My kids are having a hard time with their daddy being gone, this is not the first time, But now they are older and harder for them to understand why the parole officer put their daddy away this time.
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was it a serious violation or some bs ???

its hard with kids , also hard on the person doing time , you have to also keep parenting which is hard with the seperation cause u want it all lovey dovey , but the kids still need to9 see u as a team as far as discipline and decisions ,

i feel for ya , if it was bs , explain that sometimes the justice system in unjust , u may have some kids that willl follow through with changing the system one day ,

if it was a genuine violation , we need to be honest with our kids and take responsibility for our actions and mistakes when we make them ,

good luck , this time around !!!

QQin4meboo-

u know u are right about all of this, but it still doesn't change the fact that he's gone. I am going to PM you so you know the story behind it and you tell me if you think it was fair, and how can the kids can have faith in the system if the system has no compassion.

Judy

Judy,

My son is seven and fortunately we were able to go to a counselor before my husband went away and explain the situation with a professional...In my case honesty is the best policy...He was extremely depressed for the first two months, not eating, not doing what he normally does, but seven-months into this nightmare he is doing remarkably well, children are stronger than we think and extremely forgiving, they love unconditionally...Joy

Mrsmaze- thank you and you are right too, they do bounce back, but now trusting the judicail system is a rough one for them, They say we are suppose to trust the authority, but now when they see a cop, they want to give him a peice of their mind. Thank you all

Judy