Hey all...many have still not ventured in here yet and I'm starting to believe folks are lost! :D

How are things going?

400 minutes this month...extra time! Always starts out the month on a good note!

Got my call last night. Loving the extra time these next couple months. No more talk about transfers at this point, but did get our little aussie on his visit list. Hope we can go tomorrow to see him, see goes home Saturday afternoon.

Its tomorrow...did you both get to go visit?

I miss Terre Haute! :D I really enjoy it out there...not that I do much in town. Even the people, I dig'em! :p Maybe will be back...maybe not!

Didn't get the visit this week. I'm heading out for a 3 day weekend on Thursday evening. A is getting antsy and ready for a visit, just calling and wanting to know why I haven't written, where are his pictures, etc....

There you go...there is always next weekend! You'll get to spend more time out there with A! Hope your aussie friend made it home safely.

He called and told me last night that he can't have a visit on Friday because he's going to accounting class!! He must have decided he really likes it or something, last week he hated it. Oh well, 2 day weekend it is!!

The staff can't give me a straight answer about Thanksgiving day. I'm leaving next Wednesday for a 4 day Terre Haute vacation and I'd like to know if I need to wake up early Thursday or not. A just complains that he'll miss his Turkey. They have Turkey and Cheese Lunchables in the vending machines, so what is he complaining about?

It should be visiting on Thanksgiving...one would think!
I can see A being a little stretched over missing out on the big turkey day! Lunchables...well, close enough but it doesn't come with mashed tators & gravy! You'll have to find something you can mush-up...and give it as a side! lmao!

Hope you have a great 4 day visit!

Good Morning (Friday Morning)

HOLY BUCKETS, I didn't even know ya'll were here. It's been THAT busy....and absolutely CRAZY as well. I sure missed everybody.

Yup...... gonna mash up the lunchables .......lol..... not THAT is funny

J wrote Sunday night......he's still at the USP. As of this very moment the bop.gov indicator is still showing him as THERE.

Life here is never dull....... the X-husband had his day in court on Monday....it was moved up from the 22nd/23 to last Monday. Had to cancel all plans. It was a fiasco but also worked. SURELY HE'D STAY AWAY I thought. I came home last night to find two empty suitcases that I had filled with his clothes when he moved..... ~~~ That would not have been so bad.....BUT he decided to partially fill one of them with inappropriate things which I can't talk about here. :( I must make a decision whether to call the probation office or not...... I wish he'd just leave me alone. He has a year probation which is cool....BUT 5 years suspended prison sentence. This is getting crazy.....I'm getting very depressed.

On top of that...also last Monday..... a VERY VERY GOOD FRIEND of 40 YEARS walked out his door at 6:15am to go to work. It seems a PRO shot his face off and also in the chest. The wake is today in a suburb of Chicago. If anybody has extra prayers......can you please say them for him, his wife, kids and a family. ~~~~ He (Gerry) was also my brother's best friend.

Since I'm not Mary Sunshine today..... I'll leave for the moment.....but I have ticked the IMMEDIATE NOTIFICATION button. I hope it works for me this time.

Best of luck to all of you......... Rott..... maybe you can wait till after lunch for the visit on THAT day.....he can have the best of both worlds.

Love Ya'All,

Doni

Hi all.

Just thought i'd check in, since it's been awhile. All is well here, as good as it can be i suppose. The holiday's are coming up, as we all know, and of they always bring up feelings. Good feelings from holidays past and sad feelings of present and future. I suppose it being 5+ years so far, i am getting somewhat used to it.

I keep focused on the kids and making it as special as possible for them, indulging us in all the holiday activities that our neighborhood has to offer. Cooking, baking, wrapping presents, etc. I find that getting involved in some type of community service over the holidays helps in keeping us all more focused on what we've got, instead of what or whom we've lost. Not to mention all the wonderful things service teaches us and our children.

It's my hope that in practicing compassion, generosity and service, my children will take the higher road in life, making good choices instead of life-altering bad ones. I love my husband, but let's face it - the choices he has made SUCK!!!! But hopefully, we live and learn.

It's my hope for all of you that your holidays are filled with love.

