Three years ago my husband (now ex) took my freedom of choice, self esteem and hearing in one ear. I was hit so hard that 3 weeks later the bruises still had not faded and I was told that I would never hear in the right ear again. The grand jury decided that it was felonious assult instead of domestic violence. The differences in sentencing were 6 months for the dv and 3-15 years for the assult. I was given a choice and I asked to have him prosecuted for the assult. We were only married for 2 weeks when this happened, and after the fact his ex-girlfriend called and told me that he did that to her all the time!!!! Where are these people before it happens. He has been granted a judicial release and I have been getting letters from him telling, not asking, he's coming home to my house. 2 years ago I got back into contact with an old friend who's currently incarcerated and we are together. I've told my ex this, but he keeps telling me that he's my husband and the divorce is no good and he's coming home. I've taken every precaution to ensure I'm safe, but I know that once I reject him ( no doubt about it ) I'll be hurt again. He won't let go. Any suggestions anyone? HELP!!!!!

I'm so sorry to hear that you are having to deal with this. I know most times they don't work, but do you have a restraining order on file against him? If not, I HIGHLY recommend that you do. I know they don't stop harrassment completely. But it would make it against the law for him to have ANY kind of contact with you whether it be on paper or over the phone. Get it started before he comes to find you. I've been through something similar to this. If you want to pm me, feel free. I would be more than happy to talk to you. You'll be in my thoughts.

Immediately contact the prosecting attorney! Show him these letters, I would also contact a domestic violence organization near you, many times they can hook you up with an attorney that will help for free as well as the police. I am sure that he has a no contact order with you including by mail...right? If so he is violating this. If you want to PM me I can see what info I can find out for your area. He does not have control over you and he needs to know this! Please PM me!

Also, if worst comes to worst, the women's shelters can relocate you to keep you safe. They network together to do that if necessary. But before he gets out, do what you've been advised here and take the letters to the prosecuting attorney, by all means! Being granted a release doesn't mean it can't be revoked, does it? I hope not.

If he is being released cant you talk to his probation officer ?A PO could help inforce an order of protection and violate him if he continues to bother you, you also need to contact the states attorneys office and ask if there is a victoms advocate avalable to help you. i was in a simeler situation and know howlong it took me to not only get out of it but to ever feal like i was safe again. i went to the swan womans shelter and they gave me a cell phone to use so i could call 911 if he attempted anything and help me get my order of protection inforced by the locals. i will put you on my prayer list for safety.

Oh YES! Contact his parole officer, DA, your lawyer, anybody to get help immediatley! NOW!! Make sure you are safe, go stay with someone he doesn't know. PLease be safe.

take no shortcuts , scream from the highest hil to everyone , if a shelter and relocation isnt an option , get a security system and keep it on , get a dog , be safe

oct is domestic violence month , and in dc area 75 percent of the women killed ( sorry aint trying to be morbid , tryna be real ) are killed after a seperation !!!!!

take this VERY SERIOUSLY !!!!!!! document EVERYTHING !!!!!

JESUS , BE SAFE !!!!!!!!!!!!!! GET A CELL , AND DONT EVER , GIVE HIM A ** CHANCE TO JUST TALK ** !!!!!!!!!!!!!

Well, I'm on my way to talk with the judge. Wish me luck. Just an idea of what I'm dealing with, I'll let you in on part of the last letter. "I'm your husband and this divorce you got don't mean nothin to me. You'll always be my property and if you need to be diciplined, then I have every right to do it. You can't tell me I don't have a home there. As long as your alive I'll live in whatever house your in." Please pray for me. If there is such a thing as true justice he's gonna do the max!!!!

Hey guys, the judge says that he will look over all the new things very carefully!! He says that the letters do not sound like the man who gave the documents about excelling in anger management classes and the born again christian who pled his case. He also said that the damage was severe enough to warrant another look at the man who stated that he has not contacted me since his arrest. Hope and pray with me , please!!!!!!

oh thank God i have been worrying for you! im glad the judge is going in to this with his eyes open to what your ex is really about! keap us posted and dont let up he may go dorment for a wile now that the judge is aware of his behavior--but that dosent mean he is over this infactuation with you. take care of you.

I've been worried too. I hope the judge gets to him before he gets to you.

Thank heaven the judge is listening to you but don't let it go there! Change your name, move, contact the prison that he is in and tell the warden you do NOT want to be contacted by him, tell them you are his victim and have them notify you when he is released. Let your local police know what's going on and get an order of protection!

Take this seriously girl. These arn't men they are preditors! I know, I've been running for 6 years.

Good luck and God Bless. Let us know what's going on. I will keep you in my prayers.

Hey y'all,
The judge is overturning his judicial release and he must stay at least 12 more years before he's eligible for release. Since Ohio went to mandatory sentencing there's no parole board to worry about. I'll have some peace for the next decade at least. And the co's were reprimanded for letting the letters get through. I know there's alot of mail coming and going, so I asked the judge to leave them alone. He's sent letters to his family before to send to me. He's just sneaky like that! At least today I'm on top of the world. Thanks for your prayers guys, they really helped! Lots of Love

AMEN. GOD ANSWERS PRAYERS.

THATS GREAT,THAT BEING ABLE TO LAY AND SLEEP WITHOUT FEAR IS PRICELESS

I am glad that your ok.
You will remain in my prayers

JimsLee, is so right. Follow this up!

The statement about "disciplining" you did the Judge see that? Has the police seen that? I would even go to the Postal Service, try for Fed charges.

That girl, is a threat, possibly more time for the ex and a little more piece of mind for you.

Move, change your name, do what you have to keep safe.

I saw this thread late, I am relieved that you are safe, but, please keep on top of the situation.

Patti

Hi, I'm a new member. Read your topic. Still there, except he's not sending them directly to me, to mom's house. I've changes my name moved multiple times and am very guarded about personal information. Sorry, no profile, no email add. showing. I am still trying to stay unseen. Great posts!!

Sorry I am late on this topic- it was scary to read- guess all of us abuse-victims gor scared.
I am so relieved that it took this turn!

It's been a three year roller coaster ride. The judge didn't like me ( I guess I was wrong for having an attitude ) but the prosecuting attorney was great and brought alot of stuff into the record that helped. Just easier to rest at night now.

I'm so glad they didn't let him out! And also so glad he's in for 12 more years! Your life was definitely in great danger when he was getting out. Now during the next 12 years, work on relocating and wiping out any trail he could follow as best you can. You know he's going to still want to find you even that far down the road and he's gonna be even more mad that he did the 12 more years. For now, though, take a break and de-stress for awhile.

Hang in there girl. I'm rooting for you and your safety. What your ex-husband feels about you isn't love, it's power and manipulation. Do what you gotta do to stay safe because unless he finds another victim (I hope that no one else falls for him like that) he'll continue to stalk and harrass you.

I recognize what you went through because I saw my mother go through it with my father when I was a little girl. But once my mother got brave and took us all away from him (with her family's support) he shriveled up into nothing. That is until he found his next victims, Wives #2, #3, #4 (who didn't even last 2 months with him) and now Wife #5 beats Holy Hell out of him...with my blessing. I hope that he rots in Hell but hey, that's my issue.

Sorry I got off track there, but stay safe and take care.