I haven't been to the board much at all lately and you guys have made a lot of new things on here like this one most of all the other support groups have their loved ones coming home soon I will never have that oppurtunity and that is the hardest reality to face my dad has 2 lifes plus 40 and all appeals are ran out I always wondered how anyone else dealt with this I feel so alone on most of the boards because they have a day to look forward too and me I have oblivion

udevilish,

I can understand your feelings, my niece has life plus 50 years. She may never come home to me.

Please, remember that though our loved ones may never come home, well, I guess, I hope and pray for a change in the law and one day I will be able to go to pick up Holly. The chance is small, but it is there.

For seven years my niece refused to write me - for seven years I kept writing trying to get her to respond - everyone told me that I was wasting my time, that she would never write. For seven years I continued to ignore the ones who said I had little or no chance of hearing from her.

Thursday before last - those people were proved wrong, I opened the mail box and there it was - what I had been praying for - for seven years - a letter from Holly.

Though the chance is small, Hon, all we have, is the hope that some day, some how, they will come home and we will have them again.

Every night for the last week I have dreamt of the good times with her. Sitting at the kitchen table, talking girl talk, like we used to do before the bad times. I hang on to that hope with every once of strength, that maybe, someday, she and I will do that again.

We have hope, never oblivion, only oblivion if we give up hope.

God Bless,

Patti

Oh Sweetone, I feel for you. My Daddy was my most favorite person in the whole wide world. I hope some one will be here soon to help you look at what you can share with your father right now and forever. I know that he has you to love him in any way that you can. You need comfort also. God Bless You and Your Daddy.

HONEY

I don't know anything profound to say that will get you over this but, I can tell you that you are in no way alone ... we are here for you, as family, to help you through the rough and lonely times ... prayers and hugs, sweetie ...

Patti, what do you think made her finally respond to your letters? How is she doing and dealing with it all?
Udevilish, hang in girl. Your Dad may have some suggestions for you and how to cope. Ask him to help you if you can.

JJH,

I'm not really sure, to tell you the truth - she was 16 when she went it, she is 23 now. I think maybe growing up, she blamed the way I raised her for along time, why I dont know, I did not deal with her any differently than my children.

But, she asked if we could start over, she never had ask for that, I will always be there for her.

She is having it pretty rough right now, because alot of the family that she was in contact with has abandoned her. Something that I will never do.

Patti

I know that it has been said before but our kids always want to blame the ones that love them the most...because they can. You are awsome and she is lucky to have your for her rock.

Thank you,

God Bless,

Patti

Udevilish, there is not one thing I can say to encourage and help you and that frustrates me. You are only 24 and that's a hard burden to live with. Whoever said it is right, you are not alone. I hope you are close enough to the prison to be able to see your father.

Patti, I rejoice with you for Holly's turning to you. It was your unconditional love that got through to her.

Udevilish, ......... sorry. I've been sitting here for the last 10 minutes staring off into space crying for you. Can't write at this time. Need to finish crying.

Undevilish,

i am sorry about what you are going through. We will be with you every step of the way.

Patti,

I did not know the story of Holly..I assumed she did not write because of your past..this sheds such light..what a miracle!! it just shows what perserverence does.

thank you guys for responding and caring so much LadyDi I live about 2500 miles from my dad I have seen him once since 9-94 that was feb of this year I miss him so very much and that is so long to have to wait i mean parole is in 2234 I mean come on my life is messed up enough but people are always adding to it I wish I could just run screaming off the end of a very high pier somedays but since I have people like you guys I am able to manage most days thanks again guys and as always best of luck to you in all your endeavors
crystal

Holy cow that's far :( I would write as much as you can and take one day at a time and come here to vent when you need too. I too am happy to see this forum! Its hard for me to see all these cool counters,I want one!!! But with no real "out date" :confused: My bf does have a chance in 3508 days :rolleyes: and I am very hopeful for then or sooner if any laws change!:D

Hi Crystal,

My youngest daughter is a Crystal, too, and she'd give anything to have her dad back, even if it meant he was in prison. Her dad died three years ago. I say this not to belittle your pain or make you feel bad, but just to help you to maybe see this from a different point of view that isn't so bleak so you can see a more positive side. At least you can write or call your dad, maybe take phone calls from him and maybe sometimes visit him. That's far more than if he were dead. Try to stay strong, dear, and I'll keep you in my prayers.

Hugs!
Ellen