Hello all ,I just surfed in on this sight and thought that I would give it a try.
I have met my girlfriend Diana through the web sight women in prison.com, we have been dating for about 6 months now and we are very happy together, I didnt know that it was possable to fall in love with somone that you have never met in person like me and Diana have fallen in love with one another,, I feel as if i have known her all my life and she is the perfect woman for me.
I plan on going to Chowchilla California C.C.W.F to visit with her in October,

I must say that I have truley fallen in love with Diana

she is due to be realeased around the end of 2003

she sais that her family has basicly turned her back on her,
is this a common occurance for inmates?

I would never turn my back on her as i know how it feels to be abandoned..

she has brought happiness into the life of a lonly man and used to be single dad.

I find that she accepts and loves me for who I am and not for my wallet.

But its hard to be so far away from her

and to have to deal with the waiting for her to be released

It would be a great deal of help if I had somone to give me advice on how to pass the time untill we are together.

please feel free to email me at

email removed per pto policy

as well as post messages on this sight

Thankyou in advance

Diana's Man

Dianna" Man

Bless you and your love..... It is very unusual for a man to fall in Love with someone who is in prison and that has only corresponded with him.... But, it does happen.... My Son who has been in prison 12 years met a lady that worked at the DOC and they fell in love.... Many things have happened to pull them apart over the past two years that you can read in other posts.

How to deal with this..... Well, first you have to stay positive.... Realize that there is a future and plan for that future... Live each day, one at a time.. Keep busy with things that interest you and yes, maybe get closer to her if possible. You said you have children.... Spend lots of time with them and let them know you love them.... Help them to grow up....

Keep you head up and keep God on your side..... This will help tremendously..

My Sincereset Welcome here

Donna

Diana's man~~
Welcome to PTO... you will find much love and support here (and we are always happy to have another guy around!) :)
I also met my man while he was locked up... we have about 2 1/2 years to go.... As far as passing the time til her release... I survive by maintaining regular communication with JD via letters (I write him every day)... and I live from visit to visit... (we only get 2 1 hr visits a month...) Other than that, I stay busy trying to be supportive to others in the same situation, being an activist and just living my life....
We hope to see you back around here more soon!!

Here's another welcome from me as well! This is a very supportive & caring group of people! You've come to the right place!

I too am in love w/an inmate that I was pen pals w/in fact he & I are engaged. :)

As for passing the time...write letters, if she can call, talk on the phone, if you can visit, go as much as you can. Keep the lines of communication always open between you 2. If you have any plans for when she comes home keep them & you both possibly add to those plans. Keep busy w/your family, work, any hobbies that you may have, etc.. Try to stay focused on your love for one another.

Hope to hear more from you in the future!

Take Care!! :wave:

Welcome to PTO!

My husband is in prison and the time does seem to drag by and at times becomes incredibly lonely. I stay on PTO a lot - maybe too much! I also write to him daily and make sure he knows he's still a vital part of my life and half of our relationship. I read, write poetry and short stories, and try to keep my mind busy. We're looking at a minimum of three more years - possibly 8 years. The thought terrifies me but I take it one day at a time and constantly find something positive about every situation.

Good luck and I look forward to seeing you here!

Well another one horn'n in on my harum. LOL

Welcome to PTO!!

These gals are SUPER and most likely will give you a "bunch" of good advice. Be fore warned tho, they can kick some butt too! :-))

So, your in NM and she's in CA. I'm writting to two in FL and I'm in CA. One has some explaining to do tho! What a delimma we find ourselves in.

The only advise I will give is:

Keep in mind that a long distance romance by mail, one can make the other person, any thing they want and not necessarily who they really are.

One gal I'm writting too has been down for over 7 years and is a lot younger (by 26 yrs) then I am. So, that's the next topic I intend to bring up with her since she has asked, "have I found my man"? She is one that "family" has basicly given up on too.

I'm a hard nut to crack in reguards to committment, but once done, that's it period!!

DIANA'S MAN- WELCOME TO PTO-SO GLAD YOU FOUND US-IT'S A GREAT GROUP OF PEOPLE HERE AND YOU WILL FIND A LOT OF SUPPORT AND ENCOURAGEMENT HERE --

Welcome to PTO. I'm glad that you have found us. I think it's a wonderful thing that you are doing by standing by your woman. I hope that you find a lot of friendships and support. I look forward to seeing you often on PTO.

welcome to pto, dianasman! it's great to see another guy here! how wonderful that you have found someone so special via writing! i have found 2 great friends through writing inmates ~ who knows what the future holds? ;)

pto is a wondeful group and you'll find plenty of understanding and support here! again, welcome!

Diana's Man, Welcome to PTO, I'm sure you will like it here, there is a lot of great advise & support here.------Ken

Sorry I am late with your welcome, but here it is!
I look forward to hearing more from you! The others have already given their usual sound advice. You will see that you have plenty of support here!

I'm glad that you accepted her despite her situation. Some men wouldn't do that! I commend you for that and keep us updated. She doens't have long so just tell her to hang in there!

Hello! My wife is doing time in Texas,due to be released in Dec 2006.I try to keep as busy as I can and write to her daily,long letters, and tell her about anything and everything.Even simple things like what we cooked for dinner.Tell her your thoughts,everything.And the most important thing of all, tell her everyday how much you love her!!!!!Steve&kids

hello and again I would like to say welcome to the PTO everyone is great here and always willing to liston....
I would have to agree with them to keep your self busy...
I met my boyfriend that I love dearly while he wasin jail i meet him on the pamperprisoner.com web site and we fell in love with each other and its hard not having him here everyday but I keep my self busy I write him everyday and we talk on the phone 2 or 3 times a week. and Im going for my first visit with him this come Saturday. THis will be our first time face to face other then pictures and voices onthe phone so hang in there it does get a little easier just hang out on here and keep busy...

keeping busy is always the best answer...if not then you thyink to much and then when you think too much, then your hands get raw...and on and on and on...