View Full Version : My story....we've got to be there for our loved ones


Ryans_Girl
08-31-2003, 08:25 PM
I met the love of my life before he got arrested....I knew some of his family and babysat for them for quite some time before they introduced me to Ryan. I won't go into details about that, but I will say that he is my soul mate and there's NO tearing us apart!
He was sentenced to life in prison without parole about a year and a half ago.
All of us were so incredibly shocked by the crimes he had committed...Ryan had always been (and still is) such an amazing man; with so many goals in life - and all he has ever wanted was to have a happy family and a beautiful wife; the all-American dream. Has that been taken away from him? Is there still hope for us? His whole family and I pray each and every single night that...someday...Ryan will come home.
His family and I still cry for him on a daily basis. He's not one of those tough talkers and he's never done any kind of drug or anything. He's always been a 'goodie goodie' and such a family man. He made a mistake - one that cost him his life.
I wish I could tell you all of his accomplishments before his life turned around: I'm sure they would shock many of you. I will leave it at that.
If you ask me, I'd tell you that Ryan works in mysteries! He is always full of suprises and I smile just at the very thought of his name.
He wrote me a letter, after finding out that he would spend life in prison, telling me that I can move on and find someone better. Someone that can offer me the things I deserve, since he cannot do that from where he is. He said I am a God-Send and that I will always be his angel, but for me to please go on without him. I can still see my tear-drop on that letter from when I first read it a year and a half ago.
Shortly after that letter, he started telling me and writing in letters about "when he comes home" what we have to catch up on and where we will live, baby names he likes, and how he cannot wait to hold me in his arms all night, and that it won't be too far away. I wondered why he said these things, but would never ask him. I wanted him to hold on to the little bit of hope that was left in him.
Until one day - I asked him why he said these things. He said he was working on something that would get his sentence drastically reduced. (see what I mean about working in mysteries, he didn't mention to me, or anyone, that he was working on something until I asked him) I won't go into details about this, because I'm always afraid that if I say too much then things could get messed up.
Basically the reason I am writing this is to talk about it, because it really helps me...and to also let other people know that if their loved one has been sentenced to life in prison, please: don't give up! We must let these men/women have FAITH IN GOD and keep them believing, even if they don't believe now. I always say that the SAME God that has made so many miracles happen, things that nobody ever thought could happen, is the SAME God that will bless Ryan's life and turn it around: again. (Or anyone elses' if they believe)
To think that our loved ones will never drive a car again, hug their children, kiss their wife/husband good night, or just do any of the normal everyday activities that many of us take for granted is so overwhelming and I have such a difficult time dealing with it....it just breaks my heart to think these things.
If anybody else is going through what I am, please feel free to PM me and we can exchange e-mail addresses...Ryan is all that I think about, literally, so I'm always willing to talk about personal experiences and such.
Thank you to those of you who took the time to read this and remember, "With God, nothing is impossible" :)

Purplemuffen
08-31-2003, 08:34 PM
HI RYANS_GIRL!!!! I UNDERSTAND YOUR SITUATION, GLAD YOU ASKED HIM THAT QUESTION...........YOU JUST STAY STRONG, AND DOWN FOR YOUR MAN........IF YOU NEED SOMEONE TO TALK TO PM ME.................TAKE CARE....:)

Ryans_Girl
08-31-2003, 08:40 PM
Thank you Purplemuffen! I appreciate it very much and I will PM you soon, are you going through the same thing I am? Or something like it? It's so comforting to know that there are some people who support me, even some of my best friends think I'm crazy for being there for Ryan. But you know what? They don't know EVERYTHING and actually, before Ryan's arrest, I would have never been in touch with anyone in prison but things change once you experience them, right? Thanks again!! :)

Purplemuffen
08-31-2003, 08:50 PM
I'VE BEEN GOING THROUGH WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH, AND I KNOW HOW IT FEELS, WHEN YOUR FRIENDS GIVE YOU NEGATIVE THOUGHT, WHEN YOU ARE TRYING TO STAY POSITIVE........OVER WORK THEIR THOUGHTS, AND STAY WITH YOUR HEART FOR YOU, AND YOUR MAN. YOU WILL MAKE IT.............:)

bridget
09-03-2003, 02:37 PM
my fiance is ding 7 to life with the pssiblity of parole . he goes to hes second board hearing in sep 18th .please say a pray for us .thans BRIDGET

Ryans_Girl
09-03-2003, 06:53 PM
Bridget you and your fiance are both in my prayers...I know how important that day will be and I wish you the best...please let me know how it goes!!! I'm very anxious to know about it :)

laydee_vet
09-04-2003, 09:52 AM
They'll die inside without our love and support. That and their hope and a vision of a better future are all that keep them going day by day. They need to believe that their situation's not hopeless, they will eventually be allowed reclaim some portion of their lives, people care about them, love them, accept them and believe they're worth more than the system wants them to be. Keith knows that I'll always be here for him in every way.