Ok ladies. I've been sitting here wondering what I can do to cheer up my boo. And I know that I can always turn to you wonderful ladies. So, I thought it would be interesting to come up with some ideas together. I'm looking for creative ideas that are tasteful, inexpensive, unique, innovative and oh so cute. Also, it must be prison acceptable. Can you name 5 things that can cheer up your man? I'll start

1. Trace your hand and the kids hand and draw a flower and send it in a handmade card to him
2. Take a lot of pictures of you and your kids doing everyday things and make a collage. Then scan the collage and send him the copy.
3. Have the kids write him a letter or a draw a picture
4. Start a coin collection for him of all the STATE quarters you can find, take a picture for him and send the story of how you obtained each coin.
5. Begin a story and ask him to add to it. Send back and forth and see what kind of story you can create together.

Anyone else?

1. Send him one of your fantasies. (this is tasteful, right?)
2. Send him some of the kids schoolwork.
3. If you don't have kids or have young kids, start a scrapbook that both of you can add to explaining mommy and daddy's situation and documenting everything you guys go through during this time apart...they will want to know someday!
4. Take pictures and turn them into things he can enjoy AND use....like a bookmark.
5. Sometimes simple things have the biggest affects....spray your perfume on a letter to him.
6. Paint a room in the house...only send him the paint samples and let him decide on the color...send him pictures of the process.
7. Start a stamp collection. It is his job to collect them...your job to search out new ones to send him on your letters.

That's all I can think of at the moment.

WOW u 2 are creative as hell!! i like all of the ideas. I am not really creative at all, all i do is send regular pictures but i take the real nice ones to Walmart and add a pretty border and text to it as well, thats as far as creative gets with me.

Ok. I got more

6. Collect travel brochures with pictures. Scan pictures of the two of you and print. Cut out the print and paste to the pictures from the travel brochures. Photocopy in full color and send it to him entited--Our Vacation. Write a story of all the wonderful things you "did".

I like that one...

I've gone to puzzlemaker.com and made him word searches using words meaningful to us like our first names, favorite desserts, places we've been. I've also made from the same site cryptograms that he has to figure out the code to get my message.

In seperate mailings I had sent him lyrics to a song that reminds him of me, a sketch of us hugging, a photo of the Grand Canyon cuz he wants to go there. He got creative on his end and made a collage... now he's singing to me while we stand at the edge of the Grand Canyon!!! :)

My latest project is making him bookmarks out of construction paper. Childish for a 34 and a 41 year old? Well, yes... does he love them? Well, yes.... :)

buy a tasteful poster of their favorite band and cut it into pieces and send a couple pieces at a time my old man thought of that idea and he now has a poster of metallica on his cell wall.

dee

Some great Ideas here ladies..

We actually watch tv together, in around about way.. He picks the programs from his tv guide a week in advance. Im so tired of Monster Garage LOL its true love has no bounds.=0) Then we discuss them after we have seen them. I always make pop-corn and so does he.

At the end of each month, I print and make a calender for the next months events and mail it too him. It includes girls softball games, school events, appointments, birthdays ect. This way he can say how was the girls game did they win?? As opposed to where have you been?? =0)

Sometimes I will send him back a photo copy of a letter that he sent me, as a reminder of how loved he made me feel, on that day.

I went to the beach and wrote the words "I Love You Spooky" in the sand, (with me sitting next to it) then took a picture of it with the waves crashing in on it in the background. He Loved it!

What if he hates/loves you because it's your fault he's there? (No contact btw)

:0(

Uh.....then YOU should TALK to him about that........

I tried. He knows how much I love him; how sorry I am; that my every breath is for him. I miss him so much. I miss his smell, the feel of the hair on his stomach; his heartbeat. The phones in Bailey are terrible. I got a ride there and just as my visit was going to start the facility went into lock-down. I dressed extra special too, you know. I swear my heart (what was left) shattered.
<crying>

Scent a I'm sorry card with his favorite perfume.

Also, buy his favorite cologne-one that he particularly liked or wore a lot. Cut a piece of construction paper into a small square. With a marker draw a heart your guys names on it-or a small note of love and inspiration. On the back spray his cologne on it. He can rub it on his wrists and neck for a little "smell good". Or just breathe in the scent and feel more like a man.

