Okay, here's the skinny. I saw him. He saw our baby girl. He told me about a week before I went to visit about corresponding with his friend Kelly (the only reason it came up was questions I asked due to finding her name on several things). When I visited, I made him tell me the truth. He had a relationship with her for 3 or 4 months while I was home pregnant waiting on him, thinking he needed me to be strong for him, right before he got locked up. He claims that he won't write her anymore. I don't feel that this is true. I feel like he intends to continue to write her. There is no way to find out who he writes, is there? I am stuck being suspicious with no way of confirming nor denying. Any advice offered will be considered as a good thing. Thank you.

Hi,
I am so sorry for you and your daughter, I am not for sure if there is a way to find out who he writes to or who he calls. I know they have to put on a list who they call and it has to be logged each time they call, and there is a list of who they write to and who can write to them, you might call the counselor there ,and they might be able to give you the names but not for sure if they will or can or not. I will keep you and your daughter in my thoughts and prayers

Follow your gut. I wouldn't call the counselor they have other things to tend to than to get stuck in the middle of such affairs. My grandmother always said, if you have to ask, you already know the answer. Good luck.

My son is at lejeune and is a single man. He did tell me that married men at the lejeune brig are not allowed to have female visitors unless it is the wife or family (mom, sis, daughter, etc. ) I don't know if this stands true for mail and phone calls. I would go with what angelica said. My husband did the same thing to me many years ago, I never found out why nor do I really want to know the details anymore. We are still together and he is a better man for it so If you think he is worthy of a second chance, this is something to concider.
Feeling your pain,
Mombert

Armywife,
Because of the Privacy Act, the facility cannot give you the information you want. Unless your husband is in some type of heightened security, it is doubtful they keep a list of persons with whom he corresponds. I am glad you and your baby daughter visited and I'm sorry you're going through difficult times. It is so hard when you can't communicate directly. I hope things work out for you. Keep the faith.
~Lisa.

If he can't be true to you now than what is he going to be like when he comes home? I would make it clear to him that if you find out he is writing to her that you will be through with him! That's my two cents on the subject! As you and his daughter should come first period! Good luck to you and God Bless!
~Cathy~