~Lauren

Sending you, your family, loved ones and all whom you touch during this season (and always) very special hugs. Yes, his choices "sucked" and you are doing a wonderful job of keeping everything real Lauren. I hope you can be proud and happy.......and find some peace in that!

Blessings.....and DO check in often....... I keep losing the thread but want to be here. We need each other......we all understand each other.

Doni........xoxo

Hey...check it out, we have company Rottn! :D

tyvm...did you ever hear from J? I forgot to ask the last call but I will if you still want me to. Its crazy it takes so long (so it seems) to move...well, a hop-skip and a jump! But...patience! He'll get out! Sorry to hear of your friend. And about the x factor...personally from what you have shared with us...yes, I would without a second thought contact the po. You've done enough to help him out, why continue to live with it all constantly affecting you and your life in such a negative way?

venice...good to see ya gal! We can only make the best of the given situation and with you, no sense in dwelling on the negatives of it all! Turn it all into something positive and all who have been touched will take the good from it! Unbelievable to some that there is good that can come from all this...but its true! May you and your family have a very blessed holiday season!

Hi Girlz,

Yes, I've heard by letter from J. He's still there at the USP. Go figure. Hurry up and wait. ~~~ He's still VERY disappointed but accepting that the big move is across the street. Then again, this could be much worse...it could be across the country. Thank goodness for small blessings. ~~~ His letters have been very introspective and very sweet. Not sticky sweet...but genuine. That's a big blessing. We're both pretty torn up that he won't be close to home. ~~~ I hope he can ask again at his next 6-month team meeting.... maybe they'll LET him come close to home. ~~~~ On an upnote, I won his daughter another small prize. The same child.... lucky duck.

About the X...... yes I did speak w/ the PO today. I understand I was *supposed* to call the police...I just can't do that anymore. It's not phasing him. He was supposed to have his first face-to-face w/ the PO today...AFTER eviction court. I requested the PO to please imprint in his brain that NO CONTACT does not mean contact when he feels necessary.

His PO was less than happy about all of this.... and seemed glad that I would speak freely (as possible) to him. The last I heard from the PO was that he was considering revoking him. How in the HE** does one manage to go through a hearing and sentencing......getting specific orders from the judge late Monday morning....out of jail at 1pm that day.... show up where I'm at on a small coffee date (yup, truly feel it was an accident)... and then do something so blindly STUPID that he could be revoked before his very first PO meeting on Friday? This is beyond me.

I did phone to find out the disposition at 4:45 thinking they were open until 5pm like all the other official bldgs.......nope they closed at 4:30. LOL it figures. CCAP (public access) is not showing any updates.

Thanks also for asking about my friend. 40 years..... and all are still friends. I'm farthest away.... the others are still close by for the most part. He was also my brother's best friend. Everybody is so sad and shaken up. The police have gone through everything...even business and personal finances......nada. He's as clean as they come. After yesterday's report of an intentional "hit" I couldnt bear to read anymore....as I knew the 'fake-wake' was today. The real thing will come when the body is released....family and close friends only I understand. I'll be there --- whenever it is.

Ok..... I'm off to bed. G'night ya'll. Sweet dreams.

Blessings,

Doni
Sorry to be a downer.

Since we have been scattered about for the past month, I'll put out a little update on whats happening with us!
Late October, he had team where his points were in fact lowered to a medium level. His papers were submitted by the end of October for a redesignation transfer. Last week he found out that Grand Praire had approved the transfer but has not yet designated him to a specific location.
With the holidays upon us....knowing that certain transfers often during this time slow down to almost a halt we are not expecting an actual move until after the first of the year. So...hopefully we will know where he is going shortly! We remain hopeful no matter what happens but would love to have a closer location once again, who wouldn't. I would love to start bouncing once Spring comes back around... :D

Well Kin....... I'll be one to send my best wishes and thoughts to a speedy and close designation for your fella. Ya'll DESERVE this....and I surely hope the BOP has a heart to see how much your guy as grown...and *rewards* him with a very suitable desigation.

Blessings,

Doni

Hi ladies..

All is well with me. I see that everyone else is doing tolerably well. I plan on going to TH the Saturday after Thanksgiving. My Mom has been in the hospital since Sept. and I haven't visited since then.

In case I don't post before Thursday.. Happy Thanksgiving everyone!!!

