Hey OKAY! lol sorry just had a bit of "bring it on" in my head then! or do they say A okay? anyways!

Thought I would start a topic where us girls can just banter/bitch/vent/ whatever the hell we wanna do in here! if there is any dudes I guess they can join in aswel! don't wanna leave them out lol :rolleyes:

So......bring it on girl's!

What's on ya mind? everything Kool? anyone get a letter today?

I'm trying to write a letter to bry at the moment but i've kinda come to a dead end! sure i'll get over that in about 2 mins tho!

Hope all is well girls!

Love

Babs! X

<holden hand up> ME ME ME i got a letter today!!!! hehehehe.. he made me smile ALL the way through it ! i LOVE gettin letters! i also sent him off a Easter card today, and finished up on a 18 page letter to be sent off in the mornin.
hmm, no vents at the moment LOL.. but i do have ONE gripe.. the danged GAS Prices need to go DOWN! sheesh farr i spend too much money on Gas every week .. EEEK!

Oh yeah, I got a hell of a letter today, and I am WICKED confused. I don't even want to go into it, but suffice to say it includes an IMPORTANT question and I just don't know if I want to go there in the mail or wait 'til the visit. I'll probaby wait. 11 more days!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

10 more days!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

It takes ages for me to get a letter! it's like a two week turn around! so I norm get one then a few days latter I get another one!

Snakecharmer...how long does it take you to write 18 pages? Holy crap he must be a happy man when the mail gets passed out. I find that the more I drink, the easier it is to come up with super interesting topics to write about myself. Unfortunatlely, by the end of the letter my handwriting is no longer legible:) My man sent me a letter that I received yesterday...all it said was "this is as close to a hug as your gonna get today". Yeah, is that his way of getting away with being lazy and not writing? How often do you guys get mail from your loved ones? Sometimes I go a week or even two with out mail. We talk on the phone alot though.

I wish we could talk on the phone alot<sigh> thats wonderfull that yall get too!! It's doesn't take me THAT long to write 18 pages<shrug> i LOVE to talk to him.. and our USUAL letters are about 20+ pages everytime.. and we USUALY sent out 2 or 3 letters a week. ( He loves me hehehe) it usualy takes me 2 days to write a letter( and thats with it being prolly 28 pages or so) UNLESS i'm alllllll hyped up or i stay up late, or have "extra" free time. and yes.. he says he LOVES mail call<smile> makes me feel good. I send my Letters in BRITEEEEEEE neon envelopes.. so he says he starts smilin before they even get to his door, cuz he KNOWS he got mail from his Girl! we talk about Everything.. from what the kids done that day, the new songs we hear, our dreams, even what i bought at the grocery store that day LOL but girl i know what you mean about by the end of the letter your handwritten is really suckin! lol mine is too BAD! hahaha
girl, maybe he was haven a "hard day" but still was thinkin about you enough to want to tell you he loved you!!!! <smile>

How often is he able to call you (Snakecharmer)? There is something special about letters though...I love talking to him on the phone but I can save his letters forever and re-read them over and over and...you get the idea. Actually, I really love to hear his voice though too. We're kind of spoiled right now considering that we used to only speak 30 minutes a week on the phone last summer (15 min on Monday/15 on Thursday). I think we've talked everday this week for at least 45 minutes though (its all fun and games until I get the bill...yeah, I really need to learn self control). Sometimes (especially in the beginning) it was really hard for me to understand him...deep southern boy accent and I'm from Michigan so it felt like we were speaking different languages.

hahahahaha!!!!!! That's so funny about the accent thing. I grew up in Alabama, so I don't think anything of deep southern accents, though I no longer have one (I sound kinda neutral, I guess, except when I get REALLY mad and then the South comes out). I just remember going to Arizona for college and on the first day of one of my first courses the instructor was making people read stuff aloud and when he got around to me, everyone was snickering and saying, "Like, what did she say?" (Imagine a Valley Girl accent - lol) Its amazing how different speech is in each region of the U.S.

