Jody" is the name that prisoners use when referring to the man that "takes care of your wife" while they are incarcerated. I was just curious what do the inmates call all the women 'penpals' that correspond with them. Has anyone heard of a nickname?

hihi, your question made me curious. I will ask around, because now I want to know too. I'll let you know what I find out:D

I was kind of suprised by that... I didn't know that was the meaning of "Jody." You notice my "handle" is "JD's Wifey"... well the "J" is "Jodell" (his first name) and my nickname for him is "Jody". Ironic!!

ironic indeed! i had never heard of 'Jody' so i didn't know what it meant neither. oh, there is a web site that has a 'prison dictionary'' on it, but i should look for the url. maybe it''ll be in there?

Here is the article where I learned about the term "
Jody"
http://www.prisonerlife.com/articles/articleID=6.cfm

The Day Jody Came to Visit Me
By: K. Mudica
Inmates of the Invisible Cell
10/23/2001

I wrote this poem for my husband.
"Jody" is the name that prisoners use when referring to the man that "takes care of your wife" while you are incarcerated. Some prisoners call him Sancho and I am sure there are even more names. But whatever he is called, he is still the same jerk. He is obviously not very well loved among prisoners.






It was pretty late on a Saturday night,
When I heard a knock on my door.
I was surprised because since my husband left,
I hadn't had visitors before.
I set down the letter I was writing,
That's something I do everyday.
I opened the door to a strange, dark man.
Right then I wasn't sure what to say.
The man leaned close and smiled at me.
He said, "I've heard you've been sad and lonely."
I smiled because then I recognized him,
I answered, "Yes, but my husband is my one and only."
Before the man could even reply,
I said, "My husband warned me about you!"
"I know your name is Jody,
And your intentions are not true."
Jody smiled slyly but didn't give up,
Even though I had called him by name.
He actually seemed kind of flattered
At the rising amount of his fame.
He told me I was beautiful
And what I was suffering wasn't fair.
But I didn't fall for one single line.
"Jody," I said, "I stay true because I care."
Jody knew he wasn't winning now
and he seemed a little shocked.
His lines had always worked before,
Then he hit me with both guns cocked.
He said, "If your husband loved you,
He would have stayed out of trouble."
You could see the rage burning in my eyes,
And the smirk on Jody's face made my rage double.
"Jody!", I yelled, "How can you dare?"
You play on women and manipulate!
I knew I had to make this end,
And with that thought I did not hesitate.
I ran to my room and grabbed my gun.
I always keep it ready.
As I pointed it at Jody,
My body shook but my hands stayed steady.
I cocked the gun and
pointed it right between his legs.
I looked right into his shifty eyes
I heard Jody begin to beg.
I pulled the trigger and as the bullet flew
I cocked and aimed again.
I'm not sure how many bullets I fired
But I think it was about ten.
I fired the gun until it was empty
and Jody lay dead on the floor.
I didn't feel one bit of remorse
as I dragged him out the door.
I dug a hole in my own back yard,
Mumbling, "A cemetary's too good for you."
Jody your days of playing on wives is over
Because MY love for my husband is true.
When I finished with the dirty work,
I stood both feet on the grave.
I stomped the dirt with all my might
And counted aloud each day.
Each stomp stood for my days alone
Since my husband was sent away.
I thought of all those other wives,
And turned to walk away.
As I headed back into my house
I thought I heard a collective sigh.
I'm sure now it was every prisoners heart,
at the relief to see Jody finally die.
Every prisoners wife, please be aware!
Jody will try to sleep with you while your husband is away
But True Love is never worth that risk
And your husband will be home someday!


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K. Mudica is the creator and webmaster of a great "Support for Families of Prisoners" website,
Inmates of the Invisible Cell. Please take the time to visit her.

hey, I have seen this poem on Celldoor, is that possible?

Jody always try to creep up on you. My husband calls women who write our husbands or other inmates Jody too. I guess because the name works both ways. I did not get it at first but it makes sense now.

Jody or Jodi is a universal term.. Can be a guy or a girl depending on inmates.. Yeah.. The jail-house term for the one that is getting busy with an inmate's man or woman..

There is also Sancho' (spelling?)....

Some inmates like to joke about this... Others will actually get "lit-up" when they hear that name...

Unfortunately I have been told some inmates use this term like "Jody's got your girl" to provoke other inmates. I hate that this happens, but I think maybe some prisoners who do not get visits or letters get jealous and want to make others miserable. I think it is awful that some prisoners get no mail or visits-I think the pen-pal idea is a great idea, as long as it is not someone else's wife or husband .

Sherri

I agree with you. like i said, I've been writing with over 40 prisoners since 2 years and they all say that their life inside is better now that they have someone to write too. that is also the reason why i started my Pen Pals in prison web site. Writing is a big part of the rehabilitation, I noticed that!

