I knew alot of white girls who would only date blk men becasue there daddy didnt like it. i hated that because they were just using them and when ever daddy gave them what they wanted they would drop the guy like a hot potato. As a woman who has been with a blk man since I was 11. I see it as disrespectful making the ones who arent out there to use anyone we a labeled as that.:angry:

Yeah that is messed up how people can be so fake. I would never break up w/ my man b/c my dad was going to give me something. I'm sure my dad wishes I was one of those girls who would leave "the black boys" alone but I don't plan on it. I'm perfectly happy where I am. I love my man and I don't care what anybody has to say about it.

my father actually disowned me b/c i wouldn't stop dating my boyfriend at the time that was black...he offered to buy a car when i was 15 and i turned it down :) i don't regret my decision and still have not spoken to my father since i was 15 and i'm 26 now. but i don't date black men to just be different or rebellious. i do happen to be married to a black man and i don't need anybody's approval.

I'll give you a completely different twist...when I was 16 I started dating a black man (boy, really). My dad did everything he could to learn to accept it. He struggled with his history and asssumptions and he educated himself, and came to just see him as a person.

What happened to people making decisions for their own lives- My parents wouldn't even try to tell me who to date~ but I never would have listened anyway ;) Course if they wanted to give me a car I could take it too hehehe :p sad world really when people are that shallow.

I happenned to be raised in an all black area , we moved later and I still went back to the hood to hang out , I dont discriminate , just ya tend to deal with folks ya have thinkgs in common with , lmao I work with all men & none of the wives worry bout me , they tell em , she don't do white men , lol
I do ... what works for me !!
as far as my parents , as long as I am happy and treated well (( RIP to mommy & daddy )) they didn't really care !!

its not that you discriminate its just i have seen alot of white girls date other races or kinds of men daddy wouldnt like because they know daddy would get mad. I was also raised in an all blk neighborhood i am mixed even though i dont look like it. I just know that these white girls that be just going out with blk men just to use them are giving us a bad name that dont use who we are witha nd we really do love them and would do anything for them.

I, honestly, was really suprised that my dad and my grandma took the "news" that I was dating a black man very well. I've dated other black men, but I've never brought any of them home to meet the fam because none of them were ever that serious. My family is more openminded than I gave them credit for and I'm thankful for that. I'm sure that they would rather see me with a white guy, but as long as I'm happy and treats me and my daughter like he should, they can deal. I thank God for them everyday.

Yeah I mean i never had the problem for one i am mixed so it wasnt a issue i dated blk men. well only dated one my whole life he is my everything. I mean i knwo yall know em the white girls that girl other girls bad names that be using blk men to gett daddy mad

My grandmother is Native American. She told me that she dated and married my grandfather to please her parents. (PeePo was black). My mother married a black man and produced me.

Love should be blind and uncontrolled by others than those involved in the relationship. If you date someone just to make someone else mad then you are selfish and thoughtless..

Its good to see that there are alot who think for themselves and concern themselves more about what is in their heart than how others will perceive them while out.

I went to a college that was almost all white (I'm black) and I was astounded at how many of the young women were anxious to date one of the few black men on campus. It was weird. There were quite a few pissed off parents coming up there.

How funny. We (Black) grew up in a mostly white mini-city, I ended up going to a HBCU (loved it), my sister went to an pretty evenly mixed college, and now she's in Japan married to a white guy. Funny stuff, huh? We had a lot of the white girl/Black guy relationships, and at the time I hated it... But I've grown up (30 now) and could care less who you love, as long as you don't think it's my man, LOL!!! Who was with a white girl right before me... But I think it's sad that people get involved and emotions caught up for any other reason but love...

There was this guy at my school (a predominately white upper middle class prep school) and he used to only date black girls to piss off mommy and daddy. I used to think that it was funny but now looking back on it I think he had some serious identity issues. He used the N word like it was his first name. I know he went away to school and had a baby by a black girl.

