I am here to offer some advice on how to help the one you love that is in prison, and getting back out into society.
1st of all, helping them look for employment is A-1 important. We need help with transportation. If you cannot drive us, please help us w/bus tickets. I got out in the winter of 02 and it was very snowy and cold. And did I mention I was scared shitless walking around by myself???!

Also, help us get started on clothing, and so forth. I didn't have a pot to piss in when I got out after 7 years. Thank god for a loving mom.

Listen to our fears. Listen to our 'war stories.' And do it without remarking condenscending ... that happens enough.

Any questions, please ask.

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Yes, i have questions for my husband is coming home after 7 years in and it has changed alot since the last time he was out and I need to know what to exspect for I married him while in and need to know what to exspect and how to help him

I basically said the most important things up above.

You will need to be patient also, I couldn't 'cuddle' with my now-husband for a long time while laying in the bed asleep. I liked to corner myself off on my end, and that was it. I still have problems laying all up on him, or 'spooning.' Don't take it personal...we lived alone for years.

Cook for him alot! Listen to all his stories. He knows alot about people and their ways, so trust his instinct on people.

my son is coming home in April 2004. We've started him a savings account and are contributing to it weekly. We have all his clothing and stereo equipment and personal stuff packed for him. I've been shopping yard sales and thrift markets to equip him with the things he'll need to get his first apartment when he gets out. We sold his old car when he was sentenced, and have that money put aside to get him another when he gets out. We have visited him every 2 weeks since he's been incarcerated and he knows we're 100 percent behind him. He knows we'll help him to find a job and any other ways we can. He knows we'll help him and I think that support is very important to an inmate in helping them make the transition to freedom.

mijada,

What you have done for your son is wonderful! Coming home from prison is rough as Ladysoldier has said.

But with loving and supportive parents he can make it! It will still be tough, but from personal experience, I know what it is to have supportive parents and family. I won't let them down.

He will make it! As Ladysoldier said, listen to his war stories, give him room when he needs it, but also let him know that you are there for him and you love him.

That I can see from you words of what you have done to make a way for him in the free world.

God Bless,

Patti