Has anyone had trouble with haters taking your mail before you get to the mailbox?

I ask because my 19 year old son whom still lives at home and is not working is threatening to tear up my letters because he does not want me to be involved with a jail bird. I laughed it off at first but my 11 year old son tried to confiscate two letters that came but i was watching him out the window.

I felt as if i had handled the issue but now that i am going through changes with my baby and we are not writing like we use to, i wonder if he is not writing or are my kids taking my letters? I asked but i they won't tell if they did.

Now i have to wait until i go back to visit to see if mail was sent. That sucks big time.

I know i should have waited until i was clear on what i'm trying to ask you all but what do you all think?

BE BLESSED

You tell your son, that whether they're your sons or not, taking someone else's mail is a federal offense and it does get followed up on, believe me! It makes no difference if they're your sons or what their reasons are, they have no legal right to mess with your mail. The 19 year old is old enough to become a jailbird himself for that.

I would get a P.O. Box and then you would know for sure. Love Barb

Ditto on the p.o. box...

Deb

Uh....They are YOUR sons right? And they are living under YOUR roof. I would just remind them WHO is the MOTHER and whose roof they are living under and if they can't learn to respect you or your wishes then let them find another place to live. I would think that if they are old enough to try and tell you what to do then they are old enough to live on their own and take care of themselves. Good luck!

Oh no that is really horrible! Good thing my kids at least like my man. Hopefully you get a hold on those two kids if they are taking your mail and make sure they know it is a federal offense. Good luck!

I agree with the above posts.... it IS a federal offense, whether they live there or not, and I would go get a P.O. Box asap...

You can go down to the post office and ask them to hold your mail for you there-----tell them you'll pick it up there-------sometimes there's a waiting list for PO boxes, so if there is, ask that your mail be held for you there. Tell them someone has taken your mail and you just need them to keep it for you till you pick it up. If they give you a PO box, then forward your mail to the PO box till you can get the PO box address to your guy.

And like Asia said-------you're the mom there. My kids KNOW I'm the Mom and the oldest of them is almost 40. LOL My youngest son told the other kids a couple years ago "Yeah, and Mom could still kick our a**". He was kidding, of course, but there's never been any mistake, even for my sons, who was the top of the pecking order. I was a single mother so I most surely kept things respectful toward me.

Violation of one's privacy, family or not, I would P.O. Box it, for my own peace of mind. Remind your boys, you are still the mom and they need to respect you period, whether they like what you do or not.

IF YOU LIVE IN A HOUSE BUY A MAIL BOX WITH A LOCK ON IT. OR IF YOUR IN A APARTMENT ASK THEM TO PUT A MAIL BOX WITH A LOCK OR HAVE THE LOCKS CHANGED..

You shouldn't HAVE to resort to a PO Box over this. Like somebody else said, that is YOUR house and those are YOUR kids. Geez.

I had an issue with my brother not handing over my mail. I got a PO Box and that issue is gone of course.

I agree the kids really shouldn't do that but if you don't want to fight with the kids then get the po box and that should slove that problem.

um...if those were my kids it would happen ONCE that's all I'll say about that! Bryan and I have a friend that has a p.o. box cause not everyone in her life "knows" where he man went so it is an option. I do live with others that know and its ok but I also know what time the maillady gets there and am usually the first one to the box!:D Not that I'm waiting impatiently or stalking the maillady or anything!LOL

I agree a P.O. Box and I think that you should write your BF and let him know what's going on.

:-)

I too think that the PO Box is a great Idea, since I 've had one since 98, that way you know for sure that you are getting your mail. but if you don't want to get one then I think either way you should have a talk with your children. that is awfull to have your mail taken from you like that.

Thnak you alll so much for your posts. Sorry for the late thank you. My computer has been down all weekend. GRRR

A PO Box is a good idea and holding the mail. If i have to resort to such measures... so be it.
But I want to make my boys respect me the way they should. I was wondering what you woulld say or do to them. I wanted to kick the oldest one out but i can not. and i want to put my foot in the younger ones axx , but i did not.

I have talked to them about it and like I say I hope the issue is laid to rest. Just wanted a different view of how to handle them.

By the way, I did recieve a letter the next day. And the boys do know that tampering with the mail is a federal offense.

don't lose your sons over this guy who you're having so many doubts about.
your doubts are real and all the women on this board reminded you of that, right???
you barely know this guy. maybe your sons should come first in this...

xoxo

sfveggie

My sons do come first but they will respect me... or else. It is really not about the letters per se. I just can't deal with lies and deception. Which brings me to this guy "I barely know". I'm just giving him enough rope to hang himself.

Be Blessed