I Am Assuming That The No Contact Order That Was Placed During Trial Is Still In Effect. It Has Been Over A Year, And I Am Moving On, But Finding It Hard To Completely Let Go. Maybe Never Having Any Closure Will Be The Reality Of This Journey, But Sometimes I Wonder If The Victim Can Ever Contact The Counselor On His Case And Be Granted Somekid Of Onetime Meeting. Does Anyone Know? I Have Met A Great Guy, Who Has A Beautiful Accepting Heart And Wants A Future With Me And My Daughters, But I Cant Help But Worry That If The Girls Father And I Dont Get An Understanding While He Is Inside, That He Will Come Out To Cause Chaos. Maybe I Am Wishful Thinking, But Want To Know If Anyone Hs Ever Heard Of Somekind Of Meeting That Can Happen, Between He And I.

It depends on the guidelines surrounding your protection order. Some places will allow for the victume to speak to the abuser. If they allow, write everything down you want to say and talk about, before you go, the shock of seeing him may cause you to forget somethings. Be prepared also for the attitude he may give you while you are speaking with him. Good luck.

LVNG - your best bet is simply to let sleeping dogs lie. Any worries you have about future chaos you can take care of now, by going to court and getting full sole custody. And you can do some counseling to take care of the letting go part. I understand what you want from the meeting, but the reality is that you'll probably not get it. He won't really understand, he probably won't apologize, but you will come back up on his radar screen, and that means he will start thinking of you again, and that's never good. That means he will be getting angry all over again, and you already know that's no good.

Keep to yourself, and find the closure with a therapist instead.

exactly what NIMUAY said.honey the last thing he will do is see your views.if anything he gone be thinking you just came to brag to him and you betta know it.i am happy for you and your new life.your new life shouldnt have to be fearful of him.he is your past.you have a new man who loves you...dont risk your future thinking about your past.i mean thinking that you have to make amends with him-you dont owe him nothing but silence

I agree with the others, you don't owe him a thing. You two have children together and I'm assuming that he is in there for assault or domestic violence. Ask yourself if he felt sorry for you for puttin his hands on you? And I'll bet that he did it more times than once too. Does he feel sorry for you having to go thru the bullcrap with the courts, the prison systems (even though it wasn't you), the worrying? How about raising two daughters and the emotional turmoil that he has caused? The pain, depression, sorrow, etc. etc.. I'm sure that he doesn't care about anybody but himself, just like my ex, and sometimes I wonder if men like that even care about themselves. I tend to lean towards them not having a conscious.
My advice would be if you do want him to know, then tell his counselor/judge, whatever, write him a brief letter explaining that you have moved on and let things be. He doesn't deserve that much from you, but that would at least help you since you are obviously having some sort of mental breakdown/attachment towards those abusive memories or that abusive man.
Another word of advice, try and figure out why you are feeling this way and nip it in the butt. You owe him nothing, yet you have written as if you do. Why? Who in the world deserves to be treated such as yourself and what type of person treats another human such as he treated you. Something is wrong mentally. Girl, don't take that as an insult either cause I'm right there beside you on the feeling bad and all that. Not worth it. You have a great man, focus on him and your children. Good luck.

I also agree with everyone. LVNG it's about your life and your children's life not his. Let me go, no need to talk to him at all. However, it is your decision no one can make that for you. If you feel a letter needs to be sent I suggest what julia said write a very brief letter stating that you are moving on.

Oh one more thing, on that letter no need for a returned address unless the prison requires it.