Hello, let me start first by telling you briefly everything. i met my boyfriend while he's been incarcerated in june 06'. i went and seen him every weekend in june and july i went once in aug. because his ex wife decided she was bringing his kids the other three weekends. i went to see him once in september because she decided to bring his kids all the other weekends and i didn't get to go see him in oct. because of her bringing the kids every weekend. he told me that he told her about me and she got pissed that he was with me and she told him if she ever comes to visitation and im there she will never bring the kids to see him again. about a month ago i got a letter from him saying that he has a review in november and if his level drops then he may get to be moved to caroline camp 2 which is like 10 minutes from me and he says that his ex won't travel that far to bring the kids so i can have every weekend back again. well last week i got a letter telling me that he is gonna start telling his ex to start skipping a weekend here and there and he wants to know if i will come see him if he does that. he hasn't given me no reason not to believe him but i just think the whole situation is wierd, can anyone let me know what they think and if they think i should go see him and just wait this out??? thanks

I don't know exactly what to tell you. I, myself, would be on the defense automatcally since this is a MWI relationship. Only you know him well enough to guess his intentions, we don't. How long has he been seperated or divorced from his ex? How old are the children? I do understand the strong need to keep his relationship with his children top priority, but there should be a way to keep his relationship with you a priority also. Did you know him at all before he was incarcerated? There are all sort of horror stories out there concerning MWI relationships, I pray this one is not, but you should be aware of them. Try not to blind yourself to the red flags that might pop up. Do you know his family? If so then they are the ones that can help ease your mind with yours and his relationship. If you don't, then ask him to take the incentive to introduce you into their lives. I know this isn't much advice, hopefully others will come by and chime in with theirs. I wish you the best of luck!