My ex boyfriend was arrested on charges of domestic violence and assault with a deadly weapon a week ago and he's already getting out next week! They dropped it form a felony to a misdemeanor after he tried to kill me. He took a hammer to my car windows while i was in it and the car was rolling. I had to jump out because the glass was cutting me everywhere. When I jumped out of the passenger side he came after me chasing me with the hammer and the only reason he didn't catch me was because his friend held him back. I thought I was goin to die that night. I'm not even healed from that incident and he's already getting out! This isn't even his first offense, he has a gta and possession charges on his record. I don't understand why he is being let go. I have a restraining order on him (which he has violated numerous times) but that is not going to stop him from attacking me again. What am I suppossed to do to protect myself if the courts don't take him seriously, i am so afraid for my life. He is a meth head and I know that once he goes on a binge he will come after me, and I have no friends or family, no place I can go to hide. He knows my every move and he even has his friends keep track of where I am, that's how he found me last time. I am so scared but I guess I just have to be strong and hope that he doesn't come looking for me. :confused:

Sweetie, I don't have any words of advice, but I just want you to know that I will pray for you. Is there a chance you could try talking to the police about this, or are they not of any help? What about the judge or a lawyer? I am so sorry you are going through this. I am sure someone will come along who can give you much better advice than I can. :grouphug:

Girl - I feel for you, I have been there. An ex of mine broke my jaw, he had a DV record, and he did 22 days. At the time my now husband and I were starting to date, so I had some security knowing that at least there was another man who was "accessible" to me. I would have moved, left everything behind had he not been there.

Short of packing up and moving, the only advice I can give is always try to have someone with you. Try not to be in places he knows you'll be alone. Always watch your rear-view mirror, keep your doors locked, and store his probation officers number, the police department, and 911 as speed dial numbers on your phone.

Perpetrators of DV are the WEAKEST MEN alive. It's real easy to beat up a woman, but let a man come up to them and face off, they tuck their tail and run. Chickensh** bast****!

roxygirl i really feel for you. i went through something close to that a few years back. a x boyfriend of mine punched me in the face and broke my nose and gave me 2 black eyes. the only advice i can give you is to maybe go and talk to the police about it. if they now he has violated orders before then they should know thats he gonna come after you. when it happened to me my x only did 14 days for it. they dropped it from a felony to a misdemeanor as well. i will be praying for you. i hope all goes well.

Roxy: Please, go to your local domestic violence center. Talk to them on the phone if you can't go. Every place has a hotline. you can find out online. You are in severe danger. If all else fails, go to the newspaper. some communities still refuse to stand up for victims of domestic violence. I can't believe he is out already! won't that person who pulled him off help as a witness? The perpetrators are very good at aligning themselves with court people, judges, police and the community at large. they show one face to them, but we know different. Feel free to PM me. I've been there. I pray that you'll call your local DV center.
Marsha

hun u need to talk to the police, the district attorney, anyone that will listen to you.. Do you have a domestic violence shelter in your area? Hun please go to them and ask them for help.. They will be more than happy to help you.. Also, you can go to the media too.. Just please stay safe and be careful.. hugsssssssss.. anytime u need to talk, please dont hesitate to pm me

Call the Domestic Violence Center. They have court advocates for women who have been abused. How is he getting out? On O.R.? You can write a letter to the judge and ask the bailif to hand it to him and write him about what happened and that you fear for your life. He may decide to up his bail and/or keep him locked up. If he violates the restraining order, call 911 immediately and he will be taken back to jail. Ask the Domestic Violence Center about getting into a womens shelter if he's released. That way he can't find you at all. Reach out and get all the help you can. There are a lot of people and advocates out there very willing to help you if you call them. Best wishes to you. :)

Damn Girl, I feel so sorry for you! If you have a cell phone, get another one! If you have a plan, it is only like 10 extra bucks a month.
If you feel that threatened, Move. Don't contact anyone that he knows, try to hide! Good luck..