??) but it was his family's enabling behavior that encouraged him. Im' just curious to what will happen at board. Any advice?

Well I had to have my ex locked up for calling me at my job to call me a fu**ing bi***. I had NO proof that it was him except that I knew his voice. I was called to testify, was asked questions by the county attorney & his public pretender, I mean defender. I answered, they called my cousin as a witness & then called him to the stand. He lied on the stand. The Judge made his ruling, saying that my ex's story had more holes than a spagitti strainer & said that he had to do 7 days in jail.
So that should be about what happens. I don't know if your system works like that. But that is my experance.

You poor baby! How horribly stressful!
I know it will be a big hassle, but change your phone number and pay the extra dollar a month to keep it unlisted.

If caller ID showed the number from which he called you, hang on to that information, and hang on to the voicemail his mom left.

Just in case your ex's mom or friends knows about PTO, you might want to stop putting information here that could directly identify you- you have not broken any rules or anything, I'm just suggesting that being really careful about your privacy might be a good idea.
I'm terribly sorry you're going through this

Thanks for the input....being that Jeff is on parole, he not only broke a restraining order, but a parole condition that I requested for him to stay away from us, which is more serious! Being that the R.O. is through the county, he MAY face a judge...Or, he could just face it all at board since he's in prison right now! He won't do a week, but maybe a couple months just fighting it! But, if they don't buy his crap and they favor my story, he'll do a little more than the couple months since it's a parole violation. he could do a whole year flat! They don't mess around with parole conditions.
But as far as his family knowing about this site, i'm pretty sure they don't. They don't know how to manuever their way around here if they did. Even if they did, I'm not too worried. WIth those messages on my voicemail, I got what I need! Just can't wait until some day this is all over with. Wish I could just move, but I can't. I'm kinda stuck here for now.

You're going to be a little hobbled by all of this, but keep the info on record, and best of luck!

you have rights and he is overstepped his boundaries! I am sorry good luck!