new here. advice with this topic would be wonderful. i don't understand anything about this rodeo. not much for telling a story now. ask any questions and i'll tell you. i'm very open. confused.

tobi.....I'm sure any one really understands this roller coaster ride the we are on. Don't feel like talking...no problem. Just know that ears are hear for you with no judgements...only unconditional love.
Joy

i was in a real bum mood yesterday. this week is dragging like no other. anyhow if you want to hear my story. its all about scottsdales finest harrassing kids because they dont want them in their city and the finally got the one they really wanted. he wasn't always an angel but he's harmless. well he stole once in awhile. but non-violent. just a loss boy thats been greatly hurt. i'm sure that sounds familiar on this forum. tried to give him 20 some years for theft and drugs. never resisted arrest but had guns to his head all the time. letting murderers and molesters out because the prisons are over crowded but keeping ones who won't take something emotional and personal from a person. as scared as i was the day he got picked up felt like i was crying a damn river but relieved knowing i won't find him dead and i know where he is now. got 8.5 years on a plea bargain and looks better than ever and so healthy. now were dealing with the whole lack of communication prison has brought. its like we have to start all over again. and the days are dragging until he comes home. but at least he's healthy.

Hey Tobi...Glad you shared your story, I have similiar feelings( as I am sure many do also) I feel like my husband ( also a non-violent offender) was railroaded while the BIGGER criminals are given more chances...We have 5 children as well and our family is broken apart now...I also share the same feeling of relief as well( thought I was a little crazy!) It has only been one month since my husband was sentenced to 2 years( a drop in the bucket) but it feels like forever..just know that if you feel like sharing there are plenty of ears here to listen...keep you chin up!

Tobi:

Welcome to this forum... I have found a lot of people here who are in very much the same situation as you. They either have Husbands, Fiancee's or children in the Prison System in some State or Federal Prison.

None of us have been given proper assistance in our situations. But, as we have all found out, this is the case in most situations in the Justice System.

Yes, it is the best we have, but we sure need to stick together and try to get it changed.

Keep fighting to keep your spirits up. Sometimes this is very hard to do. I have spent many hours in tears with my heart broken. My son has been in Prison 12 years. He is now engaged to a wonderful girl he met while in Prison. She worked for the DOC in North Carolina. They fired her for getting involved with an inmate. Now, they have stopped her from visitation at all. They can only talk on the phone and write letters.

She really seems to love him a lot. It amazes me. Of course I am preduice because I think she has a great guy if we can ever get him home.

God Bless you Child!!!

Things will be better tomorrow.

Donna