Draw a heart on your letters and smudge your pinky finger in ink and put a pinky print in the center--write "I love you-pinky swear"

you can start writing a story and he can add onto the story...you two can do that back and forth.

you can really turn him on by putting together a story from www.pillowmail.com you fill in your name and favorite things and this site puts together a sex story and then print it out for him..

I don't have 5 things though have done some of the above things and wrote down some other ideas to try!

1.I look online for things about others in his situation that turned out well and send it to him to cheer him
2.print out pics of things he likes...Sailor Moon(PUKE!:D)
3.I made some of his fave cookies and sent "them" to him!(took a polaroid pic,there allowed at his) also set a couple cookies directly on paper so it smelled like them too.
4. I sent him pages of my website after I made changes to it so he could see what I was doing with it after I told him.

Ask your man to make a list of things he likes to eat then go grocery shopping and pick up those items. Take a photo of the pantry with all the items he asked for and another of you in the kitchen looking at the box or trying to learn how to cook his favorite meal. On the back of the photo write something like, " the things I go through for ya baby". LOL

Also, ask him to write a list of necessities he will need when he gets out--toothbrush, toothpaste, socks, boxers, pjs. etc. Then ask him his favorite cologne. Buy it and then spray some of the new tshirts with the cologne and put them in HIS drawer. Then wear one to bed everynight. Take a picture of you in a botton down shirt that you bought for him lightly sprayed with his cologne and nothing else. That will make ya both feel better. :)

I like this game. Everytime I see all your responses, I think up some more. I can't wait to try some of these out on D and see his responses...

Let's see you can:
1. send postcards from all the places you go and all the places you want to go.
2. Create search a words but don't give him the words only the subject like Things I love about you
3. Paper models of things that he likes (motor cycles)
4. Brochures about possible vacation destinations
5. I took a red sheet and wrote I love you with white rose pedals on it and took a picture. (I also did a white sheet with red rose pedals)
6. I cut out 27 presents for his birthday and wrote I owe you's on the back of each one.
7. I made 27 heart shaped paper balloons.
8. Jokes about things he enjoys
9. Articles from the internet about items that interest him
10. puzzles in code (letters or pictures, but I only send him part of the code, he has to decode the rest)
11. Tons of silly sexy cards
12. Pictures of everything I can think of, the scenery, me, the kids, doesn't matter
13. I made a puzzle out of a picture I created of us and sent him a piece a day for weeks until he could put the whole thing together.
14. When I buy him things for when he comes home, I lay it on the bed and send it to him.

That's all I can think of for now, but I will keep thinking.

for 14, I meant take a picture of it and send him the picture.

Question from my little creative mind....I've heard some of ya'll making cards.....is using glue ok? I saw somewhere that return address labels on incoming mail weren't allowed??? So can you glue paper items on a card,like cut outs or doilies? or stickers? why no adhesives why would they say that...lol stamps are self adhesives so what is the fuss anyone know???

can you doodle on the outside of the envelope; ie decorate it?

I've had several things sent back to me that were "glued items" :argh But some have made it thru depends on who's checking the mail,etc and the prison itself all you can do is try!

I come up w/these this morning :)

If you have kids....
1.send there "art work"
2.or papers from school there proud of(maybe you worked on spelling words during a visit with your loved one and they got a good grade on it)
3.help your child make a craft(paper) for seasonal or holiday decoration(Fall or halloween coming up?) and make 2 one to display in your home and one for your loved one to hang up as well!

If you don't.....
1.Make a "cootie catcher"
http://www.joanholub.com/cootiedirections.html
2. invent a new "tradition" for yourselves(would work w/kids too!) and then continue it after they get home as well!
3.make a "collage" of things of you as a couple...put things you like on one side,things he likes on the other and put things you enjoy together in the middle then color copy it and sent it,Bryan and I have a private joke so I'mcalling ours "EWE & ME" :D

1.Make homemade paper(coloring it optional) and write a poem or copy a favorite on it(also great idea for kids)
2.Write a "secret message" on a "fancy" paper(or one you decorated with rubber stamps) and then cut it up in about 10 pieces for a "puzzle" send it all at once or a piece at a time for "suspense"!:D
3. Find a "papercraft" book and make a 3D card
4.Write a list of 101 things you love about him(I started at 20 but it ran over!!LOL)
5. Make a list of encouraging quotes to send
6.Choose a book to read "together" and discuss it
7.Write a "message" on your hand and photocopy it(I always write on my hands and Bryan's like what's that? when I go to visit! Gave me the idea)
8. Trace leaves from tress
9. Send quizzes to get to know each other better,works especially well if you met as penpals!
10. Use gel pens or various ink colors and rubber stamps to make your letters look different!