Yeah, "amazing" it is...we sound so different even though were only a days drive apart. I couldn't for the life of me understand what a clerk at the gas station in Atmore was trying to tell me on my first visit...another customer clued me in..."she's telling you how you owe her-63.00"...its pretty interesting.

well i have nothing to vent about but i can say that i got a letter today and i was so glad. just 17 more days and i get to see adam cant wait its been almost 10 months since ive seen him
and he is happy now because i got to talk to him and i did the dedications the other night on the radio. so not grips yea yea yea

I haven't gotten a letter yet this week, I just saw him Sunday so I'm not reallly worried, but he made me promise that I would write him when I got home, so I've sent 2 letters so far working on my 3rd now.. He says he wants me to write everyday, cause thats all he has to look forward to. I'm counting down the days til I get to see him again, 11 more days!!!!YAY!!!:D I don't really have any grips, except for they really need to lower gas and hotel prices!!lol it costs alot just to go see my baby! I only live an hour from him but our first vist in 3 years was last Sunday, I'm gonna do what I did then and stay in a hotel there the night before so i can get there right at 7am! Hope ya'll are all doing well!!! WISH YOU THE BEST!!

Rae, he is in SEG.. so he only gets ONE 15 minute call a MONTH! and then there are some months when even that don't happen.. yes i too love to hear his voice<smile.... sigh> i REALLY enjoy the phone calls, and maybe soon we will be able to have one on a reg routine<shrug> but i get ALLLL excited when i get a letter.. i stop EVERYTHING i'm doing.. i cry, laugh, and talk right back to him out loud while i read them! hahaha
and the Deep southen accent.. gurllllll i know wut ya talkin bout.. everbody tells me i got one BAD! but i dont even notice it LOL when i lived in indianapolis.. i worked there at the college.. and oh boy did they ever have fun with me LOL i thoguht THEY talked strange haha
YES they do need to lower gas prices and hotel fees, shoot they should give some of us a DISCOUNT rate!!! wow everyday!!!! for 45 mins.. OUCh that bill is gonna hurt.. but i'm sure you both got every minute out of it!!!
they need to lower teh freakin phone rates too, and allow um to go thru a cell phone<shrug> oh got to run real fast... be back later LOL

I love that "bama" accent! I've never spok eto bryan on the phone tho, he says that he does not have a thick accent! he said the redneck comes out in him every now and then tho!

LOL i think all of us "country folk" has that lil bit of redneck in them that no matter where you move off to , or who your around.. it is STILL gonna come out ever once in a while whenyou get REALLY pissed! LOL
Shea... congrats on gettin to visit soon.. i'm sure it will make the both of you so very happy!
Hope everyone will have a Better and more wonderfull day tomarrow!!

LOL, fair play! i'm gonna be in heaven when i'm out in bama! hope there are some cute guy's! ;) get me some of that woop-woop!

So girl's what are your stories? are you all in relationships with people in prison? did you meet before he went down or after? you married? have kid's? dish, dish!

I'll tell ya a little something something about me! I turn 22 on the 24th of april, i'm from essex, england! I'm studying at the moment! Law and ecdl computers! I love going out and partying! everything I do is extreme! I'm a real out there person! don't like to do things on the easy! i'm always at gigs and festivals! I love music it's pretty much my life! I like all types of music but rock is my fav! :thumbsup: I love meeting new people! and the great white shark is to me one of the best things in this world! i'm going to cape town in a few years to cage dive with them so that should be fun! I have a friend in holman prison! pp whatever you wanna call him! we get on really well, he is a kool guy! it's just a fucking shame he is in there! and has been since he was 17 and he is now 27! serving LWOP! I also feel that he shouldn't be serving that time! he should be in prison but not for the rest of his life! he was a kid,and on top of that he was on "zoloft" which he had a manic reaction too! they also never found anything else in his system other than "Zoloft" so as you can see in my sig I have a link for him with loads of info about that drug if you ever wanna read it!
Babs! ;)

I'll be 26 soon, and my whatever-he-is-today (it changes frequently) is in prison. We are one of those awful MWI couples. haha! I do have kids that are the cutest and funniest little people on the planet, but I'm still a normal 20-something and I like to go out with friends and get my drink on every now and then. I'm totally addicted to the beach. If I could be any mythical creature, I'd be a mermaid, because when I am on 2 feet, I am clumsy as hell, but in the water, I feel completely at ease. Man, I am WEIRD!!!

lol, that's pretty kool! I wouldn't say you was weird at all! awful MWI why would you say awful? in what sense?

