Hello! I am kye and this is my first real post. It is another lonely Saturday nite without Bo. Friends are going to see him tomorrow but I can't go this time. He has been in a Federal Camp for almost three months....24 left to go!!! We started seeing each other seriously around November and were just getting comfortable with each other. He was open and honest from the beginning of our relationship about what was happening and told me he would understand if I didn't want to deat with it. He actually thought about dumping me just to save me from the grief of all of it. However, we fell in love! I didn't want to leave and he couldn't make me. I am scared, lonely, stressed and feel lost. I hope finding this forum will help me find friends who can help me get through it.

Kye,
My guy has told me many times that he loves me so much that he wishes I would leave him and find happiness. But he is my happiness. The love I have for him I will never have with anyone else. Yes I get lonely and depressed, I understand how you feel. Just try to stay strong. The lonely saturday nights are the tough but keep your head up, we're all here for you anytime you need us!

not only was it another lonely sat night it was a lonely sat night that was my birthday. I hate going to sleep at night and knowing i have to sleep away from my husband. It sucks but each night that i lay my head down and sleep is one day closer to the night i will lay down and he will be right next to me :)

Kye....
There are definitely lots of us here that understand just how painful those lonely Saturday nights are (as well as the lonely Monday nights, Tuesday nights, Wednesday nights....etc....)
I know I think of JD throughout my day, no matter how busy I keep myself.... but that whole going to sleep time is probably the worst.... I think the fact that many of our men have at times encouraged us to walk away really demonstrates their level of concern, compassion and love for us... because we all know that it's not what they really want.... But Kye, we also understand the whole "I hate going through this and it makes me miserable, but I can't walk away either, because that would make me MORE miserable..." The good thing is that is has to end one day... for you in 24 months... just take it one day at a time til then girl..... :)

KYE-HANG IN THERE GIRL-AS YOU SEE -MANY OF US ARE EXPERIENCING THOSE SAME "LONELY NIGHT" BLUES-MAYBE WHEN THE PTO CHAT ROOM IS FUNCTIONAL AGAIN WE COULD HAVE A "GIRLS NIGHT OUT" MEETING ON SATURDAYS --WHAT DO YOU ALL THINK?

that sounds rally good... Girls night out..

Sounds great to me!!! :)

I like the idea Sherri, especially since Tues. aren't really great for me so I always miss chat.

a virtual "girls night out"!!! i love it, sherri!

LET'S DO IT!! DAVID, LET US KNOW WHEN WE HAVE THE GREEN LIGHT ON PTO CHAT...

Sherri....what a great idea...when I tell Vic I'm having a girl's night on Saturday...via chat...he'll just laugh...probably happy to knowing I'm staying in!!! LOL
Let's do this soon! Couldn't we even go on a Yahoo private chat room...Not sure how it work's but something for the mean time?!.....

LET ME KNOW HOW AND I'LL BE THERE...

KYE

WELCOME TO PTO.... YOU WILL FIND A GREAT DEAL OF SUPPORT HERE.. MANY OF THE GIRLS ARE GOING THROUGH THE VERY SAME THING YOU ARE.... THEY HAVE HUSBANDS AND BOYFRIENDS IN THE SYSTEM AND SOME OF THEM FOR MANY MORE YEARS THAN YOUR 24.... IT WILL NEVER GET BETTER BUT IT DOES GET EASIER... LEARN TO KEEP YOURSLEF BUSY WITH OUTSIDE ACTIVITIES.... STAY CLOSE TO PTO AND YOU WILL FIND MANY GREAT FRIENDS WHO REALLY DO UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH....

TURN TO GOD. HE WILL GIVE YOU TO STRENGHT TO GET THROUGH EACH AND EVERY DAY.... HE WILL ALSO LEAD YOU INTO THE DIRECTION YOU NEED TO BE GOING...

MY LOVE AND PRAYERS TO YOU

DONNA

I know how you feel sometimes. I try to keep my mind off of things by going out with friends and to clubs.

Kye...

I know how you feel!! It's hard when you are apart from the 1 you love. I try to keep busy w/things I enjoy doing even things I don't enjoy...like cleaning!! Sometimes though for me I still get those times when no matter what I do I still miss my honey & want him there w/me!!

Just wanted to 'update' this and see if we can get this started...Any suggestions or ideas??

PAM:

SEND AN E-MAIL TO DAVID... I HAVE NOT SEEN HIM POST IN AWHILE.... I SENT HIM ONE YESTERDAY ABOUT THE MARCH INTERNATIONAL MEETING BUT I HAVE NOT HEARD BACK FROM HIM YET.... HE MUST BE GOING THROUGH A BUSY TIME RIGHT NOW.... DON'T LET IT DROP..... I CANNOT MAKE IT ON SATURDAY NIGHTS BUT ALL OTHER LADIES REALLY DO NEED THIS.... KEEP IT GOING

DONNA

Ms. kye61:
I express my concern and sympathy for your sadness and loneliness. Try making some clean friends even if they are guys. You are in love, he is in love, but locked-up; you need companionship (company). Noone can sit idle for very long. The idle time causes thoughts of what you and Bo did on a "Saturday"; sadness follows because he is gone. Make some friends, do some of the things that you and Bo did, but keep it clean like the lady I am sure you are. Bo must be able of trusting you, suggest your having friends, and your substituting him while he is gone with companions. Please do not sit alone for you will be imprisoned also; get some friends. You know the limits...............My thoughts........38 Special...............

girls night out is on--(as long as chat room is operational-know david has had a few problems with the server) will i see any of you there o ight? what time? i will be working but i will bring my laptop..

If there are problems with the server is there any other "chat room" we could choose? I've never been in one so I am not sure how they work??

Hey, some of us guys are going through the same lonely nights also.Steve&kids

Hey let's try it...I'll try the chat room tonight at 9:00 eastern time...Steve of course you should be there! So Sherri, if there is any problems pm me O.K.!

Steve, you are more than welcome I am sure! But be mindful! We may try to paint your toenails or give you a home perm!!!:eek:

If y'all want a backup site to chat, all one has to do, is set up a club in another network, make it private (invite only) and y'all would have a hid-a-way. If you do that, make sure the chat area has voice. That's so cool!!

Most likely there's girl's stuff that us guy don't need to be reading. :-)

Sherri, I love the idea of a "Girl's night out on PTO". I may have missed this one, but if our chat room isn't working, maybe we could try chatting on AOL Instant Messenger. It is a free service and private.

Kye, I am Tracy and I live in Florida. I too, understand about those lonely nights. mY husband has been gone 14 months now and has another 13 3/4 years to go. I try really hard to keep myself busy during the day, but the nights are the worst. Knowing that I must go to sleep in OUR bed without him always brings tears, loneliness and depression. But, as Shorty said, each night brings us that much closer to the next and the next and the next, and finally to the night that we WILL be with our loved ones.

We will all be here for you, to comfort and strengthen you during this time.

Tracy

If you all got together to chat on Saturday night, I missed it.... Was just getting home from visit travel and fell out.... what about NEXT Saturday night (Aug 3)??? Anyone going to be around?? Should we pick an approximate time so we have a chance of seeing others online?? What time??