Any ideas on some questions to ask? I have come up with about 40, that is 2 letters worth, I send 20 at a time. Anyone have any suggestions?

Also, he listens to an oldies station with his cellie. Any ideas on some songs I can call in and dedicate to him? I listen to country, not really familiar with the oldies.

Thanks.
Michelle

I'm feeling a little b*tchy today, so all i have to say is WHY does it have to be all about HIM????

Maybe I should start a post "Things he can do to cheer me up" :)


Lisa

P.S. let me add this...I DON'T feel sorry for Shah for being in jail. NOONE TOLD HIM TO GO OUT AND SELL DRUGS.

Lisa

I make Dean cards on my printmaster program and he loves them. I took the polirods we had taken at the visit and scanned them and made lots of cute projects with them. Edit the pic and add backgrounds. I also found goofy animal gifs and croped my kids faces to the animal faces, everyone want there kids like that now.

Great Ideas!! I've been seending anywhere from 1-5 letters and or cards a day......he's only been in jail 2 weeks.....is this too much????I think I used all my good ideas already....just needed some creative out of the box ideas... I actually went to the craft store, and found some neat stationary paper...one had macaroni and cheese for the background and the other was popcorn....i wish they were scratch n stiff....I'm worried he might use them and throw them in to one of their Ramen noodle spreads......lol Thanks!

I guess my man is coming home tomorrow. So, I've been crazy cleaning; gardening; cleaning the equipment we sell on eBay; made him a "book" from the story made at pillowtalk.com (THANKS!!!!!); got him the BIGGEST piece of beautiful cow; and chicken legs (just in case). This is only temporary until he has to go in and actually serve the year. I plan on meeting him at court (dressed to kill. Is that over much?). I've been jotting down my thoughts. And I was going to do a "WELCOME HOME" banner. Should I?

Thanks all!

Shell..
"Unchained Melody" is a good oldies song to send out to him.

Shell,

One of my fav oldies songs is "And Then He Kissed Me". Not sure if that's the exact title. Sappy sweetness at its best:p

One of the things I've done to cheer him up:

Went to a printable calendar site and wrote something special for each day and mailed it to him. Things like: Sep 1...wear one of your shirts to work. Sep 12...write I love you 100 times and mail it to you. And then of course there were a few naughty ones. That way he can feel like he's with me each day. But it was a one month thing because it took me 4 hours to come up with enough stuff to fill the days!

And thanks to everyone for all their great ideas. These are my fav threads here. I've got 17 more years of creativity to try and come up with:confused:

Angela

Lisac117--Its really not "just" about him. We all know that our men did some pretty ****ed up things to get where they are. But don't you think they know that? Personally, I see the impact this has had on my man both emotionally and physically. And I feel that if I can't love him enough to forgive him for his mistake and the pain it has caused us, then I don't need to be with him. So, I am trying to cheer my man up, because no matter what he has done I still and always love and forgive him. I think when I can do something small to cheer my man up it makes me feel better too. That may not be the case for everyone.

I love these suggestions! Keep them comming everyone!

"Becauseofme" those are all great ideas! I would do as much as you have time/energy for! I always try to do what I would like someone to do for me :)

I too find almost always that doing for others makes ME feel better too! I first wrote to Bryan to be there for him but I didn't realize what a BOOST of happiness it would make in MY life,and I just do as much as I can for him because he's "in there" for awhile and he can't do these things for himself if he wanted too:( And yeah that was cause of some STUPID choices on his part but I have made DUMB choices too,and besides Bryan appreciates all I do for him,hardly ever asks me for anything and he KNOWS its really "ALL ABOUT ME" anyway!LMAO!:D

My 7 year old just gave me an idea. He wants to send themes to D. Like, its harvest time, so send him letters and maybe draw corn on them--Make your own stationary using color crayons. I thought that was cute.

