Hi,
My husband is currently serving a 67-year sentence for rape and has a life sentence to serve for murder. None of my family or friends knows what he did, but some know that he's in jail. I know he wouldn't do it again, and I've never been afraid of him. We fell in love when we were 14 (19 years ago!) & I never felt any differently about him after I found out what he did when he was 16. He has grown & changed in the 15 years he's been in jail, and I'm proud of him for that. Why doesn't anyone seem to understand that? It seems like no one thinks a person can change. Does anyone else feel that way?

i understand how you feel cause they classified my husband as a violent offender but hes not and now he is serving 4 years in prison and its really hard for me to deal with it but i try to take one day at a time and i pray to the good lord to give me the strenghten to make it threw another day but people will talk and but until they are in your shoes they dont know so i will pray for you and keep your head up

Juliet, the reasons a person rapes are deep-seated psychological reasons, and as your case shows, the person is also capable of loving and carrying on normal relationships, too. I'm very sorry you're going through this, but I admire you for being able to truly love your husband and see the best in him. I understand how you feel and I'll keep you both in my prayers.

Juliet--I think that anyone can change and it is unfortunate that the criminal justice system is more punitive than rehabilitive.

yes i to believe anyone can change and also many of is do in here but it is so sad the rest of the world can not see this i will say a prayer for you both and keep your head held high you still have a good man. just becuase a mistake is made does not make him a terrible person by no means peace and love mary

He got 67 years when he was 16???????????????????!!!!!!!

Since I've been visiting Ralf I have met several men who are not the same men as they were when they went in. Most of these men were teenagers when they committed their crimes and I don't believe that they are a danger to anyone. I know it can be hard to deal with people. People will always ask what your man is in for when they find out he is in prison. When I tell them 2nd degree murder, but that Ralf is innocent. THey are like oh yah right!

Dam these Storys are so sad......im sorry it really makes you think