What I would like to ask do the prisoners know that you write to 40 other men? If so would that cause jeolosy? For you the writer to have a nickname for having morre than one penpal? Just curious because I write to one friend and was considering corresponding to another as soon as I find him. I'm not suggesting any thing negatives about that just feeling out the ethics to this. Everyone should be lucky to have 40 friends. Where do find enough topics to write about? LOL

yes, they all know I write so many prisoners and that i have a boyfriend. I'm just honest and tell them from the very first letter. they know i'm not searching for a romantic relationship. they tell me how much they appreciate what i do for the inmates, because they know others also need to hear from somebody that cares.
I even write with guys who know each other, it's cool to them, as far as I know they have no problems with it. if you just make it clear what you expect from each other by writing...of course it's different if you're in a romantic relationship with a prisoner and start writing others. but i know people with whom it works

That is totally true. If you are in a romantic relationship with an inmate you should not be writing other inmates. It will only lead to problems. You really need to be up front with a pen pal in the first place.

I copied this poem and sent to a couple of ladies that roll with me down to see our husbands. They tripped out because I always asked them if Jody messed with them today. They always answered me but I just found out that they really did not have any idea about what I was refering to. So go figure. You have to wonder sometimes LOL

I new that our husbands worried about someone messing with us while they are away but I had no idea it was as big as having a nickname for the guy!! This is a big concern for my husband he is so afraid I am going to "NEED" a man in my life while he is gone..he worries so much about this any suggestions on how to assure him "Jody" wont be having "dinner"( or anything else for that matter) at my house??

They only suggestion I have is to remind him of that and make he understand he is the only man you want regardless if he is with you right now or not

AMELIA-AS LONG AS HE IS IN PRISON, MY GUESS IS HE WILL NEVER BE REALLY ASSURED--THAT IS BECAUSE HE SEES THAT HE HAS NO CONTROL AND FEELS HELPLESS TO PREVENT ANOTHER MAN FROM COMING INTO YOUR LIFE, AND PROBABLY FEELS HE HAS NO WAY TO "COMPETE" WITH MEN ON THE OUTSIDE (NOT THAT HE SHOULD HAVE TO COMPETE--THIS IS JUST INSIDE HIS HEAD)--MY SUGGESTION IS BE REAL WITH HIM, SHOW HIM LOVE, AND SUPPORT. BUT DON'T QUESTION YOURSELF OR KICK YOURSELF FOR NOT BEING ABLE TO 'ASSURE' HIM OF YOUR LOVE AND FAITHFULNESS--YOU DO NOT HAVE THE POWER TO ASSURE HIM--ONLY HE HAS THE POWER TO ASSURE HIMSELF, AND THAT IS A VERY DIFFICULT THING FOR HIM TO DO IN HIS CIRCUMSTANCES. BE STRONG AND STAY POSITIVE--THINGS ALWAYS WORK OUT FOR GOOD FOR THOSE WHO DO THE BEST THEY KNOW TO DO.

SHERRI

I asked MY "Jody" about that term when I visited him this weekend.... He stated that the general concept is there... but that the term they use in the Illinois state system to refer to "that guy who will try to take care of your woman" is "Big D**K Bob"..... Hmmm....:hmm:

That is true... my hubby told me that is the term they use also. He's in Stateville/Illinois Max.

Was nice to see a post from a fellow illinoisan... :) JD has also done time in Statesville.... How long has your hubby been there?? I have another close friend that just went through classification there (since they closed Joliet).... :)

As I was reading your replies on who "Jody" is it reminded me of something Juan once told me. He not really worried that I will leave him or cheat on him, he is more worried about guys who think that just because my husband is in jail then I will settle for anyone, that I don't have any morals and will try to force themselves on me. I have come across some people with that mentality, thinking that I don't have any respect for myself because I am staying with a man in prison.

Just my 2 cents worth.
Joy

PEOPLE WITH THAT MENTALITY ... THEY ARE THE ONES WHO DON'T HAVE ANY RESPECT FOR THEMSELVES OR ANYONE ELSE--PEOPLE ALWAYS ASSUME THAT WHEN WOMEN ARE IN DIFFICULT SITUATIONS THEY ARE VULNERABLE--I SAY MUCH OF THE TIME THEY ARE ACTUALLY MUCH STRONGER AND RESILIENT THAN THE AVERAGE WOMAN


SHERRI

I totally agree with you Sherri! Going through this and surviving makes us stronger, not weaker!!

^5 sherri! you hit the nail on the head!!!