Also, I was looking on another thread and thought, wouldn't it be nice if we could come up with some creative ways to make Ramen noodles taste better. So maybe buy ramen noodles and fiddle with them in your kitchen with whatever our guys have access to for spices-- and make him a recipe book. Decorate the book anyway you like and be creative...

I like to take pictures, so another idea would be anytime you rearrange furniture or anytime you feel like it--take pictures of your house and send it to him...

Make a wish list--of things you want to buy when he gets home and adds his income to yours, places to go, restaurants to visit...

Another idea, stamp your kid's feet. Make a card and using washable ink--stamp their feet and say, "we can never fill your shoes daddy, but we can walk the road with you." Awwww, thats a cute one.

ooh yeah I like those :) I think I will ask Bryan what extra foods he gets from the commisary and see if I can come up with new "recipes" for him that work out well!THX!

what a GREAT thread! doing something positive, no matter how small, is hope and happiness in the middle of something that's been pretty hard to handle. and making my Captain smile even for a moment is.... i can imagine his laughter bursting out when he reads some of the stuff i send, can hear it in my mind, and it's like he's here with me for a moment.
(sorry to get sentimental. this forum has saved my sanity these past few months. thanx to one and all.)

i came up with the origami idea too, but sent him photocopies of the pages because getting books into this particular facility is extremely difficult. (some of the photocopies were rejected too, but you just keep trying.) and i sent him the novel i wrote, a chapter at a time.... not Steinbeck, but it was something to read!

tried puzzlemaker.com but my old computer just looked at me like i was stupid. so i wrote a couple of phrases that are important between us and had the computer turn them into cryptograms by switching the font to "wingdings."

i bought a crossword magazine and sent him a dozen puzzles at a time; photocopied the answer pages and cut them apart. i was sending the answers for each bunch of puzzles taped to a separate sheet of paper until they refused the last batch. ("Items taped to paper.") don't know why they let the others go through but i haven't sent any since then. (he's so close to getting out i'm not taking ANY risks!)

the Captain's current hosts photocopy the envelope, so if i did any artwork (on the front, at least) i know he'd see it. he doesn't get the actual envelope, and i assume the copies are black and white.

i liked the calendar idea, and i've been loving the 'counters' that so many here share in their posts. it totally blew me away when i realized i can now count the Captain's sentence in HOURS. in case he hasn't thought of it that way yet, i printed out a calendar for October and wrote "480" and "240" etc. on the appropriate days. just sent it this morning; he'll get it tomorow night. thanx again to all of you for showing me how to live thru this.... now every time i check my watch, i figure out exactly how many hours and minutes are left. silly, i know.... but thinking of it in hours is making this a heck of a lot easier right now!


Michelle, i'm a dj, and can give you a much longer list of songs than you really want!
; ) i think here is where i say "pm me and i might be able to help." anyway i sure would like to if i can.


here's one idea that i haven't seen mentioned: astrology. i got a Time/Life cd on eBay for $10, and it does "compatibility" charts. i printed ours out and sent them to the Captain, along with his horoscope for the day of his release. (it's a good one!! what we will face after his release is going to be much worse than his trial and incarceration have been, and reading our forecasts for the first day helped ME as much as it did him, i bet.)

of all the mail i've sent him, i think he liked the charts and the horoscope best. (you could also do one for a parole date, court hearing.... again, "pm me" and i'll share everyting i can.) there are hundreds of astrology sites on the web also (astrology.com is my fav) and from one of them i printed out and sent him a month of daily horoscopes for September. soon as October is available i'll do the same.

i've also printed and sent him stuff from here. it was what i've read here that has brought it home just how much the Captain's life is going to change now that he's been convicted of a violent crime. the comments from folks here are going to go straight to his gut, i hope. he didn't harm anyone and i support the choice he made in a tough situation, but society is going to slap him with a big red A, the label "domestic violence." he's going to have to change his whole life, basically, to stay out of jail now. i've come to terms with this; i hope he has, or will REAL soon. if any of you folks pray, please put in a word for my Captain?

thanx for listening.
THANX FOR BEING HERE!!!!!

Dang! I love your ideas InDecision! And thanks soooo much for sharing. You see, we can all get through this together! Never give up! Its ok to doubt sometimes and ok to cry, but always know that its the little things that can bring so much happiness to you and him both. Thats why I started this thread. Since I began doing this for my Papi you know what, we have fallen deeper in love each day. And now we are BOTH excited to see what the next treasure holds.