Hey every one. I got 2 letters yesterday. YAY!!!! :clap: :clap:...I want to write you guys something he wrote me...then I will explain what he means by it.
..." I promise with all my heart to never put ya'll through this shit again. I think I have had more than enough time to think about all of the wrong I've done over the years. I still just can't believe that I have a wife that is so forgiving after all that I have put you through. You really and truly must be a God sent. Sometimes I think that you were sent to be my guardian angel. You always try to tell me right from wrong, but I'm just too damn hard headed to listen....."

Now ...that being said...the reason he says that I am his " guardian angel " is because every time he got his ass into our car with a beer, or having drank a beer, or even on the way to GET a beer, I told him to not do it. I told him that one day he'd go to jail. I even tried to scare him and tell him that one day he's going to hit someones child, then he'd see!! Well, he DID NOT hit some ones child ( Thank God ) but he did get his 3rd DUI. Now he's sitting in Noxubee CWC here in Mississippi. I have been with him for 13 yrs and been married 12 of those. I have put up with this crap since 1997. I love him sooo much, but if this happens again, in any way, I don't think that I will be so forgiving. It's not fair for our children OR me. I think he sees now that his family is more important than the beer. ...Thanks for listening ladies...Have a great Friday!!!

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I'm 30 but I'm not grown up at all...not even close. I was married and had baby boy named Jack by the time I was 21. I have degrees in massage therapy and accounting but my husband didn't let me work in massage. So I'm a boring office manager/bookkeeper now. My son and husband have both passed away (Jack at 7 months, Lee at 28). I got remarried 6 days after meeting a man in Reno (we were drunk...very drunk). We had a little boy and two weeks later my second husband told me he was gay. My son just turned 3...and do I need to express how "interesting" it is to go through the 2 and 3 year stage in a childs life??? My association to the inmate started off as therapy...I wrote about my family that had just died in the beginning. Now were beyond friends and we talk about everything. The first time I came to visit was basically for legal help but I totally fell hard for him. One of those love at first sight things. I'm known as the chic that will do anything to get an adrenaline rush though...my first husband asked me "whats next? Death?" one time when I was telling him about something crazy I wanted to do...the next week he died. Yeah, irony plays a huge part in my life too. I'm very happy where I'm at in my life right now though. Oh, and my inmate is serving LWOP (a juvenile whose death sentence was changed with the Roper vs. Simmons Supreme Court decision).

That must be so hard on you and your children! I always, always, always freak out on my friends when they assume that they can d&d. I know the hard way that alcohol and roads don't mix. It must have devastated you and broke your heart when he got his 3rd (my ex-husband has 3 too). When does he get out? He sounds like he gets the fact that his actions have hurt his family as well as himself.

That must be so hard on you and your children! I always, always, always freak out on my friends when they assume that they can d&d. I know the hard way that alcohol and roads don't mix. It must have devastated you and broke your heart when he got his 3rd (my ex-husband has 3 too). When does he get out? He sounds like he gets the fact that his actions have hurt his family as well as himself.

Yeah I was pretty shook up when he got his...broke my heart and I had ice water in my belly for months...until he went to court. He got the DUI in January 2006 and went to a few different court dates..all of them put off and put off...then on November 7th he went to court and they locked him up. Poor Jon, his mama died one month after he got locked up, on December 19, 2006.
Jonathan got lucky about his time. He only got 1 year to serve and 2 on papers. He is in a work center here, and he is in Descipleship (sp?) Classes that will help to take off one month of his sentence. I believe he will be home on August 12 2007...his ERS date is September 12th. He said something in his letter about being home in July...so I really am not 100% sure..lol. Hell, I am shooting for July LMAO!!! That would be nice to have him home. Although, not if it means he didn't get the full effect of the time he served , you know? But considering all that has gone on since he got locked up...I'm sure he'll straighten out...
So what did you mean about you learning the hard way about alcohol and roads? Were you in a wreck? Thanks for listening...now I'll listen if you wanna talk...:)

P.S...This is a pic of my baby...
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My friend was almost killed by a drunk driver. Her mother and aunt were decapitated in the accident. It scared the hell outta me. My friend however, started drinking and driving the day she got her casts removed. All of my friends drink and drive...its just some of them have a grip on how much they can drink and still be able to drive (very little)...others are going to end up behind bars b/c they drive all crazy. My ex was a TERRIBLE driver after he'd drink. He always ended up getting caught and still does it...after serving 2 years in prison nonetheless!

