My husband and I had a fight about five months ago and I locked him up. I don't know if that was the right choice being that this has never happened before. we just had lost our baby the day before and we were at each others throats for the entire weekend. I guess the fight was just the ass end of it all. However now that he 's lock down I fill so bad like if I wasn't upset would I have made that choice, and the fact that I miss the hell out of him makes me fill even worst. We still talk, you know, the relationship is not over but how do we pick up the pieces from here and how do I know that it's not gonna happen again:confused:

Please dont feel bad that he hurt you...you didnt hurt him....most of the time it gets worse each time...so you did the right thing by taking care of it the first go round...i would suggest getting invovled in a support group in your area and surround yourself with positve people and take care of your self at this point. On most DV cases the men only stay for a few days...if he's been thier for 5 months it had to be something worth 5+ months of his time...will it happen again...there is no way of telling. Educate your self and keep your head up. You found the right place for support...PTO is here for you. You did the right thing...

Thanks mandy!!!

He's been there for five months but they gave him a year. He says he has alot of time to think but but like you said it's no way of telling if time to think is gonna change his actions.

Sounds like it's not a typical DV case at all. If it's never happened before, and considering the immense stress of losing a baby, I'd say that you probably don't have a dangerous future to look forward to. On the other hand, you haven't been particularly specific about the reasons he's been down before. If he's not getting a grip on the way NOT to go back, then this is what you will keep living. Which is really hard.
Good luck

the only thing I can tell you hun is when he dose get out and if you take him but remeber the signs that lead up to the first time...have a plan ready...I was in a very bad reletionship...I am still with him but we are seperated...he is working on himself and i am working on me...he is changing but so am I i needed to set up boundries for him as well as myself
I am not saying leave him but he dose need to want to change and jail dosen't always do that...he needs to want to change for himself
Amber