Idea--how many birthdays did baby boy miss? Well I missed 7--so I'm doing the puzzle thing sending one piece at a time to my baby of a photocopied picture of the 7 small gifts I got him. One for each year. haha--I love IT! I'm having so much fun loving my man and knowing that we are doing this together and keeping it positive, keeping it real. Happy birthday baby!


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My baby's the driver and I'm the roller. Together we can ride off into the sunset. It wont be long. Loving Papichulo for ever. :cuffs:

I just wanted to say that all of these ideas are great. I also wanted to share something that James said to me last night on the phone. He said "Baby, do you know from the moment I go to bed, till when I wake until I get back from work, the moment I am waiting for is mail call. I can't wait to see what my baby sent me in the mail today. You just don't know what a difference it makes in helping me get through the day." So I just wanted everyone to know that all the effort we put into picking up their spirits, well it is working and it does make a difference. Thanks for giving me more ideas of things to send and for him to look forward to. Thanks Ladies.

another thought:

i wrote a bunch of poems to the Captain when we first started getting serious, and they were published in a book a couple of years ago by a "POD" publisher. for $100 they will turn just about anything into a book, and it will be available for sale at online bookstores and can be ordered from any brick & mortar bookstore.

the Captain's book has his name in the title and his picture on both covers. also i played around with the 'parts of a book;' jokes and secret smiles for the captain, in the index and foreward and such.

you could publish stories about the two of you, past and future, maybe? the possibilities seem endless.... his story of his life, or the facts as you'd like the world to know them about your loved one's incarceration. you can have copies of it sent to him from a bookstore or direct from the publisher, and you'll get a small royalty check once a year.


or, just write the one you love a poem? sorry if i've been phrasing this as if everyone who reads it is a woman who cares for a man in jail, and most guys are totally jazzed when a woman writes them a poem, no matter how good. but that also applies to anyone you love, i would think. nor does it matter what it's about! one of the Captain's favorites is just a list of his physical attributes that i like. if it's ok i'm going to post it here, just as a sample?


all of you

eyes of amber
heart of gold
spirit of wonder
i love to hold
hands of magic
balls of steel
how can i tell you
what i feel?
shoulders so wide
and so very strong
warm holding arms
in which i belong
waist made for hugging
hips against to press
your backside would take
a whole poem, no less!
(but i'll never forget
that one glimpse i had
still makes me giggle:
ok, i'm bad)
legs of muscle
feet of grace
now working my way
back up to your face



not Shakespeare i know, but having a book published about him made the Captain happier than anything anyone has ever done in his life. this isn't a project to put together overnight, but may you have many pleasant hours anticipating his enjoyment if you decide to give it a try!

there are a number of companies that publish "print on demand" books (NOT "vanity!") the one i used is iuniverse.com and i recommend them highly.

(apologies to Fed-X and friends if i'm not supposed to post the url. i read the rules and this is for the use and benefit of the folks this forum is for; i don't have any connection with them except being a happy author!)


thanx again to one and all. just knowing i'm not alone makes all the difference in the world.....

one mre thought, if you're not tired of me yet....

the Captain speaks 2 1/2 languages, and when he found out last year i was studying Spanish, he started giving me little "puzzles," phrases to translate. (when i was losing weight it was "Lookin' gooooood!!" i sure liked that one!)

buy a matching pair of foreign-language dictionaries, and write him letters to "decode." he (your loved one!) can write you back the same way. i've been using babelfish but i'm pretty sure i'm not getting the idiomatic Spanish spoken locally; you might want to check it but they told me "mi amor mas querido" means "my dearest love." (just to get you started, he he!) how many languages can you say "i love you" in?

if you're having fun, you could expand it with a book about a country where the language is spoken.... or writing stories about dream vacations, and someone mentioned travel brochures too.