Me, my dad is a black man and I think that the timeI brought home a Samoan it kind of ticked him off like Brothers weren't good enough for me, but in realityhe thought I should be with a man wh had never been to jail, had no kids and a job.

i've never used dating or a relationship of mine as a way to get back at my parents or anyone else. along the same lines, i've never dated a guy because he was or was not a certain color or race. i do date men who find attractive, funny, smart, etc. but race has never been a factor at all.

the good thing is, even though i was raised white middle/upper class, my parents have never had any say on who i date. when i bring a guy home, they do their best to get to know him before making any judgements based on race, income, education, and past. lord knows i've brought home some guys that most parents wouldn't have even let in the door, like when i was 17 and my boyfriend had tattoos over his entire upper body, piercings everywhere, and neon hair! my parents got to know him and ended up loving him! they both respect me enough to know that any guy i'm with must be a good one for me to have chosen him. :thumbsup:

I have never dated a black man or no other man b/c my father didnt want me to. thats just disrespectful to a man period. As I thought about it I have never knew anyone that has done that neither.

I love my man with all honesty. If anyone has a problem with it. I wouldn't care . There not making me or breaking me. My dad accepts it and my mother stands behind me 100%. They know I love my man, and if I'm happy thats all that matters.

My dad once told me it's not the color of someone skin. It's how they treat you. I'm ridin with that

That's horrible to do to a man. When I first started dating Jamal, my father disapproved and thought I was just doing it to get him angry. When he saw we were a serious couple then he started respecting him. He loves Jamal too and we both think he is innocent of the crimes he is serving time for.

NO! ~~~And I found that question to be nauseating, sweetme! This, and many of your other posts/threads are just inciting a race war on PTO. If you are lookin' to get your Daddy to get after you, or hear from others' whose Daddie's are mad at them, isn't there a more appropriate site to address that race card toward? I'm not buying into it again. Oh, my bad, we supposed to respect that 'cause you been with a Black Man since you was 11?!? (or did you say "blk"?) BTW... my Daddy is deceased ( if that's important) and he wouldn't roll in his grave over my soulmate. PEACE!

I myself bein a black man have dated nothing but white women! And have found that some women have rebeled against their fathers. I once dated a girl when I was down in Georgia and her father wouldnt even let me in the house! Maybe it is more of rebel thing!

I myself bein a black man have dated nothing but white women! And have found that some women have rebeled against their fathers. I once dated a girl when I was down in Georgia and her father wouldnt even let me in the house! Maybe it is more of rebel thing!

Whats the matter Buck you dont like black womens?

OK you play around but why no black?

To do such a thing would be so unbelievably immature. Don't people have better things to do with their lives?

My father has been dead since 1982 and I was always told that if he knew he would be rolling in his grave. I was 7 years old when he died and only knew him a year before his death. I think my daughter's father would be quite upset if my daughter dated a black man and knowing him he would tell me it's my fault that she isn't with her own race. He thinks that I keep her away from white people anyways because most of my friends, my girlfriends are black and my daughter tends to play with their children. Of course I don't tell her that I expect her to date black men because I do. I would want her to be happy with who ever makes her happy and is good to her.

First let me say that women (not all) play games to get what the want. Hell men do it too, but to play the race card to get something is not only disrespectful but shameful too. I hope someone comes at me doing this stupid Sh!T I will have to take matters into my own hands. But I was 11 when I first started dating my first black man. And my dad who thought he was Hitler reincarnated hated it. I wouldn't leave, unfortuantely things didn't turn out good for us. My father raised a very opinionated, stubborn child who is very capable of holding her ground and fighting for what she wants. He lost, it was too much for him to handle and he ended up committing suicide, but don't get me wrong he tried everything else first, grounding me, threatening to have my man locked up for statutory rape, called his mother, everything. But I dont' always fight fair and I had something against dear old dad, he couldn't do the time for his crimes so he took the chickens way out of the situation. Now I always thought that the rest of my family was okay with me being with a black man. At 16 I ended my relationship with that particular black man and soon after got into a relationship with someone else who just happened to be white. So the race issue didn't come up again until I was 22. When I married a black man and nobody from my family showed up. I mean nobody! My family still doesn't talk to me and that is fine. I have his family and their racists @$$e$ don't have any contact with their grandchildren, ect. They are the ones who are suffering not me. I am not married to that black man anymore 10 years was all I could handle, but I am engaged to another black man and his family has accepted me too. If you are willing to walk away from your man regardless of what color his skin happens to be then you never really cared for him to begin with and to me that makes you a pussy and someone with little character and no morals or values to speak of. People like you (if this is you) should be taken to a dark alley and dealt with accordingly IMO.

