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crystal2u
03-06-2007, 11:40 PM
When Shane was 17 years old, two days before Christmas, he went out drinking with friends, and unfortunately driving. Shane was driving with a friend, on their way to go get someting to eat, when Shane hit another car, injuring the driver of the other car, his friend and himself. The driver of the other car, an on duty police officer, sustained the worst injuries, a broken pelvic bone and a deep laceration on one of his ears, was removed from the vehicle, with the jaws of life, from the passenger side and was flown to the hospital. Shane suffered a broken nose by hitting the steering wheel, and a broken ankle. Shane's passenger left the scene of the crime, but was returned to the scene by his father, he suffered a minor concusion. When Shane came to he was already handcuffed to the steering wheel by a security guard who witnessed the accident. Officers arrived , and Shane was sent to the hospital as well, he was released from the hospital the next day to his father.
Then proceeded a number of court postponements, approxiametly 9 months later , after he turned 18, Shane's case went to court. He was charged with aggravated assault, with injury against an officer, with a deadly weapon. He accepted a plea agreement of 3 years in prison and 5 years probation. Shane served one month here in Arizona, then was transferred to Oklahoma, where he served the remainder of his sentence. Shane was released and on intensive probation, he lasted three months before violating again. He violated with a dirty UA,and was sentenced to 173 days work furlough. He was released and then lasted only 1 1/2 months before being violated for missing a UA, missed a counseling appt, and short 7 hours on community service. He was sentenced to 2.6 years in prison, which he is currently serving . He also has $174,561.00 in restitution, when he works, his wages were garnished for $200 a week to pay on this, as well as his tax returns for 2005 and 2006.
When Shane was released he immediately got a job, which he managed to keep even when he violated the first time and kept it up until the day he started his 2.6 year sentence. He also lived with and cared for his elderly grandparents up until he went back in. And of course in the midst of it all, we got together, he changed my life completely , for the good and we are expecting our first child in 2 weeks. Shane is a very good person, and until the accident, Shane had never been in any kind of trouble, not even as a juvenile, he had a clean record. He comes from a very close family, so when he was sent away the first time to OK, it devasted him and his family Most importantly Shane cares about others, he is a very kind, loving young man. and not a day goes by that he does't think about what he did and how bad it makes him feel that he has affected so many lives by this one mistake., especially the pain he has caused the man he hit. He lives with this mistake daily and that in itself is punishment alone to someone like Shane. He is tormented by the fact his actions caused a man injury and that his grandparents are alone and will probably pass away before his release and that his first child will be born out of wedlock and without him, and that he will miss all the things that come the first two years in a baby's life.

So my guestion to those who read this: All facts considered, is his sentence fair, or is it just me being a victim of my hormones and just wishful thinking that maybe since the beginning he has been given the extreme in each incident. Please advise, your opinions matter and I am thankful for any input, good or bad, , I need all the help I can get.

octobriana
03-07-2007, 12:16 AM
I understand that Shane may be a good person,but my problem with all of this is him re-violating.If he truly understood the deep ramifications of what he has done he would stay clean and do what he is supposed to do.He had a dirty u/a.Then he missed his counseling appointments.He is not taking any of this seriously-when it is very serious.I believe his sentence is very fair-considering how he has behaved.For the sake of you and his baby-I hope he can complete and stick with an alcoholism program-before there is a tragedy.He is a lucky man to have you.Congrats on the little one.

briansma
03-07-2007, 12:19 AM
:love: It appears to me that the sentence was steep, considering his age and record, as long as no one sustained life altering injuries. I do struggle with his inability to walk the line during his parole, but I have been through that with my son and he did not get sent to prison for his violations - maybe because he was only sentenced to probation?

A former acquantaince of mine, in his 40s, was driving under the influence of drugs and alcohol, rolled his truck and caused traumatic brain injury to a passenger - she is a vegetable. He received 1 or 1 1/2 years of work release, violated that and had to serve about 9 months incarcerated. He had absolutely no remorse, never changed his lifestyle and never seemed to care what he had done. But because he violated he did lose his business in the end. He is now being sued in civil court but only has his house to lose. I will bet he still is doing the drugs.

I guess what I am trying to say is that a young man like Shane should have been given far less than a "professional business man" in his 40s who should know better. Unless there are other details not mentioned. I think that he does need to find help for his alchohol and or drug problems and learn how to abide by the terms of probation. Some of this comes with maturity and in the case of my son, some of this comes with dealing with some mental health issues - he has Attention Deficit Disorder and follow through is a very tough thing to do.

I hope that the two of you can hang in there. Prayer works wonders and if you go to the Lord in faith He will answer your prayers. Sometimes, the answer isn't always what you want it to be, but you will be answered.

My son is now incarcerated for a crime he committed to support his Meth addiction and I hope and pray that he can come home, stay clean and get through his probation.

Good luck to you both and take care of yourself and that baby.:o

monet420
03-07-2007, 12:47 AM
I understand that Shane may be a good person,but my problem with all of this is him re-violating.If he truly understood the deep ramifications of what he has done he would stay clean and do what he is supposed to do.He had a dirty u/a.Then he missed his counseling appointments.He is not taking any of this seriously-when it is very serious.I believe his sentence is very fair-considering how he has behaved.For the sake of you and his baby-I hope he can complete and stick with an alcoholism program-before there is a tragedy.He is a lucky man to have you.Congrats on the little one.
I agree with you :thumbsup:
congrats and good luck

Marc.PHX
03-07-2007, 01:05 AM
If I didnt misunderstand, it sounds like the sentence(s) were far too harsh. He did a 3 year sentence, violated and got a 2.6 year sentence?

In any case going forward you have a child to care for (very soon) and you need to concentrate on stability. For you, the joy on the way and for Shane. Its lot to carry I know.

We can help and support you. That will in turn help you to support him. The road will be rough, but with positive encouragement and patience - better days are bound to come along :thumbsup:

Valentina
03-07-2007, 01:16 AM
they should let him come home now