WARNING: now that you've got me started, i may think of even more!

precious, you really ARE precious**

ok, ONE more! (poems don't have to rhyme!)


this one is the Captain's favorite, although a couple of others are a close second. to him it's a description of unconditional love in 17 syllables. the haiku poems in the book were numbered, and this one was number 10. now the number "10" has become a symbol of complete love for us: all i have to do is flash 10 fingers, or write "#10" on the corner of an envelope, and he reads it as saying volumes.

please feel free to share this with anyone you love!!! i'm not posting these for my own vanity, but this just might make someone's day : )



haiku #10

if your love was real....
you would be just as you are.
hey, that's pretty cool!

don't say i didn't warn you!

i hope this isn't excessive posting. yesterday i went to an AA club to pick up a schedule to send to the Captain, and stayed for the noon meeting. it was my first one in seven years and i went back for the evening meeting.

with weeks to go before his release, and trying to heal from the devastation of his arrest and conviction (he was facing up to 10 years), while wondering WHERE ON EARTH DO WE GO FROM HERE, i've got a lot of stuff trying to sort itself out in a very short time. (i'm starting to cry again as i type this.) i guess that's why i finally registered after months of reading your wonderful posts.

so please bear with me, at least as long as i really have something to say?


the Captain is in the local county jail, and he is allowed to get the daily newspaper delivered to his bed every morning. didn't even have to put in a kite or ask for any kind of permission. i called the subscription department and gave them his name and inmate number, and his bed number, and they started it the next day and sent me a bill.

he reads it all day long, and shares it, and sunday is the only day he doesn't get out on work release, so that 2-inch stack of paper is manna to my Captain's busy mind. (i've tried sending extra letters for sunday but he reads them all on saturday night.)

you'll want to find out what is allowed for your own loved one, and how to do it. if not a local paper, your hometown paper, the New York Times, or.... ?

You are awesome!!! I'm gonna use some of your ideas. I especially love the one about the horoscopes.

I pm'ed you for some songs. Thanks for the offer.

Hugs
Michelle

That Pilliow mail is wonderful, thanks a bunch!

Aren't we all just feeling PEACHY now! :) I talked to my baby last night too. I told him I got his letter and he said he just got mine the same day. All 10 pages of it. He said its good I write like that (I write a little here and there throughout the day) because he feels like he's with me all day and it keeps his mind occupied. InDecision--your precious too! Love your ideas. Keep on posting. Some of these ideas are truly genuine! Sometimes it just takes a few of us to get together and pool ideas to jump start our own imaginations.

I too write my letters a little at a time or as if it makes them feel as if they are at home with me :) I also send pics of home & the area too so for a little bit they can feel like they are in another place!

I really liked the language idea!Bryan and I are kinda rusty in German and I want to teach my daughter too so maybe now is the time! Also Bryan already has a book about him but its rather biased so I had considered writing my own book with the REAL whole story not quite as "sensational" but certainly would be an eye opener!

Maybe I will come up with some more ideas soon too!

haha...I wrote Randy in Russian one time...HE still hasn't figured the letter out yet!!
Sara

shell0221001 - I subscribe to 1,000 questions for couples. It is a large pdf file, but if your interested pm me with you email address and I will send it to you. WE have had great fun answering the questions from if you could have any kind of pet what would it be? to what is your greatest flaw and what steps are you taking to overcome it? to how often do you balance your checkbook? Since James and I were just friends when he went in, we have learned alot about each others habits through these questions. WE have laughed a lot at ourselves as well. -Linda

i was writing letters to the Captain for a couple of years before he was arrested, and i've always used a blank email. "to" can be any endearment (and once or twice not so dear!) or nickname.... the subject is obviously extra room for fun. they are time and date stamped, which he loves; i have a friend who drops my letters off at the central postal facility before dawn, and the Captain is usually enjoying them 36 hours later. he likes knowing what i was thinking at dawn, at bedtime.... when i can't sleep and thoughts of him are too strong to resist.


i'm proud of him, but i don't know how much knowing that will help when †he rest of the world treats him like jack the ripper. nothing will be accomplished by whining, but this travesty is a tragedy, and i'm still so angry. the most loving human being i've ever known has now been reclassified as a brutal subhuman, with at best a marginal right to a silent life of suffering in atonement for his "crime."

poems and puzzles are good for now, but what in the name of the gods am i going to be able to do to help him when he comes home?

Brian and I have been talking about learning Polish together. Now is a good time to do it I guess :) I'm gonna look into it ASAP!!!

Lilmama,
PM is on the way!!! We have been together for almost 4 years, but I am trying to give him stuff to occupy his mind and constantly remind him that we are here and waiting for him to come home to us.

InDecision..
You ROCK!! As my teenagers would say..LOL Keep on posting...As much as you want. We love it!!