Let's see..how am i conected to the prison system? well i have had a crush on "him" since i was 9\10 years old.( i am 28, he is 40) we now have a bond that is beyond any words.. we both feel that it was written in the stars.. that if somehow 2 hearts were made to connect it was ours, maybe even long before this life time<shrug> but our situtation isn't "black and white" it's not of the "norm" BUT.. it works for US.
I also have 2 rotten rugratts<smile> i'd have um no other way.. i LOVE being a momma!! I'm usualy very laid back, easy going, but i am very stubborn! * a small town country gurl* i love just about all kinds of music, but country being my main fav. i can NOT sing worth anything, but i sing outloud everywhere i go! hahah everyonce in a while i like to have a night where i'm just "me" when i do whooop whooop give me some crown, and a bottle of jim! lol lol but that usualy only happens once MAYBE twice a year lol

LOL, funny girl!

Hey ladies...just wanted to check in and see how everyone was...rae-duke..thanks for sharing with me..I am sorry about your friend and her mom and Aunt. I have to honestly though, even if your friends THINK they have a grip when they are drinking, they really don't. You're officially drunk if you have had only 1 beer...by law. And if you have drank a good bit and get in the car and drive...no matter how "sober" you think you are, your still impaired. So please tell your friends (the ones who think they can still drive after drinking) that they REALLY don't have a grip. Jonathan thought the same and he's in jail now. Please don't think I am lecturing you, 'cause I'm really not trying to, but I just don't want their families and them selves to go through what Jon's family and he, himself has gone through. I hope you are doing okay today...hope to talk with you again soon...Take care...

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Hey love,
All is well with me thankyou!
And yourself?
I hope all is well with you!
Much love,
Emma!

Hey y'all...lol. Yes, I'm country as hell with that slow southern drawl...& my man LOVES it! I really find it hard to understand how my accent is so much more southern than his....and he's 5 hrs. south of me. Go figure. Anyhow, I get letters everyday (with the exception of Sunday's & Monday's...they can't mail out on weekends). Every now & then I might not get a letter...but that's only due to snail mail. We talk everyday....usually at least 3 times a day. Yes, I'm spoiled (& damn near a broke ass! lol) I go visit as often as possible, although hear lately it's not been as often as I'd like (going back to the broke ass comment!)
I have truely met my love of a life through a PP site. Geez, with all the men in the world...I have to write to a man in prison to find the perfect one! Two months shy of a year together now..& going strong! I'm 36...he's 26 (I love my boy toy!) My life is typical...a mother of 2...girl 13, boy 16 (teen-agers...agh!). I own a masonry construction co.(not my dream job but the $ is great!), I ride a Harley (knees in the breeze!). I went from tequila to coffee...hitting the bars to crocheting afghans (don't laugh!). I'm pretty content...been there & done all that other stuff. Now I'm just holding on until the day he walks out that gate into my arms! Sigh.
Oh, and hey Rae! Girl, where have you been? Call me sometime. :)

I just turned 25, and I am in an MWI relationship with a man serving a life with the possibility of parole sentence at Holman(he is 29, and has been incarcerated since the age of 20). Personally, I do not feel that he belongs in prison. I think that he has served MORE THAN ENOUGH time, considering the circumstances. After enduring YEARS of unspeakable abuse at the hands of his step-mother, he shot and killed her.

He is NOT a bad person. He has a good heart, and is a good person deep down inside. He has been through a lot in his short life, and my heart just breaks for him. At a time when he should be out living life to the fullest, he is rotting in prison. I believe that he deserves a second chance, but unfortunately I am not in a position to change the law. Sigh. :(

He and I DO cling to the hope that one day he will be freed, and he and I will ride off into the sunset together! ;) There are people who think that I must be nuts, but I don't care! I love him with all of my heart, and I have decided that I am going to stand by his side until the day I die! I will NEVER abandon him!

