My fiance was cheating on me with some girl and we got into a fight and he took off and the police came and I straight up lied and told them way out things that didn't happen. Now he is in violation with his parole and how do I fix this mess? I was jealous. will they believe me? will I get charges against me for lying? what will happen to him. I love him and now were still together she is out of the picture and we want to not be running anymore help

Everyone hates this kind of case! if you report your lie, you can be charged with filing a false report; if you don't then your fiance will be charged with domestic violence. Frankly, you're the one who's acted badly (leaving aside the cheating), and you're the one who should take the heat. Talk to the DA in charge of his case.

I'm going thur the same thing, me and my husband got into a even fist fight which means we both were doing the hitting. anyways long story short. I ended up calling the cops, but just to kind of scare him. they ended up busting him on suopsal abuse, but the real sad thing is his a 3 stiker. so if he can't beat this he may be looking at the stuip 25 to life thing all for a lousy scartch on my face. we need lots of prayer girls. I love my husband, and no matter what happens I'll always have his back.

llpof (on cop called this offense by this nickname - liar, liar, pants on fire) is just a ticket.

Regardless of the consequences you need to own up to your actions. He should not go back to jail under false pretenses.

I'm just curious....but what in the world would make a woman want to try to fight a man.....I just don't get it. I'm not a violent person and really try to keep all drama out of my relationship....and even when we aruge, we never yell and scream....just don't understand how you get to the level of exchanging blows......

Frankly, you're the one who's acted badly , and you're the one who should take the heat. Talk to the DA in charge of his case.




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Everyone hates this kind of case! if you report your lie, you can be charged with filing a false report; if you don't then your fiance will be charged with domestic violence. Frankly, you're the one who's acted badly (leaving aside the cheating), and you're the one who should take the heat. Talk to the DA in charge of his case.

I agree. This is the type of stuff that makes it bad for the real victims of D.V. like myself with my ex. When you cry wolf, it makes it that much harder for the next person to be believed. In this society they quickly try to make the victim feel like the criminal. They ask you what kind of person is with someone who beats up on them.

I filed a harassment suit against my ex, but because i moved and didn't want him to find out i asked the court to dismiss my case. He was harassing me from in jail via telephone and passing my number around. I never called the cops when he did beat me up (when we were together) because you hear so many stories about people who were lying. The cops told me (when i did call about the harassment) that he needs to harass me 5-6 times before they take the case. I said it could be the 4th time that he kills me. They told me i shouldn't have been with him. I mean it's crazy enough out here as it is for victims of DV and harassment. Please talk to his P.O. and the DA. He shouldn't get in trouble because you lied.

You were wrong here so it is up to you to try to make it right. And next time your dude upsets you or whatever, try to find other ways to deal with it. If you have to get revenge on him because of his actions, maybe this is not the relationship for you. But unless someone really puts their hands on you or threatens violence against you, leave the police out of it so they can stop real criminals and batterers.

Please don't forget there are really people out here who cannot get help with the abuse and the issues that come with it. We need to educate and offer help and safe havens for these people (i keep saying people because women are not just the victims...my ex brother in law used to get abused by his girlfriend), please don't lie and play with our emergency services. By these people coming to respond to your lies, you may have caused someone else to not get the help that they needed, and this is not fair, and wrong!

I'm going thur the same thing, me and my husband got into a even fist fight which means we both were doing the hitting. anyways long story short. I ended up calling the cops, but just to kind of scare him. they ended up busting him on suopsal abuse, but the real sad thing is his a 3 stiker. so if he can't beat this he may be looking at the stuip 25 to life thing all for a lousy scartch on my face. we need lots of prayer girls. I love my husband, and no matter what happens I'll always have his back.

I don't understand people like you. Why would you stay with him if he is abusing you and you pressed charges or why would you press charges if he didn't really abuse you? When i used to see my ex (the batterer) in jail back in 2001, i met a lady there who pressed charges on her husband but would go see him 2 times a week like i did. Now, no i was no better going to see my ex when he was in jail, even though it had nothing to do with me. But i really couldn't see myself visiting him, kissing on him, hugging on him if he'd hurt me enough to finally make me call the cops on him. I don't get it. And when i left for good, it was hard but for mines and my daughter's sake it was the right thing to do. But i would never go see him, if he forced me to make the situation what it was. Maybe it is just me, but this is how i feel.

I am not responding to this post to judge anyone but I do not understand why anyone would want to continue a relationship with another person who abuses or abused them. I laid awake nights trying to figure out how to get away, how to do better so I was not hit and it didn't take me long to figure out that he wasn't going to change just because he said he was sorry and bought me gifts (gifts that he tore up or busted when he was mad at me again). Then I read where some of you still love your guys. I have no love left, only fear and the desire to stay hundreds-if not thousands-of miles away. It makes me wonder if I ever loved him at all because I don't ever want to see or talk to him again. Am I crazy? And the thought of retracting my statement against him only makes my stomach turn because I know he will come after me again. Was I in a different kind of domestic violence then others? I don't know but it has me wondering...

I feel really bad for the 3-striker. He should not do 25-life for this and in cali you know he will unless you take the initiative to retract the statement even if if means some small punishment for you. 25-life is no joke and once he's there he'e there.

You should go to the police and face the fact that you lied about what ALL happen. 2 wrongs don't make a right. Do the right thing for him and your self.
Tell the Truth! Can you live with your self knowing your actions had him sent up for life? Please don't lie about things, You might as well kiss him goodbye.