Hugs to everyone!!!
Michelle

I copied my Pillowtalk story into Word and printed it out book style. I then found a "naughty" picktre (graphic; I have classy erotic graphics) and put in in the "dedication" page with my dedication. After I constructed the book, I cut little slits in the "binding" and threaded through black ribbon, then made a "not too feminine" bow at the bottom.

He was home at 11 PM last night, and I had to go to court with my ex at 9 am so I left at 7:30. When I got home, he already had to leave for his 2-week detox. So I guess I get to start all over again w9th missing him. How am I going to make it when he has to go serve his year after being back for the holidays????? (Sorry for whining to those of you who must survive our "prison terms" long-term. My heart goes out to you.)

Did I just ramble. Thanks for being here.

because of me

becauseofme: will he be able to get it w/the ribbon in it? I think that's a great idea but Bryan wouldn't get it like that :( The ribbon and all....

For "short timers":on my BAD days I think you are "whining"(but who cares!) but you MISS your loved ones same as the rest of us! They chose there crimes we deal w/the time. I think we all should just count our blessings no matter how small!And rejoice that we have each other to lean on in the mean time!:)

Thanks gal!

Ya'll are very creative..I MUST SAY!!! Thats very interesting. Those are some things that im sure will make our men feel almost like they are home. LOL. Close enough for now I guess. But thanks for the ideas, I could really use those. Yall have a great weekend. I go to see my boo bear in exactly 6 hours. I cant wait its only been a week and I miss him already!!! Bye

I went out and got some really nice card stock, some with textures, with lots of vibrant colors. He always used tolove it when i sent him flowers, so obviously can't send the real thing so I made him a bouquet of flowers i made. On each one I used metallic gel pens and wrote an Inspirational phrase or a poem or a simple "I love you" I also sprayed them with perfume..Whats a flower with no scent? I was then thinking I should send him things like the moon, and the stars since he can't go out and see them, we used to do that everynight(gaze at the stars)

babycow - I sent James the earth and the moon. I work in an archive and so I have great pictures of them. I wrote "I want to give you the earth and moon, but since I can't these pictures will have to do." He loved them. His bunk is on the top, so he put the moon on the ceiling and he looks at each night before he goes to self. PM me if you would like me to see if I can get some pictures for you. -lilmama

This is a great idea!I have heard this alot about missing simple things like seeing the stars at night. Also this can't be done quite yet but last winter I wrote Bryan's intials in the snow but DUH! couldn't take a pic of them so then I get smart!!! I go get my hersheys choc syrup and write "ILY Bryan" in the snow and took a polaroid pic of it!He loved it and it tasted pretty good too!:D

BryansGRRL - what a great idea about the snow, unfortunately, I live in Southern California so no snow for me.

You lucky devils could go write something on the beach!Kinda the same idea! I also am lucky in that me and Rosie03 live on Lake Huron though its pretty chilly here just now!!!BRRRR!

I am doing a unit study on patriotism,etc just now and found a craft to make a "string of stars" so we'll send Bryan one too!I got this link for other helpful ideas for those w/kids or just some time on there hands!LOL:)

I have been sending him poetry, some I have written some i have acquired from elsewhere. I send him a copy and keep a copy. The copy I keep I put in a scrap book. I make colored paper hearts and al kind of scrap paper stuff. When he comes home and we get married I plan on giving him the collection of poems in the scrapbook as a keepsake. He will already know the poems and each one wil give him a different memory. I know some people can give it as a valentines gift or anniversary or even a welcome home gift. Put pictuers of the two of you in and anything that he likes about you.

Thanks guys, onfortunatlley I am so very uncreative. I have sent crosswords from th einternet, and from cmoicspage I send him Calvin and Hobbes because he likes comics. I send him magzines from Barnes and Noble sometimes and I write little messages on some pages for him to discover lateer. I take pictures of myself holding signs that have corny mesages on them, for example I have one where I am laying in bed pretending to sleep with a sign in a silhouette shape on the pillow next to mine that says "Your head here"

a.lil.love~

sounds like you are very creative.........those are some really sweet things, and I am sure he appreciates them greatly!