Can I tell you all...I am in tears! Tears of joy! Unbelievable...I just called his mother and her and her entire table full of guest joined me in tears! :D

We will be departing Terre Haute....he has now been designated to Fairton! And this news coming on Thanksgiving Day...is truely a total blessing!

I do hope that each and everyone of you had a marvelous day!

Hmmmm, I'm not getting my updates again, even though I'm subscribed. Hmmphhfff

Ms. Nichols...... happy traveling. I also hope you get to see your Mom soon.

Kin....... I'm glad you've shared your news. I couldn't be more delighted for you and your guy if I tried. Truly a day of giving thanks. I do hope the transfer is a quick one. Ohhh wouldn't that be sweet! I won't hold my breath...but will say prayers for a Christmas visit at Fairton!

Blessings,

Doni

Hope visits went well for both Rottn and mrsnichols!

I actually took a ride yesterday and ended up stuck in some serious left over traffic from those traveling back home from a long Thanksgiving holiday weekend! Wow...what a mess! But the good news is, after making a few wrong turns, I did end up finding the spot I hope to be visiting in the near future.

Back to the grind...it's just another Manic Monday! :D Happy Monday all!

I wonder how long in REAL traffic it will take you? May your travel be short and visit long.

You have your "manic" Monday.... I'm having a migraine Monday. lol

Hugs Kin,

Doni
BOP.GOV still sas J is in the USP

Visits were ok. I went to the Jiffy Lube and got an oil change and on the way home, I lost all my oil. I had to get a tow for 163 miles and it took me 8 hours to finally get home. Now all I have to do is get the car to a Cadillac dealer and prove they screwed up. Oh Joy!!

Good news kin..........

Hope you feel better Doni.

1 1/2 hours Doni! 1 1/2 hours! :D Can you tell...I don't mind driving at all like that! Thats a do-able day trip with no problem what-so-ever! It just feels more comfortable...like Rottn's problem she mentioned...if something were to happen, I am in range for 'known' assistance. I worry more traveling out to places like TH on the 'what if's'.

Rottn...that sucks!

Rott........any luck? How in the world did you get HOME? Ride with the tow truck person? Geesh girl..... I'm really sorry.

Kin..... 1.5 hours.....OMG. Beautiful. If J had been transferred to Ox - that's what I'd be traveling. He's still in the USP though.....and as you know going to FCI whenever they get him sent. ~~~ I'm still so very happy for you..... the best Thanksgiving gift....... I wonder what miracle will happen for you/him for Christmas?

Blessings,

Doni

Doni...slow down! I am counting this as my Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years...etc blessing! It don't happen like that to me! :D

Doni,
The tow truck driver was nice enough to give me a ride home too. He did take me on a scenic trip throughout Central Indiana so he could finish his other calls before taking me home. At least I didn't end up on the highway waiting for him.

LOL @ Kin........who do you think yo' talkin at? lolololol I do NOT slow down. I am going to play the optimist and pray for a Christmas MIRACLE for you.....that your guy is in his new home, safe and as snug as a bug by Christmas......New Years at the latest (and don't give me any of the glass 1/2 empty stuff....hehe DONI SAYS SO). J/K w/ you.

Rott..... my goodness.....what this guy running one of those huge trucks that are like a double decker bus? He had other stops to make? ~~~ Either way..... you got lucky girl.....real lucky. No to get your dealership to verify J.L. made the mistake.... whew.... you may/may not have your work cut out for you. Pls. ask them to make sure this didn't damage the motor in any way....IF they can tell.

Take care all......

Doni

:D..you go girl! Sounding good again!
It would be beautiful to have him close for Christmas but hearing that J is still in the USP...it almost sounds like they don't want to move folks out! Unbelievable! Let me top your glass off!

Let's all do the transfer dance for kin!!!
:dance: :yay: :dance: :yay:

We are sitting still waiting...patients, that we have, waiting for the 'softer pastures'!

tyvm is feeling the migraine again tonight and asked me to pass along some information on her and J's move.

He was moved to the FCI TH on Thursday. Considering they found out about his designation on/about Oct 26, it took right about a month for his 'big' move across the street.

If you have any extra positive energy...send it their way!