Hi all,
I don't think I've posted much on this forum...my husband doesn't come home until Aug 06...actually, I'm believing it will be much sooner, but that's for a different post...

The reason I'm writing today is that my best friend's son is coming home this Friday (Sept. 19th.) She has so many questions and no computer and I told her about how wonderful you all are. Any suggestions? He's also my husband's best friend, and my husband said that my friend is going about all this the wrong way. Let me use names here so this makes sense...Rob is the one coming home and his mom's name (my best friend) is Nancy. Ok, my husband said that Nancy is going about this the wrong way...that she's looking at it like he just graduated from high school or something...she wants to have a party, cook for him, she bought tons of presents, stuff like that. Rob is 25 and truthfully, all he wants is a hooker...not to be gross, but I'm honest.

Anyway, Nancy thinks Rob might want some time alone since he hasn't been alone in over 3 years, but she's afraid to do something wrong. I, personally, think he'd LOVE it if she left him alone for the w/e. What do you all think? Can she leave him alone for the w/e.

Also, I'm feeling weird. I have not seen Robert on the outside since he was a kid...and NOT my husband's friend...just my friend's kid...now he's a man and it's gonna feel weird to me to see him home. Is this normal? I'm totally happy for him, but I'm afraid that I'll cry when I see him for the first time outside of prison (i had been able to visit him a lot while he was locked up 'cuz his mom and I often went together to see my husband and him). I'm not hatin' but I think I'll have weird emotions that he's home and my husband isn't. Also, I adore Rob's kids and now that their daddy is coming home they want to come visit me at my house with thier dad...gosh, I'm just rambling, but there's a lot going on right now...

I'm listening...:)
Wendy

THANKS!
Wendy

why wouldn't she be able to leave him alone ....his probation residence is at home i assume.....she's not on probation...as for the party....tell her to be careful who she invites that could cause problems....i think...

Thanks. I know, I think she's just trying to be extra careful about him. I think she's needs to realize that it's not her "time", but his...even on the outside. I'm not a mom of an inmate (thank Creator), just a wife, and I can't imagine how different it must feel because it's your "kid" and you want to control so much...
Anyway, I will be sure to pass along anything anyone has to say for my friend.

Yea, I think she's only inviting her friends to the party, not his, at least I hope so...
:)

i know how she feels....when my son came home after spending 4+ years...i wanted so much to do everything....the last time i had seen him was when he was 20 and he left home when he was 18....so i felt i had my little boy home and i wanted everything to be easy and good....well sorry to say.....no matter how hard i tried to keep up with him and make sure everything ran smoothly....it didn't....he was grown...but back in the household with mommy dearest treating him like a little boy....i think...and this is easy to say now .....that we have to let them struggle a bit....or they start feeling bad about themselves that they still have no control over their lives.....but gosh...i was his mom...oooo...now he's back in prison...facing 8-10years if we're lucky...and that hurts..cause i was like...gosh....he had all he needed here...hummm..being a parent sucks sometimes...no matter what you do it never seems to be right or good enough(sometimes) tell her i said good luck...and if she ever needs anyone to talk to i can give her my number or i could call her...cause my long distance is free....

Thanks, Sami...I think I'll pass this along and ask her what she wants to do about communication. I'm so sorry that you have to go through all of this mess!
Wendy

well, ROB is a big boy..although he has made some mistakes that landed him in prison, i see why she is not sure if she should leave him alone for a few. maybe she is having some TRUST issues...like can i trust that he wont gunk up & end up BACK in prison. does that make sense?

she will eventually need to make the decision for herself. i know that really all billy wants when he gets out, is s-e-x, and GOOD home cooked food (guess i need 2 learn how 2 cook huh? lol)...

although, on the other hand, that is FANTASTIC news that he is being released on friday! WOOHOO!! :)

look, when you see rob, if you cry you cry, no need to hide it in..if you are sad, then so be it...good luck!

Thanks, Lovin! :)