Love the your head here idea! Got to try that one!

wow I was just reading my post a couple back, I can't type to save my life. Maybe it was since it was midnite. Anyways I am just responding here again so that it will be at the top of the forum and more people will post more ideas.
By the way...
I got a great astrology report called Relationship Potential for us. It is a decent length and so accurate especially on his part!!! I got it at astrology.com

1. I SEND HIM POSTCARDS OF EVERYTHING AND ANYTHING. ESPECIALLY WHEN I DON'T HAVE TIME TO WRITE A LETTER.

2. I TAKE PICTURES OF DIFFERENT PLACES AROUND TOWN AND HE HAS TO GUESS WHERE I'M AT.

3. I SEND OLD TICKET STUBS TO EVENTS I HAVE ATTENDED.

I LIKE THE IDEA ABOUT THE CALENDAR. MIGHT TRY IT. :p





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-I tatooed his name on my thigh and had a cusin take pics at the place.
-get body paint and make him a life size image

ok so i'm not really creative i'm sure we've all done this but willie is crazy over it. The next letter you send put a little extra lipstick on and kiss the page under your signature. Feel free to do a few trial kisses on a blank page first.

Originally posted by sutherngurl85
ok so i'm not really creative i'm sure we've all done this but willie is crazy over it. The next letter you send put a little extra lipstick on and kiss the page under your signature. Feel free to do a few trial kisses on a blank page first.

Is that still allowed? I heard it wasn't in some places.

In Florida it is. I just did it not to long ago. He loved it!

That is cute.... Ill have to try some of those......

I also recently(and have before) "kissed" my letter w/lipstick, it got in ok.:) All you can do is try!

I did it when Louie was in prison a while back. Guess I'll have to start doing it again, since he's going back.

I'm not sure I can come up with five...but here is one. Since I have no pictures of us together I make them. I'll use photoshop to cut out his face from one of his photos and take mine from another picture and then place them on new photo. Basically it's like replacing the heads on an existing photo. Like a picture of a man and a woman walking on the beach together. For example the one in my profile...him playing the accordion and me the ballet dancer. It usually makes him smile...and you can get really creative with the scenes you are in together :)

Some of these idea's are so cute! The only thing i can think of to share with you that no one else has shared already is just put some lipstick on, pucker up, and kiss your letters. My man loves that, he says he puts his lips to mine when when he gets his mail, and that he can taste me and we kiss! Too he notices when i stop kissing them, and he reminds me to kiss my letters! So now I'm always on it! :p

I especially liked the pictures of the moon and stars idea, because my man hasn't seen the moon since the last time he got transfered, and too i loved the the I love you's in the sand idea!

I think all of these ideas are great. Thanks for sharing!

Some great ideas....many that I will be doing :) Oh and about the lipstick kisses.....there is a thread about that.....seems yes it does depend on what prison. Theres not a lot I can think of right now to add to whats already been said but here is a couple of ideas that I use.....

1. I make each letter a theme and have pictures and stories etc with my letter eg movies, nascar, the moon and stars, the list is really endless

2. Photocopy or scan your hand print and decorate around the border. My baby has it above his bed so he can put his hand to mine

3. I decorate letters with butterflies, hearts and flowers n make them pop out from the page. I have managed to get away with using the tiniest dab of glue. All you do is cut a small strip of paper and fold it into a concertina and glue one end to the page and the other to the cutout. Hope I have explained this well enough lol

4. This one probably wont be of interest to most of you but being from australia I gave him months of lessons in aussie slang......was really funny reading his letters when he used them in the wrong context lol lol I am so proud of him. Just thought Id share this one

Ronnie is a Nascar fanatic but he does not get to watch the races because TX doesn't consider it a sporting event. BOOO! Every Sunday I sit down and write Nascar on the laptop. I give him a play by play of the race, make fun of the drivers and comentators (jeff gordon is Unibrow and Micheal Walthrip's beautiful wife ith bought and paid for). He passes it around for his buds that are into Nascar so they can get a laugh too. I did do one kind of mean thing, but it was sooo funny. He is always telling me to take care of his truck. I sent him a letter telling him I traded it in for an a yellow SUV and would send him a picture of it. I sent him a picture of a backhoe. He told me at first the blood drained from his face, but he should have known it was just my sick sense of humor.

i sometimes make my man my own MAD LIBS / AD LIBS....the fill in the blank stories so he can have fun by himself with it....he always enjoys that....(it is a little time consuming on my part thou)...:p