when i was in jr.high my dad always told me i don't care who you date but don't you ever bring home a black man i was so young i use to think i should bring one home but as i got older i never thought about i guess it was easy not to seeing we lived in a small town with only one black couple and they where elderly but when i was 22 and had kids and had broke off a 7 yr relationship with my kids dad we had moved into a big town and it wasn't but a year later i net my now husband and he was black but when i met him i didn't see the color of his skin i seen a sweet sexy man that made me laugh and loved my kids and my kids loved and i was so scared to tell my dad about him it just played over and over in my mind what my dad had said to me when i was younger and i hide our relationship for about 6 or 8 mnths intill one night my dad popped up at my apt. and my husband was there i was shaking i was so scared and i told dad this is my friend and i knew by the look on my dad's face he knew we was more than just friends and my dad let it be know i was his baby and i better not get hurt and it took my dad sometime to come around with the idea i was with a black man but just as he was cool with it and we all was doing family things together my husband messed it up he cheated on me and then went back to prision for the 2nd time now my dad doesn't have a nice word for him

First let me say that women (not all) play games to get what the want. Hell men do it too, but to play the race card to get something is not only disrespectful but shameful too. I hope someone comes at me doing this stupid Sh!T I will have to take matters into my own hands. But I was 11 when I first started dating my first black man. And my dad who thought he was Hitler reincarnated hated it. I wouldn't leave, unfortuantely things didn't turn out good for us. My father raised a very opinionated, stubborn child who is very capable of holding her ground and fighting for what she wants. He lost, it was too much for him to handle and he ended up committing suicide, but don't get me wrong he tried everything else first, grounding me, threatening to have my man locked up for statutory rape, called his mother, everything. But I dont' always fight fair and I had something against dear old dad, he couldn't do the time for his crimes so he took the chickens way out of the situation. Now I always thought that the rest of my family was okay with me being with a black man. At 16 I ended my relationship with that particular black man and soon after got into a relationship with someone else who just happened to be white. So the race issue didn't come up again until I was 22. When I married a black man and nobody from my family showed up. I mean nobody! My family still doesn't talk to me and that is fine. I have his family and their racists @$$e$ don't have any contact with their grandchildren, ect. They are the ones who are suffering not me. I am not married to that black man anymore 10 years was all I could handle, but I am engaged to another black man and his family has accepted me too. If you are willing to walk away from your man regardless of what color his skin happens to be then you never really cared for him to begin with and to me that makes you a pussy and someone with little character and no morals or values to speak of. People like you (if this is you) should be taken to a dark alley and dealt with accordingly IMO.
I have to admit that I have never dated a black man because my father (and mother) raised me and encouraged me to stay within our own race and ethnic values. I don't have anything against another for their skin color, religion or beliefs but I would never go against my father because of the respect, love and beliefs he has taught me.
So I don't know how I feel about your statement "people like you should be taken to a dark alley and dealt with accordingly" :confused: I believe it is everyones own choice to deal with/or date someone out of their own race just as its my choice to stay with my own. sokie

I really don't understand why someone would date a guy of a different race simply because their dad didn't want them to? I learned at an early age of dating that my parents weren't going to like ANYONE I dated..apparently nobody was good enough for me...so I quit caring what they thought about who I was with. It's my life and I want to live it how I want...even today at 25, when I don't even have my parents comment on my guy..I still have to hear crap about it from GROWN ADULTS WITH KIDS about the color of my boyfriends skin....

It's a shame that in 2007 we're still playing this stupid racism game. People are people...regardless of color, background, money, whatever you wanna throw in there...can't we all just get along?!?!

No i haven't
Nor have i heard of anyone do this

My son wife is mixed black/thai. We are Hispanic. When he told me he wanted to marry her I said to him. Whom you choose to love and marry.
I will accept and love just the same. My father was against this. I told him
if you love me, you have a choice to be part of "our" family. Well my Father became very close to my son and his wife after. (my Father passed away in Dec 2006). But I'm glad he did not take it to his grave. He learned that we are not different. And we are equally in God's eyes.

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