When I first started writing to inmates, romance and falling in love was the farthest thing from my mind! For the longest time I tried to deny my feelings, because the prospect of falling in love with a man who may NEVER leave prison was terrifying. But the feelings didn't dissipate, and seemed to grow stronger and more intense, despite my efforts to ignore them or to make them disappear. So, here I am. The woman who fell in love with a man who started out as a pen pa!

When other people look at him, all they see is a "convicted murderer" or a member of a "notorious" and violent gang. But that is NOT what I see! I see a man who is just misunderstood, and has the biggest, most caring heart that I have ever known! So, to hell with what people think! I have NEVER been a follower! I was always the one who challenged the status quo, and stood up for what I believed in, regardless of the cost!

It has been seventeen months, and our love is still going strong! At the end of the month, we will meet for the VERY first time! I live in Windsor, Ontario, Canada, and am driving down to Alabama with a friend! I am sooo excited, yet terrified at the same time! LOL I can not wait to feel his arms around me!

Let's see, what else! I am an avid reader, and a die hard true crime fan! I love "Court TV" and legal dramas like "Law and Order: SVU, "Criminal Minds" and "CSI"! The show "The Practice" was a fave!

I'm a HUGE animal lover, and I have a feline companion named "Trouble" that I absolutely adore, and couldn't live without! I don't care for children, and have NEVER desired to have any! I value my freedom and independence way too much! I am an opiniated, outspoken at times, stubborn, and very passionate woman. I do what I want, when I want, and do not follow "orders" very well(I have a bit of a rebellious streak)! ;)

Hence why I could NEVER be with a man who wanted to dominate and control me. My Steven loves the fact that I have a mind of my own, and that I am not afraid to challenge him! The last debate we had was over the sex offender registry. He believes in it, I don't! In a nutshell! LOL But get this! Despite his intense dislike for sex offenders, he encouraged me to reach out to one who was being ostrasized by the community. Of course, he wouldn't even attempt to dissuade me from doing something, once I had my mind set on it anyway! ;) But still! I thought it was noble of him! LOL

Unfortunately, due to circumstances beyond my control, I am unable to work. However, growing up I never dreamed of the big wedding and having babies. I dreamed of having an exciting career, traveling the world etc! Ideally, I would have earned a master's degree in social work, and worked either with juvenile offenders who had committed violent crimes, OR in a maximum security men's prison, as a counselor. It would have been a tie between that or a criminal defence attorney!

estranged emma:

I am a little too cautious at times, and wish that I were more of a risk taker! I have a lot of phobias and fears, which keep me from doing a lot of the things I would LOVE to do! I am envious of you! I too think that Sharks happen to be fascinating creatures, and the idea of cage diving is one that excites and thrills me! I've also always wanted to swim with the dolphins, but I guess that's not as daring huh? LOL

Suthrndreamgirl:

Nice to see you out here again! So glad to hear that all is going well for you! Hope to talk to you soon! :)

Lisa

I just turned 25, and I am in an MWI relationship with a man serving a life with the possibility of parole sentence at Holman(he is 29, and has been incarcerated since the age of 20). Personally, I do not feel that he belongs in prison. I think that he has served MORE THAN ENOUGH time, considering the circumstances. After enduring YEARS of unspeakable abuse at the hands of his step-mother, he shot and killed her.

He is NOT a bad person. He has a good heart, and is a good person deep down inside. He has been through a lot in his short life, and my heart just breaks for him. At a time when he should be out living life to the fullest, he is rotting in prison. I believe that he deserves a second chance, but unfortunately I am not in a position to change the law. Sigh. :(

He and I DO cling to the hope that one day he will be freed, and he and I will ride off into the sunset together! ;) There are people who think that I must be nuts, but I don't care! I love him with all of my heart, and I have decided that I am going to stand by his side until the day I die! I will NEVER abandon him!

When I first started writing to inmates, romance and falling in love was the farthest thing from my mind! For the longest time I tried to deny my feelings, because the prospect of falling in love with a man who may NEVER leave prison was terrifying. But the feelings didn't dissipate, and seemed to grow stronger and more intense, despite my efforts to ignore them or to make them disappear. So, here I am. The woman who fell in love with a man who started out as a pen pa!

