my fiance just got out of prison 1 week ago we were going to get married as soon as he came out because we weren't able to get married when he was in there because of financial problems we had a history of domestic violence before when he went to prison it was violation of probation because he was arested. He got arrested but the charges were dropped. when he got arrested was because i went to the police to get a restraining order because his former girlfriend also my former friend told him a lot of lies about me and broke my family up. when he got sent to prison she confesed everything was a lie and she was just trying to break us apart and since she did she didn't want anything to do with him no more. we talked and decided to put our differences aside and work it out and get married since whe have a 4 year old together when he saw his parole after he got out he told them he had a no contact order against my daughter and myself untill he completed the 52 DV classes. I never put an order against him. whe want to be together and get married but we don't know what to do. What is hurting us the most is that we worked our problems out and everything is fine now and my daughter loves her dad to death and besides us she is the one who is suffering the most is there anyone who can help us?:banghead: :help: :broken: :cry: :cry: :cry:

The reality is that you want to give it that time. It's time to take the courses (and if you have a problem, time for you to do it, too), and time to work on things on the outside. Domestic violence is no joke! And it's a really lousy way to raise a child, so even though she loves him to death, she'll learn some terrible lessons from being raised in a home full of it. Your relationship will not die if you live apart for a year, not if the good part of the love is strong. Take the time and learn everything you possibly can.

You could probably get an order for supervised visiting for him to see your daughter. I would check into it. Yes, they almost always will put conditions on their parole to have no contact with you since it was domestic violence. That is something me and my man are preparing for, but a lot of times if he does everything he's supposed to do, he can get off parole and the no contact order in a year or so. Keep your spirits up girl!! You will get through this! The two of you will be better off and you will be safer if he's true to change and does his classes and everything he should be doing. Take care.

My friend -here in town- has been going threw that kind of seperation from her husband for almost 6 months. They finally came to an agreement that the children could see their father thru supervised visits of children protective services 1 time a month for 45 minutes IF he and she both agreed to alcohol/drug screening, parenting classes, and added anger management to his programs. Needless to say they both declined the offer of having CPS on top of all the other programs, parole cost and everything else. Then they decided to sneak and see each other- bad idea. His parole was revolked, he is awaiting being released again and has to start over with the 52 classes (they will not give him credit for the 6 months he completed).
I'm sure these are not things you want to hear but I am trying to be honest with you. You're probably just going to have to deal with him getting his DV certificate before you can go on with your lifes together. Sorry.

All You Have To Do Is Go To The Dv Part Of The Da And Request To See A Judge To Get The Restraining Order Dropped. You Have To Attend A Class That They Refer You To And Pay A Fee, Then You Go To Court Before A Judge And He/she Will Lift It If He Sees You Guys Are Trying To Be Together And Work Out Your Differences And Address The Problems. Hope It All Turns Out Good For You! But Call And Get It On Calendar As Soon As You Can Because It Takes A While To See The Judge.

Yes you can have the restraining order dropped if the Judge feels there is no more threat but DOC makes up the rules of their release-2 seperate offices there.