hey i am 18 and my baby daddy is 27. he gets out in 2011 should i wait on him?

Hi I love him I think that's a decision only you can make go with your heart. I'm a Mom and we are here for the long haul...best of luck to you whatever you decide. Welcome to PTO!

All you can do is follow your heart. If you decide that its to much for you to handle and want to move on then you should. Only time will tell. Do what you want to do. I have decided to stick around for the long haul but also have children. Are you sure thats how long he will be there or can he make parole? What about good time?

thats something that only you can decide......yeah its not easy trust n believe but if you really love him and your emotionally strong enough to deal with it you will make the decision! im 20 and my babysfather doesnt get out until 2010. im waiting faithfully:)

thats something that only you can decide......yeah its not easy trust n believe but if you really love him and your emotionally strong enough to deal with it you will make the decision! im 20 and my babysfather doesnt get out until 2010. im waiting faithfully:)




thanks. he has been locked up since august of 06 and i have been faithful since. i am so confused because i am so young and dont want to waste 4 years of my life. i guess i can have innocent fun.

thanks. i love him so much. and want to wait but i am young and still want to have fun. but when push come to shove i will do whats right and stay faithful because i have given him my heart and he has given me his.

thanks

i don't know if he is up for parole. i find out when he get out because i looked it up on easterling website. i want to talk to him so bad but cant afford the collect calls. any suggestions?

Well, Correctional Billing Services has a prepaid account that can be set up. It takes $50 to start it, plus a $8.00 fee...My phone phone was crazy then I decided to do prepaid and when the money is gone we have to wait until i can put more money on that account.

Just take one day at a time,if you love him for now hang in there if your feelings change further down the line and you meet someone else tell him,don't let him live with false hopes of coming home to you if your not gonna be there.

That's so true blonde babe don't string him alone if it's not going to work. My son's baby was born 3 months after his incarceration and she had already had another child by some one else in a years time and he was hurt to no end. He had faith in her and she promised him she would be by his side and told him some crap to believe she would wait on him, then he started getting letters from her saying that she didn't love him anymore and was getting married like for the 3rd time and none worked out because she has a bad reputation for sleeping around then she would go see him and try to start a relatioship again. This had been going on for 6 years and now when she asks us to come along on visits and play her little minds games I tell her no leave him alone you have caused him a great deal of pain and there is no sense in keeping on hurting him. She wouldn't even write him back unless he put a stamped envelope in his letter just so she would write him or take the stamp he sent and use it to write someone else. Everytime she thinks he may be fixing to get out she trys to get back in his good graces, just for a place to live and someone to take care of her children. He has finally come to realize thank goodness that he is being used. They have to remain friends because of his son but that doesn't mean he has to have a relationship with her. The last child she had was by his best friend and it really hurt him. He loves her children but hopes one day to move on with his life and start a new family.
Please be honest with him and give him time to heal if it's not going to work. It's better to get it out in the open than get his hopes up time and time again These love letters do no good if your not honest about your feelings. Hey if any of you ladies need a penpal you can pm me and I will give you his address, he loves mail and could use a friendship with someone other than Mom and Dad. It helps to have some one to talk to about your problems and he could use the encouragement and give him something to look forward to.
Hope things work out for you guys, they all need love and support and he is a good guy, with a big heart, we live in North Alabama and he will be looking for miss right when he gets out. All of his so called friends have deserted him, they don't even write him or ask how he is doing. He will be 28 this June and it will be his 7th birthday incarcerated. He could use a pick me up after his 3 year set off from parole hearing.:)

Take it one day at a time and follow your heart...no one can tell you what is best for you ! Only you can decide that....

You need to weigh out the pros and cons of your situation and see what is best for you. Here we can only give you advice but not this kind of advice for we dont know what kind of relationship you and him had prior to his incarceration, and what is going on in your heart.

As the others have said only you can truly decide what you need too do