When other people look at him, all they see is a "convicted murderer" or a member of a "notorious" and violent gang. But that is NOT what I see! I see a man who is just misunderstood, and has the biggest, most caring heart that I have ever known! So, to hell with what people think! I have NEVER been a follower! I was always the one who challenged the status quo, and stood up for what I believed in, regardless of the cost!

It has been seventeen months, and our love is still going strong! At the end of the month, we will meet for the VERY first time! I live in Windsor, Ontario, Canada, and am driving down to Alabama with a friend! I am sooo excited, yet terrified at the same time! LOL I can not wait to feel his arms around me!

Let's see, what else! I am an avid reader, and a die hard true crime fan! I love "Court TV" and legal dramas like "Law and Order: SVU, "Criminal Minds" and "CSI"! The show "The Practice" was a fave!

I'm a HUGE animal lover, and I have a feline companion named "Trouble" that I absolutely adore, and couldn't live without! I don't care for children, and have NEVER desired to have any! I value my freedom and independence way too much! I am an opiniated, outspoken at times, stubborn, and very passionate woman. I do what I want, when I want, and do not follow "orders" very well(I have a bit of a rebellious streak)! ;)

Hence why I could NEVER be with a man who wanted to dominate and control me. My Steven loves the fact that I have a mind of my own, and that I am not afraid to challenge him! The last debate we had was over the sex offender registry. He believes in it, I don't! In a nutshell! LOL But get this! Despite his intense dislike for sex offenders, he encouraged me to reach out to one who was being ostrasized by the community. Of course, he wouldn't even attempt to dissuade me from doing something, once I had my mind set on it anyway! ;) But still! I thought it was noble of him! LOL

Unfortunately, due to circumstances beyond my control, I am unable to work. However, growing up I never dreamed of the big wedding and having babies. I dreamed of having an exciting career, traveling the world etc! Ideally, I would have earned a master's degree in social work, and worked either with juvenile offenders who had committed violent crimes, OR in a maximum security men's prison, as a counselor. It would have been a tie between that or a criminal defence attorney!

estranged emma:

I am a little too cautious at times, and wish that I were more of a risk taker! I have a lot of phobias and fears, which keep me from doing a lot of the things I would LOVE to do! I am envious of you! I too think that Sharks happen to be fascinating creatures, and the idea of cage diving is one that excites and thrills me! I've also always wanted to swim with the dolphins, but I guess that's not as daring huh? LOL

Suthrndreamgirl:

Nice to see you out here again! So glad to hear that all is going well for you! Hope to talk to you soon! :)

Lisa

That was a great read, really enjoyed it! Yeah see Myself I take a lot of risks! and I think one day it will be the down fall of me! but then I can say I've done what i've always wanted to do! I mean I love sharks to bits but coming face to face is gonna scare the shit out of me! but I have nothing but respect for them and love! even tho if I was swimming they wouldn't think twice about chewing a hole in my ass lol!

estranged emma:

Thank you! I'm glad you enjoyed my post! I was worried that I might have bored people to tears! LOL I could talk about my man FOREVER! It is nice to have a place where I can talk openly about my relationship, without having to be on the defensive! :)

There is a film(documentary) that you might be interested in seeing, about sharks. It looks interesting! You could find out more about the film at http://www.sharkwater.com/synopsis.html
I know that I would like to check it out if I get a chance. I was reading about the cruel practices of shark "poachers", and it just brought me to tears! I read that they slice off the sharks fins, and then throw them back into the water all bloodied and mangled. Isn't that awful? Just broke my heart! I love animals soo much, and I believe that their lives have value too!

When you do embark on your exciting adventure, you will have to tell us all about it! I think it is admirable that you do not allow fear to control your life, and that you are determined to live life to the fullest! Bravo! :thumbsup:

Lisa

Yeah I just hope I make it back with two legs ha ha nah just joking!

Yeah, the unlawful slaying of sharks makes me sick! they just chuck them back in the sea to bleed to death and drown! sick fuckers! I'm in the making of trying to get a group of like minded people to try and stop that shit! but some people just can't be arsed with it! also I wanna get "zoloft" banned! coz that drug is fucked up! excuse my french!
Thanx for the link, i'll check that out!

Babs!