Ladies what does it mean when a man writes you letters every otherday but they all say the same thing almost word for word!!!!


So what if this man is your ex and you had a very bad breakup and you have a child together.
and the letters just say that he loves us and ect...... but there all the same almost word for word

Should i be Alarmed or just ignore it
Keep in mind we are talking about a man that got put in prision for domestic violence and has been writeing the same letter for over a year now with just tiny changes in them.
he never says anything mean in them.

If you're the victim of the DV he's in prison for he shouldn't be contacting you at all! I'd be worried. He's just trying to reel you back in so the abusive behavior can start back up once he's released. Stop accepting his letters and write "return to sender" on them. You could also contact the prison to get the letters to stop. Again, if you're the victim, he shouldn't be contacting you in the first place.

you have all the time in the world in there.
so im guessing he rewrites the same letters & mails them out to get your attention. i would personally ignore & return to sender.

if he really has changed, wait till he gets out to prove it. doesnt mean you have to get back together but if you agree to let him see his child be careful. a child needs both parents in his/her life. but not if 1 is a threat

File for a protection order and send a copy to the warden. Ask for no-contact.

DV is no joke, and despite the fact that you have a child together, you do not need him in your life, or in your child's. Any man who has abused a woman has a 60+% chance of also abusing a child violently.

I'd seriously not continue any kind of relationship with him at all.

Firstly, I wouldn't send it to the warden. I would give him a chance to stop if I didn't want any contact with him.( 1.) I would just return them unopen and he want send anymore.(2.) If he does I would warn him that I will send a copy to the warden, telling the warden I sent your letter back and then I wrote and told him I would write the warden.(3.)If he stills writes- send it to the warden/warden's asst.
Otherwise, he would get another charge and get more time.
I would give him this chance first- Depending on how bad he beat me.
If he beat me real bad and I hate him and don't want him back - I would go straight to the warden.
In response to your question : the writing the same letter over and over. I would have choice but to consider him retarded(very litte growth) or uneducated.

File for a protection order and send a copy to the warden. Ask for no-contact.

DV is no joke, and despite the fact that you have a child together, you do not need him in your life, or in your child's. Any man who has abused a woman has a 60+% chance of also abusing a child violently.

I'd seriously not continue any kind of relationship with him at all.

Sorry I am a man, but I would listen to the advice stated above.

Please realize thar I'm not an expert on this subject in anyform, it seems that he is either trying to control you or finding out if you still live at that address (if you had moved, the letter would be returned) with these letters.

Contact a specialist in domestic violence in your area and present your problem with them. They should be able to assist you with the correct actions to deal with this issue.

Ron

They tell me from the shelter that my unborn baby is at risk if I allow her father back into our lifes and the % rate was a little higher then 60. They tell me that he could use her to hurt me. I have to admit that I now believe that our child is not as important to him as he had led me to believe or he wouldn't have beat me like this. I may be wrong and I may be making a mistake but I will testify and I will walk away with my child. And I will never look back. They tell me women go back time & time again...not me. I am scared and I will have a hard time making it until after she is born in May but then we both will disappear - never for him to see again.

Hon, a whole lot of men start abusing their pregnant women, even if they'd only been controlling up til then. A woman starts to realize that she is now responsible for another life, and so does he. When you're a narcissist, the greatest disrespect is NOT PAYING ATTENTION to him/her. There are a few women who will ignore their children in favor of a man, but most start to concentrate on that baby. Drives the guy crazy, almost literally. He can't understand how he lost your total devotion, your willingness to do whatever whenever, just because he said so.

Bless you for listening to your counselor -- men who abuse women will insist on seeing their children, and torture you with misusing them, with speaking badly of you, with grooming them to support him (could be extra candy for coming to visit or in my mother's case cigarettes for my 7-year-old brother). Sometimes they abscond with the kid(s).

You just keep on marching forward - you've got a much better future coming!

i think he wants to see if you will give him the time of day.being that you are free from him i wouldnt advise you to go bac to him.your counselor is right too.it may be hard but honey when you look at that big picture and know your baby is now a part of it you will leave so why not save yourself the empty promises?i used to wish i had listened-now i pray some one in need of advice and support will heed my warning.be strong and remember you already got the best part of him-is it worth it to see if he has more to give?GOOD LUCK AND I GOT YOU IN MY PRAYERS