Originally posted by jdswifey02
Was nice to see a post from a fellow illinoisan... :) JD has also done time in Statesville.... How long has your hubby been there?? I have another close friend that just went through classification there (since they closed Joliet).... :)


Hi JD's wifey,
I"m sorry it has taken me so long to respond to this post, I didn't see it till just now! CRAZY! My hubby has been in Stateville about 8 yrs... he was in Menard the first two he served. I can't say anything nice about the place, any of them for that matter... They are on lockdown most to the time, no visits or phones. It's been 2 weeks since I have seen my hubby... hoping to get our contact visits back this month!! :) Well enough rambling... I have to figure out how this board works... I've been gone a minute. :hmm: (Geeezz prison talk) Going to see my baby tomorrow... can't wait, even though it's behind glass... it's most likely the last time we have to do that. :dance:

Well congrats on getting contact visits back!! :) are you the "justiceseaker" from the IL yahoo group??
It feels right now like I will NEVER get a contact visit... JD was to get out of seg at Menard in July of this year, but is now looking at another TWO years in seg and with no phone and only contact visits over some rather bogus tickets... :( We are going through the grievance process now....
Have a great visit!!! Hope to hear from you again soon!! :)

Here's my two cents. In the Marine Corps we called them Jody, In Calif. lock-ups we called them sancho. The reason guys worry about it is that we see it happening to other guys.I've seen it happen to way to many. I was reading letters for a prisoner who was illiterate till one day he got the "Dear John" letter. After that I'll never do it again. I've seen guys go ballistic over this. They drove this one kid in County jail to escape they had him so rattled.

My main fear wasn't that my wife would leave me (I mean she could never find no one like me LOL), but all it would take is one night & one moment of weakness, for the circumstances to be just right & then after it happens, the door is opened for it to happen again, and you have sancho, who disappears the day before you get out.

But remember if for any reason it ever happens DENY, DENY, DENY. (I tell guys the same thing)-------Ken

Ken, you are so right about that. We're all just human and sometimes we make mistakes. But to tell the person we love and cause them so much pain over a Mistake, will do no-one any good. In this respect it really is a case of "What they don't know won't hurt them" Meant with no disrespect, but if they did find out they would be devastated.

I have had some of the same types of things w/EJ. When he first got locked up in the county jail he was telling me that he was going to get that "Dear John" letter. He was even totally afraid to open up my first letter to him there! It took a whole lot of reassurance & I mean it from the bottom of my heart that he will NEVER get a "Dear John" letter!!
He has also mentioned that "Big D*** Bob, NOW I know what that means...hee hee!! The next time he calls & I hear that on the automated voice before I accept the call I will have to pull his chain a little.

There will NEVER be any Jody's or the other for me only my EJ!!

Where Billy's at they are called "Jody" too. That's the way we talk. If I tell him that someone was trying to get with me, I'll say, "yeah jody tried to talk to me." He knows what I'm saying. But if a guy tries to talk to me and I say to him, "ok, jody!!" they usually don't understand. HEEHEE!! They give me a funny look until I explain it to them. :haha:

i tipically respond to jody the same way. they never get it.. lol one time this guy said my name is not jody.. i said it is to me.. :)

Shortie,

They've told me that too. HEEHEE!!! I think it's funny. :haha:

At our visit today, Wayne made a joke about "Jody" and I knew what he was talking about! He said:
"Might as well roam. Jod's got your home."
"No use looking back. Jody's got your Cadilliac"
or something like that. Anyway, I told him "No Jody for me! You're all the man I need!"

that is true... Jody is on the creep more now that it's summer..

My guy has never said much about jody or big d bob, but I know he worries and gets upset at the thought. He asked in his last letter how all the guys were this summer, and said "you know what I mean." But he said that jokingly. Any other guys seeming more nervous now that the summer is here?

VNV--YES! YES! I THINK GUYS ARE A LOT MORE NERVOUS IN THE SUMMER

They must remember the bikini-patrols they used to indulge in and think we might do the same?

:)
I THINK SO V--

I agree!! LOL

I am rather blessed because JD is really quite secure about our relationship/my commitment to him... he did make a sarcastic comment in the letter that he sent to FL that he wouldn't accept any lusting and that I needed to watch where my eyes were going on the beach, but pointed out he was just kidding..... One of my really good friends has also been incarcerated recently (he is actually technically an ex I guess...) and I he is being released on Aug 2nd and asked me to come pick him up.... I asked JD about how he felt about this (I mean, me picking up another man on his outdate?!?)... He told me he didn't have a problem with it and that he wouldnt' want to have to ride a bus home either... just told me to follow my heart.... so.... I am blessed. I probably turn a blind eye to any Jody's anyway.... My mind is strictly on my boo.... :)

if bikini patrols are anything like speedo patrols, these guys have NOTHING to worry about! nothing worse than a guy in a speedo ~ ewwwwww! :p

I AGREE AC

April, I agree also! Just picture da "ole goat" in speedo's and about as sexy as this bikini clad one! :haha:

OMG!!! :ha: bray, where in the world did you dig her up? lol

red is DEFINATELY not her color

:eek:

i have to agree.. :hee:

JODY has struck with one of the PTO family, but hopefuly it will all turn out for the best. S**T happens as they say. -----Ken

In my relationship w/EJ he is very secure in my love & complete devotion to him that he never talks about any "jodys". He has never once talked about me being around other men. He has even encouraged me to go out & have a good time w/friends when I have stayed at home a little too long. I have always been honest w/him when I have gone out & if anybody approached me, I told him what I said to the men & he had a good laugh at my comments to them.
I even wear a wedding ring & when I have been approached I tell them I am married.
So there are no "jodys" for this gal!!