Hi,

Another naive question. Does anyone here find that when their husbands/boyfriends get out of a period of lockdown they act a little hypersensitive? The first call I got from my man was almost desperate sounding, he needed a ton of reassurance etc.....he also seems a little paranoid, and worked up. Has anyone experienced this?

Mizz,

When your on lock down your completely out of touch with anyone. Your senses are deprived & so when you come out your senses are really heightened, you don't know whats happened while you were down, you get anxious, & touchy. It's hard to explain. Also the longer you are on lockdown the wierder it gets, & coming out of ad seg, or a SHU term is like sensory overload. You hope that while you were out of touch your wife hasn't left you, people haven't died, & that the world is still there, LOL.-------Ken

mizz: i know when my friend landed in the hole for 4 weeks, i didn't hear from him for about 10 days. he said he just wasn't emotionally prepared to write. and that's someone who's essentially locked down on death row 24/7, anyway! i'm sure, like ken said, the complete sensory deprevation is hard to handle, and then coming back into "the world" again is probably one heck of an adjustment.

When ever my husband goes on lockdown, it always seem we have a disagreement about something. But I have gotten use to his ways and just deal with it, because it is never his fault. I always send him extra cards and letters and share all the things that are going on with me and his family. I am kinda the onlly connection he has at times. But after a while I just deal with his moods and move on to another subject.:confused:

Ken explained it very well and that sensitivity has become rather routine for me as JD has been in seg since January!! Frustrating?? Yes!!! But completely understandable?? Yes!!
Just try to be patient.... I try to keep things in perspective and as much as possible I just let his lil' moods go... if he does something or says something that bothers me I will talk to him about it though.... He seems to respond well when I just share MY perspective... :)

My boyfriend locks himself down everyday unless he needs to call me at a time when he would be locked down. He prefers it over being in population and the guards that have been giving him a hard time can't mess with him. I think he'd probably have a bad reaction if he were in population daily... but so far he's the way he's always been.
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MY MAN WAS IN SOLITARY FOR 405 DAYS..HIS FIRST DAY OUT HE WAS KINDA HYPED UP BUT NOW HES KINDA BACK TO THE TERRANCE HE WAS IN SOILTARY. I GUESS ITS DIFFERENT FOR THEM ALL

I think the first time that I really gained any kind of indirect understanding about what offenders go though when locked down was when I watched a documentary on the Colorado Supermax prison. This prison has come under some heavy fire because of the treatment that offenders are subjected to insofar as sensory deprivation. Needless to say, Terry goes through the same and at times it is difficult to deal with and trying to calm him down and reassure him is not always easy.

Chris

When Mark's unit is on Lockdown, there is always someone in the other unit that has our phone number and always calls for a quick message to tell me what is going on. Plus his good friends sister has our phone number too and she calls if there is something he needs to tell me and no one else can get through...so thats a good thing...the good ole buddy system lol That makes him not worry as much.

When my husband is on lockdown, he is almost unbearable when he gets out. He absoletly needs reassuring, he is so scared that I have forgotten him and moved on. Of course I would never do that to him but he just needs me to be extra sensitive to him. Tell him what he needs to hear.